In the year 2000, I've dated my brothers friend, we only dated for 3 months and he broke up with me, I was devastated. He put me thru so much pain. I couldn't eat, sleep, I just couldn't function. It took time to heal to get over him. Now, six years later I recently received a phone call from him and he told me that he wants me back, and he wants to make it up to me, he told me that he misses me and thinks about me alot and comparing me to the other girls he had dated after me he said I was the best.
2006-08-22 09:11:24 · 51 answers · asked by Kit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone deserves a second chance.... but this is 6 years later!!!
If I was in your shoes and a girl did the same thing to me... I wouldnt give her a second chance.
If he has broke up with you once... it 'may' happen again... and I personally wouldnt want to go through that phase again!!!!
Move forward, not back... thats my opinion and that is what I would do!!!!
Only you can decide... so have a good think about it... but dont let it effect your eating, sleeping and anything else!!!!!
Good luck girl.... and whatever decision it is... I hope its the right one!!!
All the best
2006-08-22 09:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To date a man for three months and go through that hard of a breakup, then 6 years later!!!! he wants something to do with you is kinda fishy. Why after 6 years? Did he seem really upset after your breakup or did he just go on about his way? I don't think i would start a relationship with him, maybe go on a couple of dates and "feel" him out, don't invest so much of your emotions in him until you know he wants to invest in you. It wouldn't sound suspicious if it was 1-2 years, but 6 years is a really long time more so only after dating for only 3 months.
Good luck!!
2006-08-22 09:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by rebelgirl_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you have to ask yourself...why has it taken so long for this guy to come around. Did his last girlfriend dump him? Was he out of the country for 6 years? Was he in Prison? All things that make you want to question his scincerity. If he really missed you, he would have made an attempt to talk to you in the last six years. Tell him you want to be just friends and see what happens. If he disappears again then you will not have lost anything. If he wants to see you as just a friend then it might be worth pursuing.
2006-08-22 09:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by dpon62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, 6 freak-in years !!! Do not think about it. If it took him this much time to realize what he missed, that's his fault. Its pretty obvious that you are not over this situation. What kind of man would do this to a woman. I hate to say this but maybe the only reason he wants you back is because all the girl finally found out the kind of *** he is and he figured you would take him back. Don't. Better guys out there. Don't rush it and be patient. Good luck !!!:)
2006-08-22 09:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by nuclearhead79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask urself, did he dump u cause he wanted to go out and find better, and when he didnt he wants to come crawling back? Do u want to give him the power to turn u off and on? I bet u werent even thinking much about him, until he pushed his way back in ur life. does he think u dont have someone? does he think he can come back and forth when he wants to ? You deserve an explanation(a honest one) of why he broke up with u in the first place. He should know u werent just waiting around for him, and the best way to show him this is to decline his offer until he proves his loyalty to u first
PS responder rkrell is right on the money!!!
2006-08-22 09:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took him six years to contact you to tell you that he misses you, has thought about you and compared to other girls he dated, you were the best? Sounds like he needs a serious reality check. Why should he get another opportunity to hurt you? Move on. There's better out there.
2006-08-22 09:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by deedee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is what are you willing to take an what are you willing to let yourself go through is it worth it to you. Your time an emotions you have to want to give an if if it's not what you know or think will come of it then i would say it's not going to work because if it didn't work the first time it's not going to the second .Its going to take allot of work this time if your up for it an he is not into games then it might but not likely it's all in what you know an want out of it an if you think you will be happy then who should stop you from happiness
2006-08-22 09:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by jeffrey h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but F him because if he wanted u he would have stayed with u no dont give him another chance he should have kept u go find u someone new u shouldnt let him use u then let u go then decide 6 years later oh u are what u wants hell no i hate when men do that then when u all get back together what if he decide to leave again to go be with other girls then come back agian and say oh i miss u hellno leave him alone its olenty men in the world
2006-08-22 09:20:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, six years is a long time...He could have grown up and realized what a great girl you are and want to try something real...you know tired of all the games and stuff. He also could just be a chronic jerk...Does your brother still know him?? Ask him if he does...if not listen to your heart. If it feels right go for..."it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"
2006-08-22 09:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by GirlNextDoor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke your heart once , but 6 years ago. He has had time to grow up ( or so you hope ). I would give him another chance, but put your heart wall up with him. Take it slow and at your pace not his. Spend time getting to know eachother all over again, this means leaveing sex out of it, at least until he has become your best friend.
2006-08-22 09:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ann A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋