Everyone says I'm nice, pretty, and smart. If that's so, how come the only guys who approach me are losers?

Question

Why can't a get a decent guy to approach me? I always get the bad breath, no job, ugly dudes that only want one thing. Everyone keeps saying wait wait wait and I keep waiting.

Answer 1

Try a different place to meet people. It does soemtimes seem like it takes a long time. Just enjoy your friends, etc. and doing your own thing, and in time you will meet someone. Often when you are not even looking!

Good luck.

Answer 2

The reason why good guys won't approach you is because you are nice, pretty, and smart. Good guys typically have low self esteem and are lessl ikely to approach a girl. However, the guy you mentioned are those that have high self esteem for some reason and are more likely to approach you regardless of how you are. Take me for example. Most consider me to be a good honest guy who isn't the best looking in the world but not the worst. When I look for a girl I usually don't consider the pretty girls out there because I am too scared of rejection and know that it is more likely that I will be just knocked the curb. Instead, I look for girls who have a somewhat low self esteem and would welcome a guy like me into there lifes. It also means that they are more likely to be a better partner for me. But if you are who you say you are, then that is something very rare among people today. If you really want to start attracting "nice" guys, then I suggest you make yourself more noticble to them. Why don't you find a guy who you think might fall into this catagory and start flirting with him. It will probably be up to you to make the first move. And if things don't work out with this person, chances are other "nice", shy guys will begin to think. "Maybe I do have a chance." and will they will be more likely to approach you. And sorry for making the answer so long, just had to get all my thoughts into it. Wish you luck.

Answer 3

Its seems like some women have the loser magnet. My friend is in the same boat as you. smart funny nice cute but attracts the total losers. i wish i could give you some sold advice to overcoming this obstacle but in truth, i'm not sure there is any accept to just nicely let them down. say something along the lines of "you just aren't the type of guy i'm looking to have a relationship with at this point in time". And when you see a decent guy and you want to get to know him , try approaching him. This is the 2000's girls approach guys and start things up jsut as much as guys do. I've gotten my friend to open up more and approach guys she's interesting in rather than waiting for the losers. It's been working to her advantage!

Answer 4

You might have the pretty down, but for nice and smart, you must be lacking. You could be passing up your soul mate with these guys you reject. Bad Breath? So what, pop them a breath mint. No job, maybe there are circumstances that keep them from that, maybe just inbetween jobs, you never know. Ugly dudes... maybe your standards are a little high. These guys you see as ugly might have great hearts, treat women like goddesses, and end up the next Bill Gates. You ever think that maybe those guys you do find attractive see you as one of the bad breath, crappy job, ugly girls? Or maybe they just see how you treat guys you don't find attractive, and thats a big turn off. If you want to be given a chance, sometimes you have to give a chance to someone else. Who knows, you might find something in one of those guys that you never seen before. Maybe one of them is the one for you.

Answer 5

could be where you are hanging out. could be the way you present yourself to the crowd. If you are pretty, but look like you have no self esteem, then you will attract the losers who think they can win you over by trying to perk you up. Forget about the waiting game, send some signals to guys you like, so that they will feel more comfortable approaching you. a big smile or friendly hello can be just the door they need. If you keep waiting, the losers will start to approach you.

Answer 6

Because you ask questions like this! You're begging for attention! Have some confidence in who you are. You need to hold the air that you deserve a GREAT guy who will treat you like a princess and no less! You need to accept who you are and not live off of what other people tell you. If other people say you're nice, pretty, smart... who cares? What kind of morals and standards do you hold? Do you need others to tell you these things for them to be true? What if no one said that about you, would you still believe that about yourself? Once you find identity and confidence the right guy will come. Until then, you'll find other co-dependent people like yourself and the relationship will leave both of you miserable. Yes, wait. Wait until you have pride and joy in who you really are.

Answer 7

It is not that easy to find a guy worth having a relationship with. You have to work more persistently to find the right one. Other people are right that you should be patient. This does not mean that you just have to sit and do nothing. Our world will always be full of unattractive, undesirable people. So, you cannot avoid them. The good news is that you can stop attracting them to yourself. What you need to do is to take a good look at what kind of attitude do you project on other people. Do you present yourself in a positive, confident way? It would be a good idea for you to read "The Beguiling Truth About Beauty" by Carlin Flora in May/June 2006 issue of Psychology Today magazine. Check it out at your local public libray or search for it at www.psychologytoday.com web site.

Answer 8

Sometimes, if a girl is nice and smart and pretty, and especially if she is self-confident, she can be very intimidating. I would recommend YOU do the approaching. Start with something small, you know. Tell yourself, I am going to go talk to that person for 30 seconds, and then, when the 30 secs are over, smile and say nice to meet you and walk off... just get up your courage, get some practice in, and be proactive. Mr. Right doesn't have to fall into your lap... you can go FIND him!

Answer 9

The love of my life walked into my heart when I had completely given up on finding happiness with anyone.
I was 33, and have been happily married for 8 years. i'm very attractive yet for years the only guys who would notice me were either married or losers like you described. Perhaps, in the right environment, you should build the confidence to approach men you find attractive and see what develops.

Answer 10

Stick with pretty and smart - but lose the NICE until you find a guy that deserves it from you - NOT decent guys shop on this because they can not find dates. The guys YOU are looking for want a challenge which means - PLAY HARD TO GET, TELL THEM TO GO EAT SLIME, when a loser approaches you and the decent guys will notice and say - Hey this pretty little lady could be hard to reach - They will soon come knocking.

Answer 11

well darling, KEEP WAITING.

Andin the meantime, get involved in some things where you will meet attractive, ambitious, nice men. Try volunteering in the community, or joining some co-ed sports teams, take some classes at night... go to the gym. Whatever, but it sounds like YOU need to take some action and go to where the good men are. You can't sit around waiting for them to come to you. And it takes time and patience to find the right guy.