I am a 34 year divorced mom of two boys and I am dating ( not yet serious ) a 19yr old. Is that to young to be even think about being serious, am I out of my mind? I know that I care about him, and love him, not yet in-love but is there and should there be a cut of point to dating when it comes to age?
2006-08-22 07:01:20 · 13 answers · asked by anjhills2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's legal!!
2006-08-22 07:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by sexytherapybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all its legal so at least you don't have any worries. But here is issue with expecting an honest and sincere long term relationship with this guy... the problem is that despite how you get along, what a great guy his, and how happy you are together...there will always be a mental age difference and that can be a problem for many long term relationships. I mean when your 19, you think about college, partying, drinking, and just having fun....even if your mature. Also, 19 yrs old won't be able to see eye to eye with certain things because he has not experienced it. I will admit when I was 19, I was pretty care free and was just hoping to have fun and enjoy school, even though I was in a serious relationship with my bf...I didn't think about the long term issues or the future, I was enjoying him in the moment. Over the last 6 years I have grown a lot and I am not the same as I was when I was 19. And so I feel now, I am ready to settled down and understand things more like a woman than when I was 19 and thought like a girl. So, what I am saying is your older, your experienced, you know things about life he hasn't experienced yet. Being 19, he may still be dependent on his parents and so, it will be a little while before he is on the same playing field mentally and so, eventhough your having a good time now, you may not be on the same page in the future. So keep that in mind.
I think you should enjoy the relationship, and perhaps see where he wants it to go.Based on that if you wanna continue to have fun go for it! But know if you are wondering if he is marriage material or something...I think you need to continue seeing him for at least another 2-5 yrs and see if it will work, but most guys are not willing to settle down unless they are at 29 or 30...so doe you think you would wanna be in dating relationship for another 10 years?
Also, I think you should enjoy life, so continue to date him, and perhaps over time he can tell you where he wants the relationship to go, and if you want to end later you can....but just know, the mental mindsets and ideas for the future should always meet...if not ...you cannot be happy. Good luck. Enjoy yourself.
P.S. Some things to keep in mind: There is also the fact that his parents maybe ur peers and therefore may not like you. Also, he may not be sexually experienced yet, and even though you can teach him stuff, just know when u lose ur virginity you always want it to be someone u r in love with. Also, eventhough the age difference may not matter to u...his friends may tease him and stuff...so think about it....maybe even talk to him and ask him what he hopes from this relationship and see where it goes.
2006-08-22 14:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOO YOUNG!!! Come on..........he doesnt have a clue about life as yet........you can enjoy it for what it is..........a little fun and probably amazing sex......he is 19..........but long term and serious NO......it wont happen people may disagree but it WONT.... enjoy then move on before getting emotionally connected and hurt... Look for a guy in late 20's or better still older and established....your 34....go for somebody in his late 30's....who know's what he wants from life....
2006-08-22 14:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definitly too young. I don't even think that guys that young, have reached a maturity level enough to be with someone who is older, and has kids. You don't know what he is doing when you aren't around, probably out partying. Dump him, and find someone your own age.
2006-08-22 14:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well his parents might not like you, who knows. But when it comes to you and him, age does'nt matter. If you never fall in love with him then you should leave him because you can't handle the difference in age which is'nt bad.
2006-08-22 14:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like he is with you for the sex you can take this kid for real you are emotionally unstable for your last break up and you just grave the first thing you saw.
Find somebody your own edge since this will bring you problems you have no idea.
2006-08-22 14:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are done having children and your life is set, let the boy be. He needs to get a life for himself and if he wants kids one day, he will may resent you later.
2006-08-22 14:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by SEXY 818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theirs no true age on love u can date a person older then u bye 20 or younger than u!!! there's no age for love because love is eternal!
2006-08-22 14:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by ssonic2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what i say good for you have some fun now your getting older go for all you can get out of life as long as you gont go to jail for it it is fine i like younger girls too some tell im a pervert for that but it make me fell yonger
2006-08-22 14:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by do it good 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya .... You should stop dating him before you two are "in love" I think the youngest max you should date is like 10 years younger than you....
2006-08-22 14:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
date someone a little older with more going on, but keep him on the side for pure booty calls
2006-08-22 14:13:22 · answer #11 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋