My sister is 18 I'm 27 and shes staying with me because she would be homeless if I didn't let her. She cant stay at my dad's because she does drugs. She comes into my house and starts crap with me when I tell her she's not to sleep all day. I have two kids and am busy with own life, my husband wants her gone because of the stress she puts on me. What do I do? What can I do?
2006-08-22 07:11:34 · 23 answers · asked by Tammy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Know that this is my sister, and no she doesn't do drugs while at my house, cause she has to work and I'm here 24/7, she wouldn't do that around my kids anyway. I am protective of my children I love them both.
2006-08-22 08:06:30 · update #1
I'll also tell her to get out too if she keeps her crap up and "oh nobody cares about me" yadayada and she don't care half the time. It's always I know I know, I don't care right now.
2006-08-22 08:18:40 · update #2
Unfortuantely you are going to have to use some tough love and kick her out if she doesn't shape up. You don't want her to ruin your own family. Good luck, your a good sister.
2006-08-22 07:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a ultimatum, if she doesn't get her act together by a certain amount of time, then she will have to move out. That's your house, YOU make the rules, not her. Don't let her run all over you. You only have 2 kids, not 3. You are doing her a HUGE favor by letting her stay with you and she is taking advantage of that.
2006-08-22 14:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about it. it is your life and your home. You were great in helping her, but you can only help her if she's willing to help herself. I don't know your sister, but from what you said, she is looking for someone to support her and her drug habit. Tell her to get a job, then her own place. Set a time limit like a month to move out. If she hasn't got herself together by then, tell her you don't appreciate her sponging off you. Then the best thing you can do for her is say goodbye and tell her that she is welcome back when she has gotten her life straightend out. with a job, and a family, you shouldn't have to put up with her drama,
2006-08-22 14:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if i were u i know she is your sister but your gonna have to tell her that next thing she does she is outta ur house because at the end she will ruin ur relationship with ur husband cause he wants her to leave and u dont and ur kids have to be looking at the way she acts and if she does drugs u definitly dont want ur children around her she obviously needs help and its not fair to you to have to deal with that she is 18 years old she is old enough already to grow up really think about wat im telling u ur kids should not be around ur sister if she is doing drugs hope this helped
2006-08-22 14:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of tough love. Sometimes you have to tell them to find a place of their own. She is going to do drugs and sleep around anyway. By staying with you you enable her to do it easier. We had to put our grandson out. He slept in his car and finally got a job and had to spend his drug money on rent, car payment and feeding himself. So the drug part got less and less. We had also put our son out years ago for the same reason. He is doing well now. We put our daughter out for her bad behavior. If you live in my house you follow the rules. That is all there is to it. If you do not like it then move out and find your own place where you can make your own rules.
2006-08-22 14:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let an 18yr old that does drugs move into your home with your children. She isn't the only one that needs help.
Your Dad has the right idea but for some reason you want to enable her and endanger your own family?
2006-08-22 14:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her an ultimatium. Clean up your act or find another place to live. My family is going through a similar problem with my 30 year old brother. He has two kids that we are constantly watching and he does nothing to contribute. We are slowly cutting him off so he can be dependent on his own
2006-08-22 14:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm and tell her if she continues to use drugs and not attempt to help herself in life that you will no longer let her stay with you. Try to help her find a program that would help her get off the drugs. If your efforts go nowhere then give her a date that she must leave and see to it that she does.
2006-08-22 14:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her into a program to get some help with her drug use.. If you keep babying her and giving her a place to stay she will only get worse..You have kids of your own , I really dont think you would want them to get a hold of your sisters drugs would you ??? Get her help A.S.A.P.
2006-08-22 14:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by MARY B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to sound so cold but she is an adult now. If she choses to do drugs and mess up her life, sadly that is her problem. You have to condsider you top priority right now, your children. They don't need to be exposed to behavior like that. You husband is right, she needs to leave. Try talking her into rehab. I know it's hard but your family comes first!!!
2006-08-22 14:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lou D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋