Well, today my boyfriend told me he has another girlfriend.... and im quite upset and sad about it. im really hurt, but i cant help feeling like its my fault.. because i cheated on him once. but i told him and he forgive me. so i dont understand why he did it me......... it was up to him show me that he was honest and could be trusted but yet he didnt make no effort and yet he went and cheat on me... so now i dont know what to do, he fogave me, but yet i dont know what else to do...? no silly answers, please, im going to a hard time, so if u could answer respectfully and truthfully. well thankx....!
2006-08-22 06:36:05 · 12 answers · asked by beautyprincess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i realize you are going thru a hard and emotional time, but i can only offer HONEST advice:
- he doesn't respect you... and he's not thinking twice about your feelings, because you've done this to him. also, it's clear there's no respect or he wouldn't have made the effort to find "another girlfriend"
- he hasn't grown up (immature)... he's playing a game - "what comes around goes around"
- if you take him back... you will NEVER trust him, and by the way, after you cheated on him the first time HE NEVER TRUSTED you again (even if he said he did)
i'm sorry, i know it's an ugly situation and you're hurting now... but truthfully, this relationship is over. once it turns ugly like this, you will have to constantly work ten times harder to make it right. in any healthy relationship... you should NEVER have to make it right. it either works or it doesn't.
heal and move on... start with a new slate. good luck! things will get better.
2006-08-22 06:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by charwants2know 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I'm so sorry you are going through this, finding out someone you cared about cheated on you is hard. I don't think its your fault he cheated on you because he had a choice and he chose to cheat on you whether or not you did it first doesn't matter. I think you should try your best to move on from him, because if you do decide to forgive him in the back of your mind and his neither one of you will ever really get over the fact that the two of you cheated on each other. There's no trust left, so you cheated first now he's cheated on you, that isn't a healthy relationship. In time it will get easier but I think you should not get back together will him. I wish you the best
2006-08-22 13:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by catchpounce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he really forgave you... I know it may seem that way, but hey! He just cheated on you babe! I think what you should do is sit down and have a serious talk, or just start by writing him a note. It's the easiest way to clear up issues. I'm not sure what you should do though about the moving on part... I know that I would tell my Best Friend to move on if some guy cheated on her, but I'm not sure in this case! Do you really like him? How long have you been going out? Do you think it could work out long-term? If you were unsure about these Q's, just move on. Have a girls' night with some friends and just let it go! I know it sucks when guys do that kind of crap... But you need to be able to deal with it because it will only get worse later on. Tough reality, but it's true! I'm REALLY sorry that this had to happen to you though! Good luck and let us know what happened!
2006-08-22 13:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you two you need to break up with him beacuse he only forgave you because he wanted revenge, he purposley let you believe that you two would go back to being what you were before but he had his own motives. You shouldent be with him if you are both dishonest with each other, even though I doubt thats what you want to hear but its the right thing to do. Two wrongs dont make a right. Now that he's cheated on you you proboaly want to forgive himright now but later donw the line your going to be bitter about it and feel like you want him to feel how you felt, but has he broken up with this other girlfriend or or they still together? I think he wants to break up also he didnt just have sex, he has another girlfriend.
2006-08-22 13:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by twiinsgirl316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, yeah you made a mistake and 2 wrongs dont make a right. If there's a reason that both of you have or are cheating, then there's something really wrong with the relationship. Dump him and move on.
2006-08-22 13:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Supa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may of down it just to get back at you. Eventhough guys say they forgive you, they still may have a hard time dealing with it. You said he had another girlfriend, does he plan on giving her up? If he's his other girlfriend, then things must be pretty serious. I think in order to save yourself more heartache, you should move on. Time will heal all wounds.
2006-08-22 13:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man when a man cheats he cheat on you for more than one woman ok you need a real man like me now think ya both cheated on each other do you still need to be together and the reason he probly forgave you cuz he was cheatin too
2006-08-22 13:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask why he is cheating on you then you should leave him move on girl get a another life of your own
2006-08-22 13:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey remember what goes around comes around and you got it
2006-08-22 13:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You leave his ***, once a cheater always a cheater people dont change.
2006-08-22 13:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋