ok basically i live with my bf and his brother and the brothers gf when she comes to visit i feel uneasy around her when she comes round she helps herself to food but she does clean up after her and its not all the time but i just felt anger she may visit from my knowledge 3 times in a month but coz i am at work i cant give an exact number. we have had our arguements in the pass but i was sure we resolved them she said she never had a problem with me and that i was always complaining and made her feel uncomfortable to come and visit so we discussed it and i told her that she is free to come whenever and thats wot she has been doing. but i get the feeling when she is around although she makes the first move and calls and txts me that she waiting for me to trip up and say something bad so she can cause trouble and i always feel i got to watch what i have to say. me and bf plan to get our own place but cash is tight at the moment. so it is best to ignore what they do and b happy with bf
2006-08-22 07:15:37 · 13 answers · asked by sexy babes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be happy with your boyfriend. Why all the drama? Life is too short for all the crap you stress over...
2006-08-22 07:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have u told her that cash is tight at the moment and that if she wants to help herself to food then she should chip in a little and help out once in a while. Also, perhaps mention that theres no point being in a b*tchy atmosphere either she should resolve her differences with u or keep out of your way.
2006-08-22 07:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're getting worked up about little things, that means that there is some sort of tension under the surface that is not being resolved. This is my experience anyway.
It looks like there is a lot about your brother's gf that just generally irritates you--no one thing that is a problem, but add everything together and it's like a ticking time bomb!
2006-08-22 07:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by mikayla_starstuff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should put your foot down the way she is treating you, she is only your bf brothers girlfriend, you sound like as if you are living with you mother in law, she is jealous of you, just keep calm show her that it is not getting to you, once she realises that she will give up, if she knows she is annoying you, then she will think that she is winning. Hurry up tell your bf to get a flat, you have your head in the right place, so don't let her win.
2006-08-22 09:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stressed out! So you haven't really got a problem with her other than imagined ones? Or isn't that true?
Tell her boyfriend to sort her out if she eats your food. And take up yoga. It will help defuse your anger.
BTW - I'm not being snotty - my parentsil drove me mad. The expectation was worse than the reality. I was always waiting for that nasty comment. Only, it doesn't seem as though she's made a comment. So - is it all in your head?
2006-08-22 07:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very anal retentive. Maybe you worry about the little things because there is nothing better to worry about?? You need to ask yourself what is missing in your life, when you realise what it is you need to go and get it! Life is way to short not to fufil your dreams. for example if it is on the job front maybe you should retrain or something (better job = more money there fore less money troubles) or maybe you need your own space then seriouly consider moving out. just do what's right for you honey and you'll feel happier.
2006-08-23 01:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Little minx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand babe,at the end of the day if it is your bf gaff then talk to him,y does this girl always havin to come round y dosnt his brother go round to hers?she is doin all this because she is a drama queen and she just wants all the attention 1 of these girls who thinks me me me,you are not gettin wound up just of little things the thing wot is annoyin u is here you will have to do something otherwise you will end up smackin her and that is just what she wants,she wants you to do that,you will have to try and explain to your bf otherwise you will end up crackin up babe,if he cant understand anything or where you are coming from well he isnt much of a boyfriend,you need to tell him because it will end up whitin arguments with you n ya bf tell him how you truely feel hunni i hope it works out for you and good luck sweetie
2006-08-22 07:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by wendihunthuntu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your bf should work second jobs in order to save up to get your own PLACES. Once you are married then you should get a place of your own together.
Good luck!
2006-08-22 07:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath and count to10
that always works for me!
congrads that u have a bf. good luck and god bless
2006-08-22 07:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just save hard and get out. i was in the same suitation and they girl would never clean up after herself so i just told her one day if she could not clean up after herself then she was not welcome to eat my food. u may just speak your mind.
2006-08-22 09:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by lorri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋