after reading my comments..i cant go through with abortion?

Question

thank you jennifer_5499 you really opened my eyes to how it is like and how hard later in life. i dont want to kill a life that i created so me and my bf and our family are looking into adobtion.(sorry i spelled it wrong it think). i only thought of getting an abortion because i am scared i and the baby will have complicantions because i have a very, very small body like i weight 98 pounds and my height is 5'3. so i dont want to actually go through birth and then her/him dieing. i thought maybe an abortion would save my pain in it die coming out or in my arms. but i cant help but to think abouthow my future would be if i had and kept the baby? hmm..still thinking

Answer 1

every thing great or small has a right to life. i am small i weighed 80 pounds when i got pregnant with my son i have soft bones and I'm only 4 ft tall they told me my son was dead i refused a DNC to remove him i was pretty sick form preexisting condition at 9 months i weighed 114 pounds and i gave birth to a healthy baby boy he was tiny he weighed only 5 pound and was 15 inches long but thank god he was healthy. and i could not Imagen not having him children give your life meaning whither the father is in your life or not

Answer 2

Sweetheart, you being small shouldn't effect the baby as long as he/she is healthy and gaining the weight that he/she should be. I weighed 114 when my daughter was born. and I'm only 5'2. She was early and small. But part of that I believe is the doctors really didn't know when she was due, because i got 3 different due dates from 3 different doctors. So, she was anywhere from a month to 3 months early. she weight 3 lbs & 15 ounces. She had to stay in the NICU for awhile, but she's 2 now and you would never know she was that little. I also have a cousin who weighed 1 pound and 12 ounces when he was born. He is 18 years old now and you wouldn't know he went through that either. My point is, as long as you are being healthy as you possibly can and your OB doesn't see a reason for you to go to a High Risk OB, then things should be fine. Because IF you or the baby's in any danger, your OB will refer you to a High Risk OB. AND even if the baby happened to be born premature, things could still be ok. Think Positive for the little one. Look into all of your options very carefully and consult with your OB regularly, about ANYTHING that may be bothering you. Because whatever decision you make, will be one that you have to live with.

Answer 3

I don't know how old you are but my 17 year old daughter was pregnant and she decided to keep the baby. Her and her boyfriend are now married and have the most beautiful little girl. None of us can imagine life without her. I am not saying that it would work out that way for you & your boyfriend. If you are considering an abortion but aren't sure, please stop and BE sure. I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope that you have a mother that you can talk to. Also, my daughter is only 5'2" and weighs about 115 lbs. She had a ceasarean because the baby was 9 lbs. 14 oz. No matter what you do good luck.

Answer 4

you small body type has no affect on complications. I am 5'1 and was around 90 pounds when I had my son. A year and a half later I had my second son. I had absolutely no complications during my pregnancy or delivery. Both my boys were over 8 pounds!! As a matter of fact in the next year I volunteered to carry my friend and her husbands baby. Females are made to be able to have children. Its good to hear your not going to use abortion as a means out of your situation. Since your still thinking on what to do why not keep the baby? You can always do adoption if after a month you figure you don't want to be a mom.

Answer 5

You do realize that your body is made for producing babies right...? If you do decide to put your child up for adoption you have to understand that you can't interfere with the child once it has a new family... Why don't you keep the child... I'm only 23 years old I got pregnant while I was still in high school... My mother in law wanted me to get an abortion or put it up for adoption... I decided that I would take responsibility for my actions and I kept my beautiful daughter.... I finished High School and I now have two children and 1 on the way..... I'm not sure what your intentions are but I think you should seriously do what you think is best for you and the baby, not what others think is best...

Answer 6

Its great ur not going through with the abortion. Im 20 years old and Im scared to i only weigh 108 lbs and im 5'3. Im scared to death of the birth because of my frame but the docs are watching me and this isnt the first time they have been through this. I am already at 120 lbs and i like my new weight and after the birth i am hoping i can keep a little of it. With you being so small they might do a c section but with monerting im sure you'll be fine. I have a 3 year old sister and she was adopted and she is so happy and loved so much so u are doing a wonderful thing.. Be proud of yourself.

Answer 7

Just know that you are making a very personal decision and no one else's opinion really matters except your own. Yes, you can read every-body's opinion and experiences but don't assume your's will be the same.

Many people also approach this from religious fronts. People can not force their views based on their religion on you. You have your own (or lack there of) and that will be what is important to you.

Other people like it or not, an abortion is legal in US and until it changes, it is an option for you. Instead of talking to faceless masses on the Internet, I suggest you speak with parents, close friends, and neutral persons such as psychologist and make a personal decision.

By the way, psychologist is not the same as psychiatrist. He/she is more like a counselor and he/she will help you better think your problem though to arrive at the conclusions that will be best for you for now and for the future.

Good luck.

Answer 8

You are rather small, but I don't think you're too small to give birth. A coworker of mine was about 8 months pregnant when I met her, she was about 5'6" and said she weighed 120. She said before she got pregnant she weighed about 103 or so. She had a healthy baby girl, and didn't have any complications.
They can give you an epidural to help with the pain when the time comes. When my cousin had her first she was pretty young (still a teen). She said with the epidural it was like this pressure, and while it wasn't comfortable, it wasn't painful either.
I'm so glad you have taken the time to really think about the ramifications of having an abortion. I'm not against abortion in ALL cases, but if there is a safe way for the pregnancy to be carried to term, I'm usually for it. Adoption is always an option. I've heard really good things about LDS Social Services. You don't have to be Mormon to use their services and you are guaranteed that the family will love your baby, and that it will be well cared for.

Answer 9

THANK YOU.

I see why people turn to it, but abortion is a sad choice.



If you want my perspective.. I got pregnant when I was 18, not too young but of course I still had no way to support my baby. It was a hard road but I think you'll find it'll be worth it. I would do anything for my little boy(7 mo. ). Adoption is a good option if you know its right for you, I actually considered it because I thought I might not be able to support my baby but now I'm so glad I didn't. Most single mothers CAN make it with help for the government, it's really easy for a mother to qualify for any kind of support (ie. food stamps (now a debit card, not stamps), WIC, HUD(discounted housing), ect.). Actually if you're not single but still low income, you and your partner can still probably qualify.

email me if you want to talk or want any advice.


* and I think a man should be able to take a woman to court to deny an abortion. If a woman wanted to make him pay child support, then she should also agree that the baby is something they created together.

Answer 10

I'm glad your not getting an abortion, but you shouldn't worry about your size-I'm 4'11 and about the same weight and very tiny bone structure and I've had 4 children 2 of them 11 months apart. Your size has nothing to do with having a baby, and at the very least you can have a c-section, only other complications would kill the baby, but if your not ready to be a mommy then give the baby and someone else who is ready a chance. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 11

I wouldn't be worried so much about the baby having complications as I would be worried about yourself.

You're very small, and you will most likely have to get a cesarian, where they actually have to perform surgery on you in order to deliver the baby.

Not only that, but while an abortion is hard later in life, adoption can be worse. With adoption, you actually have a child out there somewhere. A child who may try to find you later in life. The regret can be the same, if not worse.

Please discuss this with your doctor and family, and if you do decide to go through with the birth, prepare yourself to give up the child for adoption. Because if you hold that child, you will bond with it, and you may later regret giving it away. Either way, you should consider some sort of counseling for this, to help you sort through your emotions before and after.