If you like to play with yourself but your husband or wife doesnt like it because they feel you do it because they cant please you should you do it or not ??????
Should you ask them to watch????
2006-08-22 07:16:56 · 22 answers · asked by jenn03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him to be open minded andhe might learn somthing like how to get yout there and you both can enjoy that i pleasure my self and my husband loves to hold be and it really turns him on and it make the night reall awsome for both us and we have been married over 25 yrs
2006-08-22 07:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal for people even in long-term relationships or marriage to find that there's times they're more comfortable masturbating. Sometimes it's just less hassle and fuss, or less cleanup (sex during periods can get pretty messy)--and sometimes, there's just the realization that the other person isn't going to know just the right way to touch you.
I think the deeper issue is communication. You need to be able to be open and honest with the other person about what you're thinking and feeling, and let them know it's not a problem with them; invite them to watch if they'd like, or if they'd like to masturbate at the same time, that can also help lessen the feelings of being left out, or feeling inadequate. But as you talk to them, you'll often find that the actual physical act of masturbating isn't really that much of a concern, once you start really communicating. For many people, it's the worry that they're no longer valued in the relationship, that this is a prelude to saying "I don't need you anymore." Putting those concerns to rest, and keeping the lines of communication open removes those concerns, and lets them feel more comfortable with you enjoying your body, as well as them enjoying their body when appropriate.
Good luck with it!
2006-08-22 07:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by mpetach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've faced this problem several times over the years (I'm 65 now by the way...yeah an old f--t!). Some women have just never understood my need to jack off even while in a relationship with them. As Woody Allen said to Diane Keaton in the movie "Annie Hall", "Don't knock masturbation! It's sex with someone I love!" Truer words were never spoken folks! If it really bothered them, I just did it in private and didn't talk about it. Otherwise I felt free to discuss it and do it beside them if they were not in the mood for sex. I also encouraged them to masturbate. It's only in recent years that my female partners have even begin to admit they masturbate. Now some even don't even hide their vibrators anymore! Very heatlhy I think!
2006-08-23 07:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by doctor feelgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is mentally and physically a great thing. yes do it if you so desire. invite your mate to watch or watch each other. encourage your mate to do the same. My ex never would do it in front of me and thought once you got married you should stop masturbating.
Masturbation has nothing to do rather your mate can satisfy you nor you him because no one ever can make your climax like you can yourself. it is also a form of foreplay many do not do and should.
2006-08-22 07:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Savage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that might work....try making a game out of it, or masturbating in front of each other...both parties have to be comfortable with it. i guess another way would be to ask the person who doesnt like it to perform for you while you perform for them.
2006-08-22 07:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by heavyhand002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do it together - - some find it a real turn on - and your man can learn what you like from watching you. Personally I like to watch my man beat off - it gets me wet
2006-08-22 07:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by sexytherapybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not your problem ... it's your partners problem ... !
Why would you make somebody feel bad for trying to please them-self ... it's natural ... and for somebody to take away my right to masturbate because you feel insecure about yourself in the relationship ... that's wrong ... and I would have to have a serious talk with them ... !
2006-08-22 07:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is normal for most people to release sexual tensions. Explain to your spouse or significant other it isn't that they don't please you but sometimes it is quicker and easier just to masturbate. Asking them to watch or letting them know that if they want to help (win wink) they are welcome to is a good way to involve them.
2006-08-22 07:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by Karina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't bother me that my man masturbates. I actually encourage him to do so, and have bought him numerous porns. I've asked him to masturbate in front of me but he hasn't been willing to do so yet.
2006-08-22 07:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely ask your husband to watch. It is hot, hot, hot!! If he's like most guys, he will you-know-what you silly when you've finished. And, you should ask him to do it for you.
2006-08-22 07:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋