We have been dating for 8 months now, and things have been really good. I had to go abroad for some work for 2 months, but we kept in touch regularly. We would keep in touch regularly through phone, text and emails. Distance really got us more closer, i sent him postcards etc and he loved them. The day before my flight back, he even called me to say how excited he is to see me. When i came back I called him first, he didnt pick up I guess He was sleeping. The next day i ,messaged him and called he still didnt pick up. I even called his sister to find out if it was ok and if he had his phone, she said yea. I even told her to tell him to call me back. I got my phone activated and called him, messaged him still no answer!! It has been 7 days now that I have talked to him. I haven't called or text last 2 days thinking to give him some space and time. What I don't understand that how can a person change in one day? What should I make out of it and what is the solution, I really love him.
2006-08-22
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First of all, I'm really sorry to hear this. As clearly it comes as a surprise to you, I would guess you're fearing the worst, but want to give him the benefit of the doubt until you really can confirm what is going on.
While it definitely sounds suspicious, I would suggest you confront him in person to find out what his side of the story is, and to get closure for yourself.
People DON'T change in one day...he may not have been completely straight with you during your time away, or there may really be some weird event that has just happened in his life.
But you'll never know unless you are able to talk to him face to face.
Best of luck to you, hope it works out. No matter what, stay strong.
2006-08-22 08:00:22
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answered by Timothy W 5
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well girl, it seems like he has found someone else while you were out ot town, but he still kept in touch with you and acted like everything was fine because you couldn't know any better, but when you got back in town, he had to come see you and spend a lot of time with you, but what about his other new love? so he just probably decided the best thing to do is not to answer your calls and that way you might get the point yourself. I would advise you to move on because someone that can do that to you will never change no matter what. They don't love you for real if they are able to do something like that to you. Find someone that will really love you and only you.
2006-08-22 08:03:29
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answered by Dimitri Q 1
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Sorry you are going through this emotional turmoil, men are not very good at telling someone when they want to finish, and it does sound likely that he may have found someone else while you were away, this is not the answer that you want to hear and I hope I am wrong. When it comes to breaking up men on most occasions just do the disappearing act, take it in a nice way he does not want to hurt you, ridiculous choice, it hurts twice as much as they wont speak to you, and in actual fact you do not know if they are okay or even still alive! As an outside looking in please do not try to contact him, and fill your time with work and other things, hard as it may be and see if he contacts you. Take care
2006-08-22 08:04:33
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answered by Anonymous
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In my opinion I would say to give him time. The other thing is b/c you are away and he knew that-he didn't need to hide about anything if there was anything to hide. With you being back in the states he may be hiding something that he doesn't want you to know about. He may also just want some space but if he was excited to see you-then he would've wanted to see you right then-the day you came home. That to me would be a real b/f who truly loves you. Just sounds to me that he has something up his sleeve that he doesn't want you to know about. You need to watch him more carefully and see what he does in the future when he is with you. Don't bring it up right away either-wait for a few days and then tell him what you witnessed and seen yourself. He'll deny it and that's a guy for you but not a guy that you should be with then. More experience you have with dating guys-the better off and knowledge you have and knowing what you want in a relationship. Good luck!
2006-08-22 08:03:05
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answered by Anonymous
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If hes gonna call you the day before you get back then front and not answer his phone when u do get home hes such a loser , he shouldnt do that i mean....Id just see how things go and if u dont talk to him in a couple of more days or so break up with him
2006-08-22 07:58:47
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answered by equine_chic2002 1
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Try going over to his house. It's harder to avoid you if you're there in person. If he has moved on to another girl then you have the right to know. If he wants to end the relationship he needs to do it like a man and tell you. Sounds like he enjoyed the phone relationship more than the actual person to person interaction. Figure out why by going to his house.
2006-08-22 07:58:13
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answered by Anonymous
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You know, I think that just plain sucks. I had a BF do that to me because he was debating about breaking up with me. When we finally talked and I figured out his reason, I simply said "Ok, no prob. Give me back my things and I'll give you yours and we'll call it a day!" He ended up telling me he just got scared for a bit and we worked everything out.
Stop calling and see what happens! Best of luck!
2006-08-22 07:59:34
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answered by Dr. Kat 5
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He's a jerk, forget him, check out this link, about a new book called "He's Just Not That Into You", I could see myself in many of these situations and how they never worked out, gotta have the confidence to move on. I know, easier than it sounds! Good Luck! XO
2006-08-22 07:59:30
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answered by aggie babe 3
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I know you love him but you have to try and move on because he did. When my fiancee went to Iraq we had the same problem where I was so lonely I started to move on (not with another man)I just tried to push away from him so I wouldnt be so hurt and he was gone for 18months. But I came back around and he either will if he loves you or he wont. but dont sweat him and lose yourself over him
2006-08-22 08:13:30
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answered by starr 2
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Do you live in the same town? go by and see him. Do you know where he works? go by after he knocks off.
If he does not get in touch with you, something is wrong, and if he is not men enough to tell you, Give him space, then move on.I wish you all the best.
2006-08-22 08:01:39
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answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6
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