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Question

I'm a junior in high school and I have never really been any good with girls. I'm not a jock but I think I'm decent looking. I'm not a nerd, but I'm smart (ranked #3 in my class). Looking down the halls, I notice that the type of girls I'm attracted too are all talking to the tall, popular preps and jocks. Most sites I've been too for help with this subject tell you to just ask them out. But you can't do that if they don't notice you! They don't take into account your reputation, height, or looks. I feel like I'm just written off immediately because I'm only 5'2 and not very built. I don't even know why I'm scared to approach girls. Can anyone help me with this problem? I can't talk to anybody in high school about this because I don't want anyone thinking I suck with girls (even though I kinda do).

Answer 1

It's not about looks (well, mostly). As long as you're not horribly disfigured, as long as you practice good hygiene, you wash regularly, use deodorant, keep your hair mostly kempt and shave when necessary, you'll find that your projected confidence makes the most difference.

Remember, girls are people too, just like you. They're nervous and scared on the inside, and they're hoping people will notice them as well. For the girls, it's even worse, since traditionally they've been expected to be the more passive ones, waiting for the guys to approach them. Fortunately, that's changing--but it's still a social pressure they have to deal with.
If you walk up to them, and start talking to them, you'll already have a +5 appeal boost, simply by having the confidence to approach them and make the first move because it relieves them of that pressure. It's like when you go to shake someone's hand for the first time when being introduced; it feels a bit awkward to be the first one to stick your hand out, so if the other person does it first, and you respond, it's a bit easier. Same thing when approaching people to talk to them; if you're the one doing the approaching and introducing yourself, and bringing up the initial topic of conversation, you've spared them that burden, and based on the relief from not having to do that, they'll be more likely to respond at least respectfully if not positively.

It does help your self-confidence if you have an initial ice-breaker topic of conversation to raise when you go to talk to them. If you have a class together, you can say "Hi, my name is , we're in Mr. so-and-so's class together. Can you believe he assigned us that paper to do in such a short time?" It doesn't really matter what the actual topic is--the point of it is to establish a common ground between the two of you; that way, if she's at all curious or interested in talking to you, she has a topic she can respond on that she now knows you're familiar with.
Even if you don't have a class together, the fact that you attend the same school gives you huge amounts of material to use as conversation starters. Pick any recent change to the school, even if it's something as inane as rearranging the tables in the schoool cafeteria; if you see them as you're in line for lunch, or hanging around after eating, you can comment on the new furniture arrangement.

When you approach them, remember the rules for engaging any unfamiliar person or animal; maintain an open stance, hands visible, make good eye contact without staring, smile, and watch their body language as you talk to them; if they start edging away, or seem uneasy with your presence, don't press things; you don't want to come off as a creep, merely as self-confident and interested. Wrap up what you're saying, glance at your watch, comment on needing to get ready for the next class, or off to meet some friends, etc, nod, wave and leave. On the other hand, if they face you, make eye contact, and ask open ended questions in response to your opening ice-breaker, it means the ball's back in your court--keep the conversation flowing a bit, and get more comfortable talking to them, and listening to them.

It's not always going to go well; but like anything, it takes some practice, and it takes courage to keep trying if it doesn't work. Even if you're scared of rejection, take a deep breath and give it another shot. They'll respect you for having the confidence and the courage to be the one taking the first step, and even if they're not interested in talking to you at the moment, they'll remember you, since you took the first step--and that's always a good thing!

So, go out there, take a few deep breaths, have some good conversation starting comments in mind, and give it a shot!
Good luck!

Answer 2

i know you've heard it all but if u just make more of an effort by putting ur self out there it'll be a lil easier. try and talk to them if there in any of ur classes find something that you two have in common. thats how i met my boyfriend junior year. he was somewhat like you and just had to try a lil harder to get my attention in the classes we had together. for me if you keep on trying to make urself noticeable the gurl(s) will begin to know that you exsist. it doesnt matter if your not the big dumb jock or the hotty of the school you'll find someone that finds u attactive. and the whole ur not tall enough thing.....just find someone thats shorty than you it cant be that hard cause im the same height and i had a lot of gurls at my high school way shorter than me! well good luck with everything. hopefully i helped if not sorry.

Answer 3

First you are short. So you are not above average. You are barely average. Don't feel bad though. Maybe you need to stop chasing after them. Find something that makes you unique. Nothing weird or stupid. Maybe a sport or an instrument you can play. Since you are smart maybe there is somewhere you can volunteer helping the less smart ones (hot girls are usually dumb)
Maybe try joining some club or something outside your school. Churchs have youth groups. No need to become christian, but a great place to meet people your age.

Answer 4

Find out more info on the girl(s) you would like to date and see if you have something in common and try to have them "see" you more often. Help out with their homework etc. Giving a lot of eye contact is a great way for them to notice you and when they do talk to you compliment them on their looks!!!

Answer 5

oh! you short but lots of girls like short guys. no no no don't just ask them out get to know them first. sit by one of the girls you like in your class room or during lunch. if she looks at you like who the hell are you and what are you doing here she is a bi*ch she is no good! or lightly bump into them and just chat once you start chatting with them and you still like she ask her out to some place and then start building up the nerve to ask her to be your g-friend but do not take too long, and do not rush.

Answer 6

Yea! Basically girls are like that. I was just like you but i was 5'8 and was kinda built. But my problem was that i was shy. But if you talk to girls, then you have a chance

Answer 7

well you should walk past them and maybe make her drop her books and then pick them up for her so she will notice you and also you can walk past her and if you have the guts say hi if she looks at you

Answer 8

You don't want the girls that don't notice you, they're superficial. Stick to the girls that do know how you are.

Answer 9

sorry...the 5'2" just kills your chances