From a moral standpoint, is it wrong for a woman to choose to be a single mother?

Question

For some women, being a single mother is a conscious choice they've made. Most women in this position have the economic ability to care for a child on their own and other support through family and friends. So is it wrong for a woman to decide to have and raise a child on her own?

Answer 1

nope......i'm a single mom of 2..ages 12 and 7..raised them both since their birth....father's had a choice...they choose to walk....so be it...it's all good with this oklahoma christian mom..God Bless

Answer 2

Like jd above , I support that choice but .. hmm .. would like to add that it may be less than optimal economic status or not .. as a predicament of modern living I feel it has become viable ... That is because even full nuclear families have lost touch very often with perrenial balancing in parenting ..

a perrenial view of what two role models could be:

Let us compare a child to a maple sapling ...

1. The mothering role is the nurturing or watering .. Watering can be too light .. as a poor root system .. such that the first harsh gales of life will uproot and fling away the sapling .. or too much water .. causing to much dependence on the mother .. and unrealistic expectations of what just rain is going to offer later ...

2. Father is an Oak growing next to the maple .. He knows that being strong as an oak is the best role model, and guidance he can be .. He prunes a few unwieldy offshoots .. He never however admonishes the maple in such a way as to encorage it to likewise become an oak ...

Okay .. before any feminists kicks and gouges me.. let me say that "ideally" .. I think it best for both the father and mother to have some drams of each others qualities .. yet I consider it both unnatural and unlikely , and a tall order that one person can embody wholly both these roles well ...

Answer 3

Absolutely not. If a woman decides that she can do just as good of (or better) a job than 2 parents, then more power to her. Many women don't feel they need the picket white fence and the perfect husband to have a happy family. It isn't morally wrong, and more so, it's no one else's business how a woman chooses to raise her child.

Answer 4

Morally speaking...everyone has their own opinion. Some people have several. It's hard to say anything from a moral standpoint.

If you're asking about what the Bible says, then yes, it would be against God's will for you to choose that path. Here's why.

First, it's a sin to have sex outside of marriage. As hard as that may be to hear, the Bible is very clear.

Secondly, God designed the family. He brings a man and a woman together as a picture of His love for us. As a family unit, they are the perfect environment to give children a balanced view of life, love, and sexuality. A young woman, no matter how rich or capable, cannot be the dad that her children need. God invented dads for a reason. Perhaps you've had bad experience with dads. But if you wait for the right one, the Lord will bless your life and marriage, and your children will be better off.

I'm guessing, (though I could be way off) that you desire to have a child to nurture, but perhaps haven't found a man that would amount to being a good father or husband? If this is the case, ask yourself if you are willing to trust God. Do you believe that He loves you? Do you believe that He wants you to be happy? I tell you, that He does.

If you will trust Him, and wait for Him to fulfill your desires His way, He will give you what you seek. But if you seek yourself first, and your own desires, all will end in frustration.

Psalm 37:4 says "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desire of your heart."

Proverbs 3:5-6 says "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths."

Give Him your heart, and trust Him with your needs, and He will give you what you seek.

Blessings

Answer 5

No, it's not. a woman who makes that decision is usually strong, knows what she wants, and is not simply a decorative wife - she's a real woman.
they will say "oh, a child must have both parents, etc". Many parents are horrible parents. From a moral standpoint, a single woman raising a child has nothing wrong.

Answer 6

From a woman's standpoint that decision isn't always her's to make.
But for the many women who make the conscious choice, the situation of being a single woman is likely better than the situation they may have been in before.
If you're referring to premarital sex, I believe the consequenses are something that should have been thought of long before.

Answer 7

I don't think you have anything to worry about. I know plenty of women who are single parents. It may be exhausting both physically and spiritually, but it can be done.

God will provide for a family regardless of size or situation. Remember the story of Jesus meeting the woman at the well?
She was at the well to collect the last bit of water so that she and her son could have their last meal. But Jesus gave her instructions, and the woman and her child were fulfilled by a miracle.

Answer 8

I suppose that's your choice, but remember, as a parent, you want what is BEST for your child. Isn't having both a father and a mother best for a child? I understand that there are situations that can't be helped, such as spousal death or divorce or an oops, but a conscious choice to be a single mother seems almost selfish to me. I know not everyone agrees with me, but you did ask, so here's my opinon.

Answer 9

Not everyone has the same moral mind set. What is moral to one person may not be moral to another. It's never ending.

Really I don't see how choosing to create a human life could be morally wrong regardless of if two parents are involved.

Answer 10

Absolutely not wrong. I think your children would be just as productive, maybe more so, without a man around. I also think that men can raise children just as good as women, there are just fewer of them around.
I know several women who do just that and they have no problem and the children are happy and well adjusted.
Don't listen to people, they probably have never tried it to begin with so how would they know what is best for you?

Answer 11

A child should have both parents
but in this day and time things seem to be going haywire
Sometimes a woman has no choice and not just because it may be her fault because it takes two to create life
but it is so easy for the man to walk away

not judging only God can do this