i'm so cynical about this now i just don't think it's real and i don't think it happens.
2006-08-22 08:37:44 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really comes in three forms, i.e. erotic desire, friendship and compassion. Erotic comes and goes (pun intended). Friendships can be more lasting. Compassion has nothing to do with relationship, but rather with a personal choice about how we live and respond to people around us. What most people call true love is a mix of the three, but what most people have is infatuation based on sexual attraction. I think you have to feel compassion toward a mate in a self-sacrificing way to make it last because there will certainly be times you want o have sex with someone else and times when they're not being much of a friend, and if you can't sympathize and stick by them for their sake, no chance.
2006-08-22 08:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe in true love because I have found it, it's having the best friend you've ever know chose to be your husband and be able to just be yourself and feel the love all around even when your angry and disagreeing it is there and helps you find a solution together. It's knowing you'll always be safe in his arms, knowing if you didn't exist he'd carry on for you and you'd live through him because your so deeply connected to each other. It doesn't just happen it evolves from an initial contact over time and grows into somthing you can't imagine living without.
2006-08-22 08:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I used to belive in it. Then what I thought was, divorced me. So now I'm wondering if true love does exist. I've grown to be a cynic, unfortunately. But I'm still upbeat. Right now, just want to meet people.
2006-08-22 09:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you? Have you had many let down relationships in your life? The problem may be with your state of mind not actual love. Love is great and it is a wonderful thing if you truly want to believe it. I hope you don't feel this way about yourself, that could be why you don't believe in love because you havent been givien that chance to experience it. Good luck and God bless.
2006-08-22 08:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I'm like you & I don't believe in true love anymore. And I've come to believe that the only love that's real is the love a mother feels for her children - & even that's been warped by people like Susan Smith & Andrea Yates. Men are incapable of loving - be it a wife, girlfriend or child. It all comes down to them getting off - that's the only thing they love . . .
2006-08-22 08:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to belive the same! but about 7 yrs ago i found the true and only real love of my life! before that I thought it was just a "need" for company or a hormonal change convined with sexual needs. But now I'm completly absolutely convinced about it. Real love is "out there"
2006-08-22 08:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by JESSE13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's real, all right. I saw the love of my life standing in a bus station and it felt like I was struck by lightning. This is a rare thing but is possible. A couple of friends confirmed it. I'm sorry to say none of our relationships lasted, though. Be glad if it never happens to you. If it ends your heart is destroyed. No one can ever measure up. I wish it never happened to me. I know others who feel this way as well.
2006-08-22 08:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it does not exist,and cannot be found ,love is what you create not find,it is what you give and determines what someone is willing to give you and how honestly ,or voluntarily based on your ablity to give it and not cheat on your lover with the marriage wrecking mistress- selfrighteousness, it is based on your ability to love your self and meet your own emotional needs and depends on whether to are one who accepts what is given,gives and takes or doesnt know how to serve but feels entitled ,we tend to get out of relationships what we put into them and make the mistake of thinking no one can see through our bs and selfserving motives and feel if we do not get caught or called on it then we deserve to be treated better,but invalidating the other person or trying to impose your will and being punitive or projecting your expectations and insecurities on another is disrespectful and dehumanizing and if you are confused wondering poor me, they are all bad and I have been so good, well you have been good in your own eyes but now is the time for you to cultivate some self awareness and develop more compassion and take responsibilty for what you create ,love is not something you may expect or demand ,no one is just going to hand it over,it is a process that starts with you,and does not come from anywhere else.
2006-08-22 08:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUE LOVE? I USED TO BELIEVE IT EXISTED BUT ONCE YOU HAVE HAD YOUR
HEART TORN OUT AND THROWN AWAY , YOU JUST DON'T CARE ANYMORE..hehe..(well this is not my personal experience but a saying of someone else...So I think that the answer to this question would actually lie in ones personal experience and past...some may say yes and some may not...atleast I do believe in it and I bellieve that the reason that most of us do not actually experience it is because fate never caused us to meet that special person in our life...
2006-08-22 09:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by sCrUbs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't met my wife of 21 years, it happens, but it won't if you don't believe cynical or not. You wouldn't hopefully write the question if you didn't believe really, would you!
2006-08-22 08:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋