2006-08-22 05:54:54 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sure... as time is not on their side... and not spending time with them means you are missing out on a part of their lives.
2006-08-22 06:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all feel guilty for not visiting elderly, or just relatives. we live in such a fast moving world now days, we do not take time. To much going on to stop and smell the roses, and the roses will not always be here. I know i have felt bad a lot, for not going to see someone, or at least calling them..
2006-08-22 12:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my family is deceased & has been since I was a little girl. If I had elderly relatives, you bet I'd be visiting them on a regular basis, so I'd have no reason to feel guilty. But I wouldn't be doing it for that reason, I'd be visiting because I'd be glad to have them in my life.
2006-08-22 06:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a community carer and on Xmas day, i spent 2 hours with a patient as none of his family turned up to see him, it broke my heart to see him so lonely on such a family oriented day, he had not fallen out with his family, they just did not take the time to go and see him. it disgusts me how many elderly people are "neglected" by their family cos the family is "too busy" sometimes just a 15 minute visit can make someone happy for a whole week.
come on people, go and see your lonely relative today and do something good.
did you know some elderly people can go WEEKS without seeing 1 person? i have many clients that cry when i have to leave and it makes me so sad that they are so lonely.
there, i feel better for my rant.
2006-08-23 05:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Summer Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i do. But u c my grandmother has alzheimers and she doesn't even remember who i am plus I can't even understand her because all she speaks is Spanish. I had visited her once, a while back and I kinda wanted to cry because she is not the way she used to be. I rather remember her the way she was before this this horrible disease got a hold of her. Is that wrong? Damn.. im started to feel guilty again..thanx for askin the question.
2006-08-22 06:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont feel guilty as I keep in touch with my elderly relatives.
2006-08-22 06:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by paula p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. My father has Alzheimer's Disease and is in a "home". He no longer knows who I am, nor does he remember when I visit and when I don't. I don't go as often as my conscience tells me to, mainly because it's so damn painful. To see the most wonderful man in the world become as he has, is terribly depressing. It's a difficult, emotional, tug-of-war. When he passes I wonder how much regret I'll have for giving in to my own emotional weakness? If he was simply old, I wouldn't feel guilty because I would see him much, much, more often.
2006-08-22 06:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by manatee lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has some outdoors help, i'm not particular what the region is.. what type of further help with on a daily basis living? i'd say some times a week isn't too a lot to envision in with him. i am going to't imagine what else he desires help with. Grocery paying for? not a situation. There could be another situation the following, like per chance you sense he wasn't there for you in some unspecified time sooner or later. edi: i listen ya, per chance seem into laundry mat service that takes drop offs and supermarkets that do delivery.. delivery value is in ordinary words about 5 bucks the position i stay for his dinners, per chance there's a food on wheels service or television dinners.. carry him leftovers, freeze food that he can defrost or warmth up for the week.. elderly develop into set of their recommendations, they could not sense like cooking for themselves or different issues.. we can not worry too a lot.. provide the basics and whatnot, examine for safe practices measures.. faster or later even as he passes, you'll likely see that you loved this time more effective than you've been feeling stressed through it.. purely attempt to relish your self and make best of it
2016-12-01 00:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an aunt who I try and phone at least once a fortnight - she has her grandchildren living close, but my cousins have moved away from her and I think she gets very lonely - I do care work and I know how lonely some people are I always try and stay for a chat and send them cards at Christmas and birthdays as some have relatives who really don't care...
2006-08-22 06:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by darkhorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes me!! All the time.. then i make the effort to go .... but then i wont go again for ages.. the longer i leave it the worse i feel and more horrible and guilty i feel.
i need to rota myself.. its just other people at my elderly relatives home really p*ss me off... otherwise i would probably go more often.
2006-08-22 06:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since my mother died, I am an orphan, along with my brother and sister. They're all I have now, along with our kids. But I do feel guilty that I didn't visit her as much as I should have, or ring her. I wish I could tell her how much I really miss her. Love you Mama x
2006-08-22 06:02:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋