Ok...so it's been three weeks since my boyfriend and I have had sex. I really want him...But, I don't just want sex...I want a connection-romance, kissing, carressing, the whole shabang. Now, we had sex earlier today, but I wasn't satisfied at all...I just stood there, while he got his, and then he wonders why i'm upset. I even told him I wanted more than just a quick lay. He said, "it's not like you will have to wait another two weeks." THAT'S NOT THE POINT!!! We have been dating for over 2 years, and sometimes I just wish it could be like when we first met...that's asking for too much. What do I say to him? How do I make him understand???? Help please! I am soooo frusterated!!
2006-08-22 08:59:54 · 24 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did not change my appearance....actually lost a few lbs. and honestly, am looking my hottest right now...not bragging, just trying to get the truth. Seriously though, guys, why is he like this?
2006-08-22 09:08:43 · update #1
OK...Here's the weird part....our sex life is usually great! But, lately it seems like I want it more than he does? He is going through a lot of stress right now though. Do you think that could play a big role? He just wants release? What about me though? Am i being selfish?
2006-08-22 09:14:31 · update #2
I don't want to please myself...i just want to connect with my man. i want us to make love....i want to cry....what do i do?
2006-08-22 09:57:40 · update #3
dump him and call me
2006-08-22 09:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like things could be as simple as being too busy with life going on around him. In those early days, everything else gets put on the back burner for you. The infatuation can't last forever and it does not mean that you don't have chemistry. You are just finding yourself in a relationship that has gotten a little cold on the back burner and needs a little spark to warm things up a bit. After 2 years, you know what gets his engine going. Put on the stockings and garters or the lace teddy and make him his favorite meal. Sure you are just giving him more, but the heat you produce will warm you up too - if you do it right. And next time, don't let the fire between you get so low before doing something about it.
2006-08-22 16:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by ODrisk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress can play a big role in this kind of thing. And think about it: you're asking him to put on a performance for you! You said that earlier you just "stood there." Why? Did you really expect it to be all about you? Of course not! But if he's under a lot of stress, that's what it feels like. Maybe you need to take things into your own hands a little bit for now... maybe you need to take a little bit of responsibility for the planning and preparation that he normally does to make things good for you. Then as his stress lets up, he can take those things over again. Try it, you might be suprised how much work it is making yourself happy, and you don't have to guess at what it is that will do it like he does.
2006-08-22 16:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tough because my gf wanted the same thing. She wanted it to be like when she and i first met but things change and times change. I think you really need to sit him down and talk with him about what you want from the relationship. Ask him if he could do something romantic for you or if you two could have a special night that way you feel like your getting something out of the relationship. Feel free to email me cuz i went through the same thing except i was on the other side.
2006-08-22 16:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tease him. Tie his hands to the bedhead then spend an hour or two kissing, caressing, blowing on his skin, making him want it more and more, then let him feel how much better it is for him to get his after all that buildup.
If forced empathy doesn't do the trick, then I'm afraid you won't be able to. He may or may not come to realize later in life. Don't stick around to find out.
2006-08-22 16:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to remind him the same-things he did to get you will be the same things that will keep you. Now that the honeymoon is over we sometime for get the need of the one that we wanted so bad. AN the friendship an the closeness an the emotional ties we had we take for granted are the thing we need to get back to in order to keep the relationship healthy an strong. an that doesn't work you should always remember we always want the thing we can't have
2006-08-22 16:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by jeffrey h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly what you mean, Many guys dont understand crying is like the best during sex. My fiancee couldnt understand why I cried when we did it, I couldnt explain it is just this overwhelming emotional connection, anyway you should take control. Not force him just take it slow dont allow him to rush you, Guys forget how great it is to be in love and how nothing beats making love to someone you trust!
2006-08-23 14:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a really sel centered guy..and sadly the thing that is happening to you know happens to alot of girls...because guys can minipulate women into thinking they are this sweet loving guy when all they are doing is runnning game...I think you should definitely give a couple of chances but if he doesnt start responding to waht you need and what you want sometimes...maybe it is time to move on.
2006-08-22 16:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by rdbowles12390 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea in the beginning they are all like that. they love on you all the time! and as the relationship goes on they no longer care! well i havent been in ur situation but i have family members that have...i think after a while u no longer feel u have to do certain things...like parents no longer have sex cuz they just dont crave it as much or at least thats what they tel me they dont do ti nemore. but all that is beside the point. just talk to him. communication is key in every relationship. if he doesnt undrstand make him. tell him exactly how you feel. and if he cantr please you gurl then heck find someone that can!
2006-08-22 16:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by lizlatina69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you initiate the romance if you want that to be a part of your relationship? Have you ever heard that women aren't romantic, but they like to be romanced? It's true to a certain degree because women expect the man to be romantic but are hardly ever romantic themselves. Try to set up a standard by being the first one in the relationship to be romantic, and he will learn what kind of things you like to do.
2006-08-22 16:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women feel the exact same way as you do. Men are logical, and women are emotional. You need to take control of the tempo, but not to tease. Try a relaxing bath together, wine and experiment with oral pleasures
2006-08-22 16:10:25 · answer #11 · answered by jamie_brahan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋