I was 21 when I had my son 10 months ago and genuinly thought I was to young!
But I survived and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I've seem woman older on their knees, not being able to cope and its made me think - do you think age has anything to do with how good a mother you are?
2006-08-22 08:26:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
YES! I had my kids at 18, 19, 22. It was a huge crash course in adulthood. I have always acted mature for my age, but I never knew what mature was until after we married and the baby was born. I bounced the checkbook once. I learned very quickly that the correct order is tithe, bills, groceries, everything else. My mother had me (3rd child) at 32. She says I'm alot more mature than she ever was. Of course I get stressed and tired, but I'm so very determined to make it all work....marriage, kids, staying at home to raise them. I'm learning from other's mistakes and learning how to swallow my pride and think about my family before myself. I'm happy everything happened like it did. I never wanted to party or have things to regret. I'm a good daughter, I'm a good wife, I'm a good mother. And alot of that is all because of my wonderful first born. Sometimes, having kids young is the beginning of your life, not the end.
2006-08-22 08:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't. I don't have any kids, but I've never heard anyone say, I shouldn't have had kids yet OR I wish I would've had my kids when I was younger.
Every person's life is different from everyone elses. It may be right for some people to have kids when they are in their early 20's, but it might work out better for some when they are in their 30's or even 40's. I plan on having kids (if I am blessed) in my late 20's or early 30's. I think that will be a good age for me and my husband.
There is no perfect age for a woman to have a baby. :)
2006-08-22 08:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by ☼ lovethesun11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not believe there is a right age to have kids, i believe you should have kids whne you are ready!
I hate people who say someone is too young to have babies. They aren't in their position. I mean i'm 21 almost been married for 2 years and we were pregnant but it didn't work out for us! We didn't think it was the right time for because my husband (23) is going to back to school and so am i!
We will have kids no matter when and what is going on in our lives! Even if we don't think we are finanically ready, the baby is coming and it's a gift from God and God will take care of us!
We aren't worried!
2006-08-22 08:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is age...more like maturity. Like you said you have seen older women freaking out, while a younger mom like you has been happy. Ive seen young moms lose it and old moms be wonderful...it is all about your circumstances and patience level ya know? sometimes a mom may mean well but is so over whelmed with bad finances or fear of eviction or God knows what...that can happen at any age..So I really dont thin it is all about age, but then again I had my first at 20 also...so this advice is coming from another young mom! I could be wrong!
2006-08-22 08:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not recommend any body having a child that is younger than 21, because you have a lot of your own life to live yet, but it really all depends on the mentality and maturity of the person, not the age.
2006-08-22 08:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say if your mature enough to have sex then your mature enough to take care of a baby,with the exception of anything under 18 because thats just bad parenting and stupidity at its best.i was 19 when i had my first now im 26 and gettin ready to have another one in january.that makes 3 lol.but hey they are the best things in my life and i wouldnt change a thing.i think they helped me alot as in stayin out of trouble and that sort of thing.they made me grow up and be responsible
2006-08-22 08:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by paris_0129 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really depends on what the mother's view on children is, what her priorities are, and who she is at what age. some people need to wait until their late 30s, others are ready by mid 20s. i personally think late 20s is best. enough time to find yourself but you're still young enough to be able to be an active mother and be around a long time for your children.
2006-08-22 08:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should have childeren when you are ready and want them. It helps to be settleed down and married! I just turned 22 when I had my first baby and was 23 when my second one came along! We planned BOTH babies! They are my life!
2006-08-22 08:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by T G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 is a great age. It may seem scary, but if you have them too late, you will regret it.
Somethimes older moms are more concerned with themselves....careers looks, money.
But that is pretty general
2006-08-22 08:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by ♣ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the shape you are in and your maturity, not the age. It's about stamina....I had my son at 31 and it was great.
2006-08-22 08:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by voandginger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋