He is getting picked on alot because he is a 'target', I dont feel I should tell him he has to be mean and beat people up, some people say I should, I figure if he can make it through school age he has a chance at being a well adjusted man. He is a lot like me (single mom raising him alone), I never could stick up for myself until I was an adult. Should I teach him to 'hit back'?
2006-08-22 08:59:06 · 6 answers · asked by metallica_rocks0122 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You know your son and need to be as supportive of him and who is becoming as possible no matter what. Even though personality wise this may be like you, he is a boy and in the "boy world", this sort of thing can get worse and make things harder for him. I recently even heard a story about a little boy who committed suicide on his way to school because he was so sad and was getting teased so much. Children have such a hard time trying to grow up and find their way that what they really need is to have support and get confidence from us their parents. My son was similar in that he did get teased at times at school and I do not support violence in any way shape or form especially in school! Support your son and also allow him activities that will help him feel more confident like sports, (my son plays football), or martial arts. Call his school and teachers and ask them if they see a problem, in my sons school the children that bully are not allowed to go outside with the other kids. He'll be ok as long as he gets that encouragement and support he needs from you!
2006-08-23 07:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by jaybeeshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't teach him to hit back.. but I would certainly get to the root of the matter.. you know contacting, schools , parents of the bullies etc... I don't know how your school deals with it but our school just adopted a new no bullying policy and it is great... they even make them have classes on it each day for 20 minutes... in the mean time... prep him at home for protecting himself and you start doing something about it... especially if you grew up that way... do not make him live like that... do something about it... he is too young too so it is your protection and forwardness as a mom to stand up for him!!!
2006-08-22 12:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so much as to "hit" back, but he does need to learn to stand up for himself, because as he gets older, it WILL get worse. There is nothing wrong with him being sensitive and not aggressive, but he does not need to be someones door mat either. My son is 10 and he is a sensitive child and not aggressive, but he will not let anyone pick on him. He doesn't start anything with people, but he will defend himself if needed. Is he small for his age, is that what makes him a "target" that you mentioned? See my son is big for his age, he is about 4'10" and weighs about 110 pounds, but like I said he is sensitive and non-aggressive, but would fight for himself or someone else if he had to.
2006-08-22 09:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband believes that kids should hit back when they are being picked on and to a certian degree how else do you get kids to stop picking on you but at the same time if you teach him to hit it will get him in alot of trouble at school and being expelled is alot worse than being picked on.
2006-08-22 09:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by heather d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the school invovled. the counciler, the teacher, and the princible and figure out what can be done. encourage him to stand up for himself. my 8 year old is very emotional but on the same note he is a very popular kid in school.
2006-08-22 13:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by supermama10103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him take a martial art.....it'll give him some confidence which will make him less of a target. It will also help to feel as though he can protect himself if necessary.
2006-08-22 14:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋