I started dating this guy on new years basically and we hit it off great. I spent every weekend with him. We only saw each other on the weekends for we lived 40/45 minutes away from each other and his job was very demanding. We had a lot of fun together and things I thought were serious. I did love him but I was just too scared to say it. Well at the end of May we broke up and no matter what I do, I still miss him.
I met this guy in July. He is really nice and we hang out every once in a while. He took me to a concert of my favorite band. Now normally I would feel like on top of the world and be really into this guy. However I am really not. I am not saying I won't ever be. Love does grow in time. I think I am holding on to the last guy though.
Do you think I am just not ready to date? Is this normal? What should I do?
2006-08-22 07:15:39 · 6 answers · asked by Stephanie K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take your time, don't try to rush into this next relationship too fast. If you do, you will find yourself torn between the then and now. Give yourself a little room to get over the previous guy before you really comit yourself into this new guy. I am not saying that you and this new guy can't become serious, but you must let go of this other guy first. And on that same note, I am not telling you to cast this last guy away completely, just let your desires for him fade away. I know all this, because me and my ex had this same problem from her side. She still loved the last guy she was with more than she did me. And in the end she broke it off because she felt that she could never love me the way she did him. And yes, that hurt a lot, but I wouldn't trade that time I had with her for anything in the world though, just wish I would have gone slower and let her overcome her fears.
2006-08-22 07:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by lonely_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After any break up you always give yourself time and get over the last and when you do then move on and date others..we are not like MEN. The next hour they can be with other woman. Us females are not like that so give yourself just time, and when you move to a next guy make him your friend first..don't rush into it..good luck..
2006-08-22 14:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your not ready to date, I think it's that you haven't found the right guy. Maybe try dating a little more, before settlingdown with just some guy.
2006-08-22 14:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Supa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. I think you should rethink your priorities and be friends with the new guy until you feel you are over the other one. Then go from there. Jumping into another relationship can be a bad thing.
2006-08-22 14:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by knifelvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it quite normal to hold on to some wonderful memories of the good times with our last partners. carry on with dating you will find in time your thoughts of the last boyfriend will slowly diminish. read more on love, dating and relationships that will help on this site
2006-08-22 14:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are ready to love somebody just neither of this dudes, take your time be more selective and don't give up your love and vagina so easy until you are sure you are ready for this.
2006-08-22 14:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋