Like 7 months ago this guy asked me out, and when i said no he was always saying things like "you broke my heart", and by doing that it made me think that i regreted saying no, so when he asked me out again a couple months later, i said yes. But now I'm realizing that I don't really like him in that way. So i'm thinking about dumping him, exccept when he askes why what am I supposed to say? And then when my mom askes why what am I supposed to say. On top of all that he just got me a really nice b-day present!!!!!! What should I do?????
2006-08-22 05:38:52 · 13 answers · asked by ♥ Sydd 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh ya, I'm going to move in about 4-5 months, and then when I move I could tell him that since I'm going to be like 4 states away, that we can't be bf/gf any more. It's just I'm not sure I can wait that long! Should I?
2006-08-22 05:41:04 · update #1
Thank you so much for the answers! All of the answers helped! It would be so hard for me to pick the best answer so I'm going to let everybody else pick! Thanks~Chickie
2006-08-24 11:16:36 · update #2
Its up to you entirely. It would be easier if you could wait, because at least youd have distance. Or you could just start being like... Look. When I leave, Im not even going to pretend that this is going to work out between us. Long distance relationships are NOT for me, and I dont plan on continuing this after Im gone. He might want to end it now... Just be upfront about it. When your mom asks, just tell her you dont want to have a relationship when you move, You want to start over fresh.
2006-08-22 05:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be firm but gentle with him, just say its not working out, its not what u want in a relationship, and maybe point to the idea that your moving away. But do NOT use the moving away as an excuse. I don't know how old you are, but what if he tries to follow, or in a few months just moves nearby to be near you and wants to hook up again? that just magnifies the problem. Good ol' fashion honesty still is the best solution - no side effects. Best of luck in whatever you do! - Scooter
2006-08-22 05:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by scooter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it a few days after the present...that will suck. But I'd tell him that I really like him and I want to stay friends...but since I'm moving I can't get into a relationship...and then mean it (don't date anyone else...until you move).
2006-08-22 05:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the complete truth, and do it right away. there is nothing worse than false hope, so he may still like you if you move and tell him thats the reason. be honest with him, and tell him you simply dont like him anymore. it may hurt him more now, but its better for him in the long run. end all doubt now, so you dont have to deal with a resurgence of emotion from him later.
2006-08-22 05:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd just tell him it's not working out and that you don't want to hurt his feelings but you have to go your own way. I'm sure your mom will understand too. Just be honest.
2006-08-22 05:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's y u should b honest wit people from da get, u can tell him the truth and say that your sorry but yout not interested or u can tell him your moving and u don't want this 2 go any further so no one can get hurt, goodluck.
2006-08-22 05:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would tell him the truth and tell him how u feel. tell him u feel weird because u dont like him in that way. tell him u think it would be a lot better as friends. im sure he'll understand. and if he doesnt that means u shoulnt b with him.
2006-08-22 05:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by ♠missthang♠14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about it, sounds like he started the whole thing off with a guilt trip anyways. if your not into him you not into him, simple as that. yeah it'll hurt, but the band-aid approach is most often the best one, get it done quick.
2006-08-22 05:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by tat2jug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should broke with him! u don't owe him anything!!!!it is ur life and if he doesn't fit it - dump him! it will be very silly if u date him just because he gave u a nice present and are pity of him!
2006-08-22 05:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to the truth---tell him he is much more valuable to you as a "FRIEND" and you want to keep him as such therefore, no more dating as b/f and g/f and emphasize again that ya'll are now just friends
2006-08-22 05:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋