2 question: living with your lover/splitting the expenses?

Question

if you agree to live with your bf or gf...splitting the expense, then you find out after being together for awhile that you are carrying the the load alone...you pay the electric bill,phone and internet,buy the groceries and maintain all other area of the household..and the other only pays there portion of his or her rent..would you stay or leave, would you feel like you being taken for granted and unappreciative..if you leave ,you are hated by the other person..what do you think

Answer 1

the best answer is get out now because if they cared about you they would be putting that kind of pressure on you. Love is more important then a little money. They probably be saving there money why you trying to be the better person and carry your load and a little extra. (if they do it once they will do it again) (If they are doing it now they will continue to do it until it end) DONT BE NO FOOL

Answer 2

I don't understand how you could not know. Do you never look at any of the bills? What was agreed to when you moved in together? Sometimes one person makes more money and so pays for more. Sometimes one person does more chores to make up for paying less expenses. If none of the above applies, I would start paying closer attention to the household expenses. Either split everything down the middle, or split who pays what (she buys the food, you pay PG&E, Phone, Internet, ect). Only you can tell if the person has been using you or not.Their reaction to your wanting the money split more fairly will be an obvious give-away.

Answer 3

My ex husband and I went through the same thing I was working two jobs paying everythin but rent he took of $800 a month. That's all. He had no car payment no utilities no groceries etc.. I tried to communicate with him but he wouldn't listen. It's not a partnership if you can't be honest or compromise. I don't anything can be 50/50 but it should be on 1 persons shoulder either

Answer 4

Insist that you pay 50/50. If they refuse then end it, they are most likely free-loaders. Go find a bf or gf who is willing to help share the load!

Answer 5

I think the expenses need to be splitted fairly and should be spelled out and agreed upon by both parties.

Answer 6

if the other person hates you for leaving she hates you while your there too. just a little less when ur fronting all the bills. it sounds shady to me. i mean if you make three times as much and don't mind and tell her that all the time it's totally different. but if you expect it.......ERRR. that's the last time you'll get it from me.

Answer 7

You must have been absent that day in math class, character class, self respect class and "what I want to be when I grow up" class