2006-08-22 06:45:43 · 40 answers · asked by luckyman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i had been through alot, i had alot to get over..i took things out on people i shouldnt have and i didnt really stop untill i got older..then i really started to realize what was going on..my husband now went through alot with me and loved me no matter what, he held me through everything..and we had so bad fights..but we are ok..if you feel you can make it through and be her strength when things really suck for her this is the relationship for you, now for me it was a rocky road, i wasnt sure about my husband at first and did alot of pushing limits..i didnt know what i had..now i am sure what i have..but it took years and it was a slow process..but when i realized that was it..
2006-08-22 06:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by away right now 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time and space. However, often the I'm just not ready for a relationship excuse is a way of letting someone down easy. So if you choose to give her some time and then try again just be ready for anotherexcuse as to why it just isn't right.
You have to know yourself, and figure out how much you like this girl. I'm not saying it will never happen, I'm just saying that you will probably have to put up with a lot of tough times if you decide you really want her.
2006-08-22 06:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her! It's the only thing you can ever do. Try to take things slowly. Maybe come over with some homeade cookies and some flowers and just be sweet. Say that you were thinking about her and that she should know that you'll always be there for her. It may sound corny, but it works! The worst thing you can do is keep pestering her. Don't be too clingy! Don't call every night or go over to see her every night. Wait until she's ready. Who knows? Maybe you'll help her get over it!
2006-08-22 06:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend...hang out...if you really dig her and y'all spend time together, and she learns she can trust you, she may change her mind...generally people will have her attitude right out of a relationship, but it doesn't often last too long...as much as the pain hurts, we tend not to like to deprive ourselves of the joy...
Or you can move on and let her go her own way...s'up to you and in how big a hurry you are to be in a relationship...
2006-08-22 06:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should assure her that you are not going to hurt her in anyway and that you care deeply for her. Show her that she has nothing to fear but if she stills tells you that she needs space then give it to her and don't try to pressure her into anything. Although you feel one way she may feel another and just don't want to be involved with anyone at the present moment. God Bless you and I pray all works out for you.
2006-08-22 06:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the space she needs, if you pressure her into a relationship she'll only resent you for it, or she'll back out later cause she is on the rebound. Just be there for her as a friend with no expectations, but if you can't handle that, then don't hang out with her.
2006-08-22 07:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely give her space, but in the meantime EARN her trust and friendship. Let her know u have no intentions of hurting her, u think her ex is a bone head, and if u could have her you'll never do her wrong!! (please keep ur word) Just be there for her, thats all u can do for now, if she doesnt see u for the gentlemen u are,........her lost, she let defeat get the best of her.
2006-08-22 06:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be understanding. She has undoubtly been through a lot of pain. Try to let her know that you can be there for her.
IF you are serious about wanting to be with her, you can wait as long as it takes.
2006-08-22 06:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be friends with her, until she's through with the pain, then ask her if she's ready for a relationship.
2006-08-22 06:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend and find yourself a girl to take out on a date. Talk to your friend about the date, and this may bring her out of her shell
2006-08-22 06:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋