One of my friends convinced me to see a therapist because she found out I was cutting. But it really didn't help so I switched therapists and now I really don't like my new therapist. Neither of them helped me, if anything I've gotten worse, and I feel like I can't really talk to a therapist anyway because if I told them how I was really feeling, it would be a bad thing for me. Because I'm suicidal but I never told them that. I also have this problem where I can never stay in a relationship because I always feel like the other person deserves better than me. I don't know why that is, but it really sucks. And, I'm also anorexic.
I feel like I really have issues, but I don't think therapy can help me. No advice that anyone has ever given me has helped. Now I'm just dying slowly. If anyone has any ideas that might help, please let me know. I really appreciate it.
2006-08-22 08:14:30 · 18 answers · asked by metalheart19 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
hi, it's like you're an angel that you can't stand the pain of this world, it's so much, i know. let's think together a little. we won't think of relationships right now, okay, let's say for a second you have to get on with the buisness you were sent here to do. that will become apparent, i hope sooner than later, because seems time is not on your side. if it is that your spirit has to take off, it has chosen a way that will conflict much pain and guilt on those who really know and love you, not fair, is it? not fair either what's going on with your spirit. it's crying out in cyber, it's in so much pain. someone needs you, help them,your neice a child that you know is aware of your pain. imagine if it were me and you knew but coudn't think of what to do or say. hold on there spirit. put up with us, the poor vanished children of eve, just long enough till you find comfort in knowing, now this is it, listen, once you are born the only thing left to do, besides serving others, is to die, so please don't die a thousand deaths, just die that one...
2006-08-22 08:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I have been through some mental health issues and I will give my opinions. I hope they help. Being thin and really sucking can be what most relationships need to thrive in my opinion. Find a therapist that you really like and respect then open up about the suicidal thoughts or whatever else you are dealing with or feeling. Then work on self respect so will know that you are worth being with. You gotta like yourself first, then others can have a chance to like you too. Get rid of sharp objects and don't cut yourself.
2006-08-22 15:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are living with a ton of pain. I am sorry. I hope you will continue to seek help.
A therapist can never help you if you are not honest with them. I think you could really benefit from an inpatient program. That way they could help you deal with multiple issues at the same time.
Please realize that there can be happiness after you deal with your pain. Life can get so very hard sometimes. I have been there. When it would have been easier to die, than to live. Ten years later, I am glad I didn't end my life. There is hope for your life too.
Don't give up. Get yourself into a hospital and tell the truth about how you feel.
2006-08-22 15:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, I go to a therapist and they don't help me either. A therapist isn't there to give you answers on how to become perfectly happy. They act as a coach, guiding you on the right path to becoming better. Noone can make you happy but yourself. Alot of teens have the same feelings as you, but whatever you do, try and keep your head up and your chin high. It may not seem it now, but you have alot ahead of you that you should live for. Although life may not be easy, you should hang on. If you are anorexic and suicidal, I strongly suggest you seek rehabilitation. I know it may not seem like the best idea right now, it would help. Believe me. People go through rehab everyday, even teenagers. There are actually places for teens, where they can be with other teenagers who are going through similiar situations. Noone deserves to live like you are, you're a great person and should seek stronger help. Try and tell your therapist the truth. If you feel like hurting yourself, call: 911 or 1-800-SUICIDE. Please hang on honey. Please write back and let me know how your doing. I want to help you.
2006-08-22 15:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you --- My daughter cuts herself and has done so for about 5 years now. We have seen many therapists, she has spent time in the psyche ward at a hospital in our area, she has been on many different medications. At the end of the day, nothing has really helped except her age. It seems to get better as she grows older. She is now 19.
It is a very sad thing to watch and a horrible situation to be in ---- try to look to your family and good friends, I know that sounds stupid - but they are the ones who will really help you.
My daughter spends a lot of time talking on the computer to other people who have the same issues.
Hope springs eternal --- keep reaching out!
2006-08-22 15:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by LINDA O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation when I was younger. I saw a therapist, but I hated it. I didn't feel comfortable talking to them, so it didn't help at all. Instead, I felt more comfortable talking to my friends, and they helped me throught the IMMEDIATE problems that I had. Now I'm older, and more comfortable with everything that happened in the past. I'm considering seeing a therapist again now that I feel more ready for it. Talk to whoever you're comfy with, and if you don't like your therapist, there's nothing wrong with switching again to find one you can work with. Good luck to you.
2006-08-22 15:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't work until you start to talk, to be honest. You have to open up, your therapist studied a good chunk of his or her life just to help you. Don't be silly and if you really want to stop cutting yourself, start talking.
It's all about you and if you really want to get help. You can go to a therapist or change therapists the times you want, but if you are not willing to be honest, you will be stuck just where you are now.
2006-08-22 15:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ditto Angela's answer.
But also:
You may need more than a therapist. See a psychiatrist, get a full evaluation, tell him or her about everything that's going on, including your suicidal thoughts. Chances are good the psychiatrist will prescribe some medication that will make you feel better and help you stop the destructive behavior.
2006-08-22 15:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, try a new therapist until you feel comfortable with one. There is absolutely nothing wrong with switching until you "click" with a particular therapist.
Don't give up, though. Try a free clinic if you are financially strapped.
Also, work with a psychiatrist, not an MSW.
Good luck!
2006-08-22 15:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to want help before anything will work. You realize you need help and that is a big first step. Be proud of yourself for realizing that you may need someone outside your friends and family to talk to. Telling a counselor the truth is exactly what they are there for. They can't help you unless you tell them everything that is going on. I wish you luck and never underestimate the strength of a friend!
2006-08-22 15:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by HOPEFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋