My cousin is 8 years old and he talks back to his mom almost all the time. His mom asks me to try to talk to him and make him better but he doesn't listen. He'll be nice for maybe 15 minutes and then he'll talk back. He always says, "so" "whatever" and "i don't care" and he swears too.
2006-08-22 07:44:28 · 19 answers · asked by socks 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
His mom does talk to him and stuff. she takes away his stuff but he doesn't really want to listen because his real mom died and that's his stepmom.
2006-08-22 13:05:28 · update #1
his dad works at night so he's pretty much sleeping in the day time. and he is a good father. and yeah..well thanks for your guys' help i'll try some of your tips
2006-08-22 13:08:02 · update #2
Ummm what his mom has asked you to do is her job. She needs to get his respect back. You can tell him its not cool to talk to his mom that way and that you think it's stupid when he swears, you might even find out why he thinks it's ok to talk to her like that. Then tell her what he says but make sure that she knows it's not your responsibility, your willing to say something to him but she needs to figure out how to get his attention now before he gets much older or she's gonna have worse trouble than back talkin' when he's a teenager. She needs to talk with a councilor or something to get ideas about how to deal with this but. It sounds like she's afraid to dicipline him(time outs and such, NO BELTS) but if she doesn't do something she will be sorry.
Another thought just came to me does she give him repect when she talks to him? How does his father treat her? Is he following someones bad example?? Is he angry about something? Maybe he needs an outlet like a councilor or a good friend like a cousin? I hope he gets what he needs before it's too late.
2006-08-22 08:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law in this world that will forbid me from slapping my child if he/she deserves it. I will NEVER abuse my child, but todays kids are not the same when we were kids and parents need to be a little firmer with them. U little slap on the hand or the butt is not the end of the world.
He is only 8 years old and the only reason he is doing it is because he knows he can. Are you actually trying to reason with an 8 year old? They need direction and discipline ( to a certain level). This will determin the kind of adults they might become.
I am not saying for your cousin to slap her son, but punish him and stand by her word. Her son can not think that he is allowed to do anything and get away with it.
They also might be playing out their own insecurrities? Is his father present? Is he a part of his life? Is the child being bullied on school or is he a bully himself?
Considering his age, there is a reason on why he is actin like that and your friend needs to dedicate more of her time to her son. I am not saying she is a bad mom, but maybe she is overlooking something. After all, she is only human and I am sure that she wants nothing but the best for her son.
2006-08-22 08:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, and it will only get worse as he ages. At the daycare I work at we have a few strategies. One is a warning, then time out. For example, if Johnny swears, he gets a warning that if he swears again he gets time out to calm himself down. If he swears again
he gets time out, for about 3 minutes, told why he got time out, and has to apologize for swearing.
Another is to ignore the bad behaviour, sometimes they just want attention. But in turn you have to pay attention to and praise all the good behaviour, like sharing or cleaning up after themselves. When he is nice for the 15 minutes, really praise his behaviour. Also, you talking to him will not really work. At the daycare, we tell the parents what happened as the parents are the real force in the child's life. So you friend really needs to talk to her son, tell him how she feels, ie sad when he talks back, and be consistent with discipline. When she starts to be consistent, it will get worse for a while cause he will challenge her, but if she sticks to her guns, he will get better.
She may want to check Dr. Phil's website, and maybe you can look at it with her, but I really suggest his advice on disciplining your child.
2006-08-22 08:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbi S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Swearing! Oy vey! (And no I'm not Jewish.)
Get him tested for ADHD. It's common, my little 9 Yr. old (10 in October) sis has it and she'll talk back all the time... Those pills really help though! BUT, excluding that option, whenever he talks back or swears, tell him NO. That is NOT acceptible. don't be the victim here. DO NOT succumb to begging, pleading..... That just shows him that he's controlling you, and that seems to be the undesirable scenario here.
Hope that helps...
2006-08-22 09:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Not Dave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 9yr. old has a mouth on him and I take away any and everything fun that I can think of by the time I'm done with him he's just sitting staring out the window, he got the mouth from me so I can't really spank him for it so his mom or dad must have a smart mouth too.
2006-08-22 07:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its anoying that he does that... and even worse that your aunt told you to try to fix it! She needs to ground him, take away the tv etc to get him to stop. Try giving him some extra attention, and ask him whats the deal because the back chat is annoying EVERYONE! You sound like a great cousin! Good luck!
2006-08-22 07:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by maeknits 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really isn't your responsibility. His mother needs to step up and be the parent and put a stop to it. She has waited so long that it is almost too late to change it. But, there is still time. She has to teach her child to respect her and others. Also, if the child is spoken to like that, then he will speak that way. You can say things to him and it could help if he looks up to you, but ultimatly, it is the parents responsibility.
2006-08-22 07:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your Aunt Sucks At Parenting
2006-08-23 09:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by - Alexis. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he needs a good old fashioned butt whipping and stand in the corner for a while EVERYTIME HE ACTS UP. Kids act the way they act because their parents let them act that way.
2006-08-22 09:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by You'llneverguess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where is the father? My son is 10 years old and he would be picking himself up off the floor EVERYTIME he talked back to me or swore at me and God help him if he ever talked back to his dad. I agree with the first two answers you got for this question. Beat his butt.
2006-08-22 08:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋