2006-08-22 07:58:32 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would like to point out that i dont just jump in to bed iwth these men but thats all they seem to want
2006-08-23 01:25:11 · update #1
I am astonished,Most of the gays want only that, except me.
2006-08-22 08:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by sukhwinder b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right beacuse i dont actually know you i can only tell you a few things that i could be. Now firstly if you have been hurt before you can sometimes show the opposit sex this by the things you say and they could pick up on this as you being vunerable and belive me many men try to take advantage of this. Secondly if you lack love in your life you might act too needy therefore they might see this and take advantage knowing that you feel as you need them. Also it could be a sad case of the jerks dont find us we find them simply because without realising this they attract us. I have been in this situation far too many times so what i attend to do now is make freinds first for a while a believe me there true colours show, i have had a few long term relationships this way and have proved to be more successful than other people i know.
2006-08-29 21:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sukyb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not meeting the right guys! Dont see what all the fuss is about, I have loads of one night stands and regretted all of them. Sex is much better when your with someone serious. That way there no embarrasment and no inhabitions. Keep dating, dont give in for at least 4-5 dates and you never know......you may date a guy that likes to kiss and cuddle for a while before sleeping with you! When you find him......try and keep him!
Just a thought...what age guys are you talking about? Im writing this from a 26 yr olds point of view and been there done that.
2006-08-27 03:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by dean h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question
Most men are driven by sex and the fact that they find you sexually attracitve is why they approach you in the first place. Its your job to make them treat you well to get it. As a rule dont have sex on the first night if you want a relationship with them. They will expect it every time and may only meet you after that purely to have sex and not being with you. You have to think about what you wear and how you express yourself also as it may give guys the wrong impression of what you are looking for. There are guys out there but maybe you are attracted to the wrong type of guy to start off with. There may be lots of guys who you dont fancy who want a relationship with you and will treat you well. Maybe instead of going for the guys who treat you with no respect look for the ones who are still good looking but will also respect you.
2006-08-22 22:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by welsh_darkhorse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the best answer ever..make me laugh...from
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Honestly? Because the ones that want a relationship with you are the ones you don't want at all.
Men do the same thing - running after people who don't want them enough, and ignoring those who would.
We never learn.
Good luck.
I totally agree with him, Don't look honey, don't expect sweetheart, and even don't hope darling :-)...I am not discuraging you because I am almost in the same situation.
But this is the fact, and it is true you get when you less expect or even forget all about it....that's time YOU WILL HAVE the one MORE THAN 10 YRS STAND ...LOL :-Dx
2006-08-22 08:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by SERENE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right life is hard enough, and it especially doesn't help that when you want to get serious every man you meet just wants to use you. But i reckon us girlies are looking in the wrong places, and possibly being to flirtatious! look in places you wouldn't usually look and hold back a notch. If your age group is 21-35 then men are still imature they still have to catch up with the women, so give them a chance. However if its 35-plus then theres no damn excuse for a man that age. I blame there mothers. It leaves us women to kick them into shape! Don't stop looking Mr rights out there waiting for you.
2006-08-22 08:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, that's a very good question. I'm pretty sure most girls are trying to hit you up with an answer. It is hard to fing a good guy who wants a relationship and not scared of committment with a girl. Trust me I know, cuz I was in a relationship with a guy for only 4 months. It took me 3 months to find my soul-mate. We have been together 4 just 2 years and about 2 months now. I love him so much. Good luck on finding your man.
2006-08-22 08:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you meeting these men? If you are meeting them at parties or bars the odds are they only want a one night stand. Do you feel that you have to sleep with a guy right after you meet him or on the first date? You don't have to. You have the right to say no.
It may sound cliche, but have you tried a singles group at a church in your community? Or getting involved in volunteering? Another good place is www.eharmony.com.
Ask God who he wants you to be with. Trust Him to put you in situations where you will meet a man worthy of you. And put sex on hold until after you're married. God bless!
2006-08-22 08:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont give it up on the first date.
Most guys are actually looking for more but if they go out with a girl and she jumps in bed with them the first date then they dont respect you anymore and move on to someone else.
2006-08-22 08:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys want a one night stand. I know i dont, have much more respect for a woman and myself to do that to anyone. But hey not many guys like me out there.
The right guy is just waiting for you to find him, or him finding you, be prepared for all the shallow types who just want one thing, but then you will know the right man when he appears.
2006-08-28 00:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by mr_scotsguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause lots of women of your generation behave worse than men in lots of area in life like its some sort of compotion to see who can bed the most,drink the most ect. lots of men can be terrible but women should try to step in to a geezers world and behave like them men secretly absolutely hate this what women do and they go mega overbaord acting and behaving like its clever to be a drunken bed hopping swearing tough macho bird..know where i am coming from now !
young men just want to sow there wild oats and eventually find a good woman who they can have a proper loving trusting relationship
you see a woman doing like what a young man does is totally looked down upon as an untrustworthy drunken badazs loud swearing bed hopping sluttish ho and of cause a lot worser words are said about women women like that are lowest form of scum thats how its seen in a mans social world..if yoo knowz vot i meanz
2006-08-27 21:03:22 · answer #11 · answered by ralphthemouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋