=( i think my BF got me pregnat on purpose!! HELP???????
i really LOVE HIM BUT all he does is cause problems EVEN dough i been with him for a year.. he was in a badd car accident like8 months ago and he has changed alot...... am confused !! last night i cried alot so much i could not even open my eyes in the morning. To top things off i think i am pregnat i dont know wat to do am scared i love him alot bt am so confused help me plz??!! advice wat do i do? do i leave him? and the baby??? i tried to leave him like two months ago and he didint react to it he was calm and said he loved me so i desided to leave it for later to talk about and now i think am two months pregnat!! i dont even wana think he did it on purpose ???????HELP PLEASE!!
2006-08-22 06:09:36 · 24 answers · asked by *********** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to sort some things out before you make any decisions. That's a given. It doesn't even matter now if he did it on purpose or not. You should focus on what YOU need to do for YOURSELF. On a side note, how did HE purposely make you pregnant? For future reference, you need to take control of your own reproduction. Don't rely upon your man to prevent pregnancy!
You should first find out whether or not you're really pregnant. Go to a clinic or to the drugstore and buy a pregnancy test. I would go to a doctor or clinic since you don't know how pregnant you are. Next, talk to your family and boyfriend about your options. Ultimately, it is 100% your decision. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.
You can get through this. Stay strong and put all the negative things behind you.
2006-08-22 06:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by happibun8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have just as much control if not more control over whether or not you get pregnant...so you have to blame yourself if you are pregnant. Second, adoption is an option, but how could you suggest leaving the baby with a man that you can't even be with...how will that child's life turn out?! If you are this unhappy, it is obvious you should leave him. It sounds like you might be a little needy and have some self-esteem issues. Perhaps a counselor would help you understand yourself a little better and then you can make better choices. I hope you are not pregnant, but if you are...please get some help. Good luck...you can do it!
2006-08-22 06:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what kind of BIg responsibilies come with being a parent? If you were scared of becoming pregnant, than why didnt you use a condom or take the pill? Are you 100% sure that you are pregnant? Go get yourself checked, bekuz that is very important. You need to care for the baby now first if your pregnant! This is huge girlfriend, you need to figure out what your going to do with your boyfriend, but a little advice to you from me, Dont EVER kill your baby, and dont EVER leave your baby! Do what you want with your bf but he has got to take responsiblity for his baby too! Its not only you! He needs to face up, and get his balls together kuz he needs to take care of a baby now!
2006-08-22 06:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think you are pregnant? go get a test first to confirm it. also try to sort our your feelings first. do you really love him? if he causes problems, maybe he's not the one for you. you tried to leave him before, but he was calm. maybe he doesn't value you that much and that's why he didn't have a reaction. if he really cared about you, he would have some reaction when you tell him that you are going to leave him. and if you are pregnant, the best thing to do right now it to talk to him and get both of your feelings sorted out. do you guys really want to spend the rest of your lives together? do you guys really love each other? talking always help.
good luck! (:
2006-08-22 06:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could he of got you pregnant on purpose did you sleep with him? did you use protection? No single person is to blame for a baby it is both of you that did it . And remember a baby don't ask to be made that you are pregnant and if you don't want to stay with him than the baby will be like so many other baby's in this world in a single parent home . if you didn't want to have a baby with him you should of keep your leg CLOSED
2006-08-22 06:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by genisus5519 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean he did it on purpose? Was he wearing a condom, and if he wasn't im pretty sure you knew he wasn't. That's nothing that could be hidden easily. Were you on birth control? If not, how can you say he did it. If you weren't resposible enough to take the proper precautions to prevent pregnancy, then you are at fault just as much as he is.
2006-08-22 06:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you heard, It takes two to tango, You have to be responsible for your actions, may be he did, since you know how he is you should have been taking care of yourself.
Take control of your like, do what is best for you, don't worry about him, you are the one who will be raising a baby, first of all go and get your self checked out. Come on Girl, stop settling for less. Handel your business.
2006-08-22 06:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont abort the kid- dats just like ure killin some1 ......try telllin ure bf or try searching for a new partner.....i know it maybe difficult for u to find a new partner at this stage u can even try bringing the kid up alone
also i know the situation u r in now is quite difficult ...some ppl answering this question may not be so polite with u
they may blame u for letting yourself too free...but it happens in life we dont use our minds most of the time...we just dont think..and just enjoy the pleasure without thinking of the consequences.
there is no point in feelin guilty just speak to ure bf in a calm manner ...he will surely understand.
also dont pressurise yourself too much itll affect ure kid .
God bless u and ure baby.
2006-08-22 06:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by asslko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur in a mess...from what u type,i understand it as ur loving a guy who is really really not into you..i'm sorry i'll have to say what i'm goin to say..y didn't u think b4 doing 'it'?see what has happened now?ur surrounded by trouble..ask him if he really loves u,or else,u dont know what can be worse next..i sincerely pity u..
u'll have to keep up with ur life,though,u cant just quit living for a idiot guy like him,go on and be very careful in choosing the next guy,looks and cash are very deceiving..
all the best out there,whoever u may be..
2006-08-22 06:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by alexgnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he receive an injury to his head??? That would explain his changes. You have 6 months to work this out....Let him know your pregnant, if he does nothing, then I suggest you give up the baby to good home. He doesn't sound like he doesn't care one way or the other. Give him up too. He might be trying to control you. Don't let hm.
2006-08-22 06:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋