I feel guilty because I am so bored with playing with my 17 month old son. He has a lot of toys but we play with them everyday and we are inside the house alot and its really boring. We go out sometimes too for a walk or we go to the store but I am still really bored with playing with him. I feel guilty but there are other things that I would rather be doing than sitting on the floor and playing. Does anyone else feel this way and what can I do so that we can have more fun?
2006-08-22 08:30:07 · 15 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You do not have to play with him every second of the day. Believe it or not he has more fun eating his toes and looking at the ceiling. Just make sure he is dry and full and he can do the rest.
2006-08-22 08:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That does sound boring. Some of us just don't go bananas for playing with infants. That's okay. Sounds like you are really going all out to love him, that is to be commended. No guilt necessary! It will not last. I had forgotten this stage with my own children (I have 5) because the next ones are entertained with the older ones so much more. You might try bringing him into your life more rather than always going to his. Give him a dish to wash while you do dishes. Give him a book to look at while you read yours. Let him stir the cookies/dinner too. Put him in a backpack and go for a walk. Look around for an indoor park group. Be sure you get some time on your own too. I imagine you do get some time while he is asleep--make the most of it. Sometimes, though, things just aren't about finding more fun. Sometimes doing what needs to be done is a little boring. That's okay. It's only season--and one likely to be over really soon.
2006-08-22 11:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by marshwiggle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to feel guilty....I guess it is some what natural...but this is all part of the wonderful world of parenting! At his age there really isnt much that you can do to make it more exciting for you but if you wanted to get creative you could plan some sensory activities for him such as finger paint and you could make some keepsakes and art work. You can sit him in his high chair and spray whipped cream on the tray and let him smear it all around.... babies at this age love to play...take out all the lids to your tupperwears he will go nuts banging them together! Its the little things that will really keep him occupied you would be surprised! Dont be guilty about being bored...you should feel more guilty if you werent playing with him at all...at least you are trying! I think you are doing yoru best so dont ever feel bad! Just try to deal with the boredom during his playtimes and then when that beloved nap time comes do what it was that you wanted to do!
2006-08-22 08:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty. Actually, it's not kind to raise your child to expect to have 100% of your attention. When he goes to school or pre-school, he's going to be sorely disappointed to learn he has to share his teacher with 30 other kids! Get him used to playing on his own now. My son loves to play by himself, then comes over and checks in with me every once in a while. I find this to be super cute, and also freeing.
It's also important for your child to see behaviors other than playing. If he sees you read a book, or work on the computer, or play the piano, he will then be interested in those things, too. So, it's actually GOOD for your child to see you having interest in other things, as it broadens his world.
I agree, go on walks, to the park, to the library, around the mall. Go to the zoo, take a good hike, anything. Take him to nursing homes to visit the lonely. What were your hobbies before you were a mom? Find a way to do them and incorporate him into them.
I'm sure as you find more things to do that fulfill you as a woman, you'll find you look forward to the playtime with your son, rather than being bored by it. You just need some balance.
2006-08-23 00:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to look into a mommy and me class through your parks and rec district to meet some other moms with kids the same age, and to let your son start inactiving with other kids.
With my second child I stopped working so was home all the time and was going a bit crazy - after meeting other mom we had daily outings, Mondays to B&N for toddler storytime then breakfast afterwards. Tuesdays we would meet in a park and walk, Wednesdays we went to the kids club at our mall, Thursday more walking and Fridays coffee. It was great to get out of the house and be able to talk with other moms going through the same things plus the adult interaction was wonderful and my daughter still got my attention as well as started to make friends.
2006-08-22 08:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by socaljules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 09:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by overbay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 months, it seems like he can play by himself. However, don't give him too much time alone. A baby needs his mother, but he doesn't need her ALL the time. I understand that you get bored. Alot of local libraries have fun activities for toddlers, where they can meet with others their age for supervised activities. They are interactive for the children, and plus the moms get some time to themselves. You should try it. Good luck and enjoy!
2006-08-22 08:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely expect him to play by himself for up to 20-30 minutes at a time (of course, you have to work up to that if he's not used to it).
my son is 20 months, and i get really bored with his toys and stuff. so when i play with him, it's more about interaction. we dance together, or make faces, or chase each other around and tickle each other.
if he really likes playing alongside you, you can always set up a play area for him near where you are working. for example, if you're cooking, let him play with some empty pots and pans on the floor. or if you're paying bills, give him some crayons and paper and let him sit next to you... then you're "together" but you're not bored.
but i totally feel for you... it can be incredibly boring hanging out with a toddler all day. just remember, it gets better!
2006-08-22 08:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Janci 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 months he can play a bit by himself. I used to put my son on the floor and let him play while I read a book or crocheted. It is ok to let him entertain himself for a short time.
2006-08-22 08:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
"what's up" Listen it's not that you are bored it's just you need to let a man in you and you child's life, ( now if a man is around then my apologies) then what you need to do is hang out with your family and friends more THE THREE OF YOU.
Life is not just about going out it's about spending time with lov ones Good luck.
2006-08-22 08:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by themaninsidethman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋