2006-08-22 05:27:53 · 39 answers · asked by kokomo_area_princess 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
ive already fallen in love with him we were suppose to have a baby 2gether and i lost it due to too much stress due to school and all im just stuck my heart feels 2 different things at the same time 1. it fells that its the right thing 2it feels that im making a mistake.
2006-08-22 08:58:10 · update #1
Get out! Speaking from personal experience, control is how abuse usually begins. It's a very sneaky way to taking over someones life and by the time the abuse has actually started, you can't or have a very hard time leaving. I might be jumping the gun but anyone who tries to control another person makes me nervous. Control of your life ends when you move out of your parent's home. After that, the only person who should control your life is YOU!
2006-08-22 05:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Shaun M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you see, the boyfriend/girlfriend thing is cheap in the world these days because the result is almost always the same. Instead, your relationship should be strictly geared towards creating friendship (thus the words themselves) and cultivating goodness in each other.
Try to teach him the good things in life, and teach him that values will help you to stay together much better than selfishness. If he does not listen to you--just plant a seed and water it. Stay away from him for sometime. If you notice a change, that means you have done something worthwhile for his heart and his soul.
Women should never give their hearts up to someone until there is mutual trust between them and the other. You must simply teach him that marriage is about support, communication, and most importantly, understanding and compassion. If he is not ready, then most likely, he is not the one for you. Just simply, break off the relationship and find someone you can trust.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-22 06:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you must be a very bright person,but when you have to ask this question you are already controled . My suggestion is get out get out now .Before we read about you in the newspaper. Having a baby is out of the question, thats another way you are giving him control, No more out with your friends, Hes not going to babysit or let anyone else.You and only you so he can keep tabs on you. Money where will it come from Medicaid. and then he;llhave you cash it and he'll take.This is no way to live you deserve better and you need help now...while your still strong once he breaks you down it will only get harder..Get Out Get Out
2006-08-25 08:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control like a cult? Get out now.... otherwise, talk to him.. sit him down when he isn't in the middle of things and have a non-confrontational chat. Try not to be angry when you talk, just see how he feels about what he is doing. Maybe he doesn't realize it or is trying to fit in with his friends (however dumb that is, its a possibility). If it doesn't stop after trying to resolve it directly with him then you need to work out if he's really worth it or if you should just move on.
2006-08-22 05:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Behhar B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of that relationship, FAST. The longer you stay, the deeper his teeth will set in and the harder it will be to leave. Some men who are overly controlling have severe mental issues and some are abusive, phyysically, mentally, emotionally, etc.....GET OUT. P.S. Abusive relationships start with a man trying to control what you wear,who your friends are, etc that way they know how far you will go to "keep him" around. Don't let him make you feel like you need him to survive.
2006-08-22 05:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jaybird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about spending the rest of your life with him by your side. Is this thought making you feel safe and happy, or depressed and worried? Do not stay with him if he does not bring out the best in you, or manipulates you to the point where you do not know who you are or what YOU want for your life.
You are the only one who knows the answer to your happiness. Not us here at Yahoo!Answers or friend or family, and also not him - only you can answer this one ;)
2006-08-25 18:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by MeerKatje 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider exactly, on a scale of 1-10, how hot he is.
Subtract 10.
If your resulting number is less than 1, he's not worth it.
You should probably talk, and try to work it out.......supposedly.
Personally, I would recommend just getting it over with (if it's at that degree) and dump him.
2006-08-22 05:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by dystopian_cepheid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control is a form of abuse. Get yourself out of that relationship. It isn't cute when a guy trys to control you..... it is a sign he is insecure. Why settle for this? You are better than that. If you have a high self esteem for yourself you won't settle for dysfunctional man. What you allow in your life will come back to haunt you.
2006-08-22 05:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you like his trying to control you? Is he trying to control you for good reasons or how good?
Are you the Xena or Amazonian type? Or do you feel it is ok to let your man be the boss?
Shouldn't you be asking this under singles and dating?
Is your boyfriend trying to control you interfering with your spiritual life? That is the worst thing.
2006-08-22 05:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should put a stop to it. If you live with him GET OUT and if he gives you any trouble contact the authorities. If he's not scary, but just selfish, you could try some reverse psychology... but only if he just needs to get a clue. If anything else, run like H#*%!
2006-08-22 05:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by Cassiopeia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋