How do I carry on with my life?

Question

I'm 54, male, live alone, no kids. My life is mess and sometimes I think about giving it up. But I got to knw a boy who´s now 15. His family situation is kinda bad, his mom died when he was 2 yo and he lives with a friend of mine who he calls mom. Fr about a year I've helped this kid as I can. I became a kind of father fgure to him. Now there's a link beteween us, I worry about the boy, he's part f my life.Some days ago he was really down and I told him life is a gift from God, things will get better, he's not alone in his teen years, etc. A lot of things I myself don't belive at age 54
This boy has been a wondeful experience for a man who couldnt have kids, but I was on the verge of taking my own life. I'm still a very depressed man. If I take my life, how will this impact the boy? I dont understand why God put this boy in the life of a troubled man like me.

Answer 1

So you told him that life was a gift from God, but you struggle to believe it? That's interesting. Now this is not meant to hurt you, but please consider the following: Is it possible that some people are lonely because they have been too afraid and/or selfish to share themselves? Isn't it possible that you have within you the power to alter your own future? Is it fair for you to develop a relationship with a young impressionable boy if you have no plans to make changes that will un-"mess" your life and set an example for him to follow? And the answer to your question is simple enough. "why God put this boy in (my) life," you just don't want to hear the answer. But here it is anyway; God put the boy in your life because it's time for you to grow up and be a teacher. You're 54yr olds, not a baby, and you can show this child a map of how you got where you are. In addition to showing him that map, you can also show him the light at the end of the tunnel, but that means you now have to stand up on your hind legs and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have responsibility to another person now and what you do matters. Get some help, go to church, go to the doctor (I always, always tell folks to get anti-depressants because in many cases they work miracles!) and do something about the mess(es) you've made. You're at your mid-point in life now, make the rest of it count for something. The only time it's tooo late for a change is when you are dead.

Answer 2

There's a good chance that God brought this boy into your life precisely to give you Purpose.

Taking your life would no doubt crush this young man and stay with him for life; now you know what it's like to be a Parent - to feel the obligation to live well and prosper not for your sake, but the sake of someone who looks to you for guidance, wisdom, companionship and love, like it or not.

You might feel like your life has no meaning. But now, it certainly does.

Put this young man in your will, go out into the world with him and do what most families do - have some fun!

Never too late for some tackle football at the park... ;-)

Dad of 3

Answer 3

Your problem buddy is that you've never found a use for yourself, never found a reason to die for yourself is what it comes down to really. We all comment suicide in our own way because we all die and we no matter what have a lot to do with that. Its up to you to decide how you want to. Our you going to do it constantly question your purpose in life or maybe you could find one (like the boy) and run with it, die that way. Just remember if you talk like this there is a lot of the world you most of denied yourself. Good place to start might be to read the first few chapters of Carl Jungs "Man and his Sysmbols" and get a different perception on things.

Answer 4

Well he is trying to tell you that there is more to life and doing yourself in will hurt this boy more. He is showing you that even though he is younger than you he has gone through a lot and losing another person in his life will lead him the way to your path. Just stick with him you both need each other, God has given you a kid to call yours and you should accept it as his plan. Your life is not over, not even for a long time. You are this boys life support.

Answer 5

Let me give you an example and please don't take offense...A 13 year old girl is at softball practice and her mother and aunt come up to the field and tell her that her uncle Magic had died. Now Magic was her favorite person in the whole world. He was single...no children...lived alone and I suppose lonely. The girl decided to stay at practice and have one of the other moms take her home *MISTAKE* 5 minutes later the girl is bawling her eyes out on the bench and has to be taken home. She gets home and her aunt is the one who tells her that her favorite person in the whole world took his own life. Cut to present...that 13 year old girl was me, I'm now 25 and not one day of my life goes by that I don't wish my uncle were here to see what I've become...to play with my children. So whatever your thinking about...think about that boy and how his life will be affected. Because, IT WILL BE AFFECTED! Talk to someone, hell hire someone to talk to!

Answer 6

Funny, I just posted a question for myself as I am at the end of my rope with life...

Maybe we can help eachother here... You are obviously worried about the boy and care about him a great deal. If you are like a father figure to him then he probably looks up to you. In that case, taking your own life will do a great harm to him. He already lost his biological mother, I am assuming he has no bio. father.
You don't want him to lose another person who care about him so much, do you?

Maybe there is a reason why he is in your life...

Answer 7

homicide (except mitigating circumstances) Rape Sexually abusing a new child besides the shown fact that the latter 2 only carry a 5-10 3 hundred and sixty 5 days sentence counting on the severity presently, that's certainly incorrect.

Answer 8

If you read your question back to yourself, you will have your answer. God works in mysterious ways.

Answer 9

open your eyes,this boy is saving your life,not the other way around.you should do something for him in return.