I know some couples who have had them. I didn't feel it was necessary, actually I hadn't ever heard of one until this one couple got engaged. Is it a part of the 'norm' when it comes to the months prior to the wedding?
They had food, music and a cake like a reception, but they could afford it, but is it REALLY necessary?
2006-08-22 05:01:53 · 26 answers · asked by ~2Sxy4u!~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Engagement parties are usually held if the wedding is a long way off, and of course if you got money. You don't have to do this. I have been to a couple of these, they are nice, the bride's father offically announces the engagement. But of course, this people had plently of money, and so of them, just needed a good reason to party. lol
So, sweetie don't worry about it. You just have a wedding and reception of your dreams. May you have the happiest of wedding days....
God bless us all....
2006-08-22 06:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. But its basicly a time for family and friends too meet up and enjoy the fact that you two are happy. Some ppl use it for extra gifts and also you can invite only the ppl who won't be attending the bridal shower, reception and the wedding. that way everyone will have a chance to congratulate you and if they can't make the wedding they won't feel as guilty. I mean c'mon you don't want his second cousin twice removed ex wife's daughter to come to the reception and not know any body and she makes a scene and then it can't be all about you and your hubby. but if you dont have the money to bad wait till the reception to spend it because that day will be worth all the money in world to you and you want to enjoy it so don't waste the money on something you don't need to do. Hope i helped
2006-08-22 12:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by sparklestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we had an engagement party hosted by my mom. but it was a fun, casual party type thing, not another wedding reception. it was basically an excuse for my friends & us to get together & have a good time with some good food & drinks. there were no gifts, nor did my mom even think to include registration info on the invites. if you can't afford it, don't have 1, but if you can, have 1 & make sure everyone knows it's informal. as to your question of it being necessary, of course they aren't necessary, but they are fun.
2006-08-22 14:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by ms v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't see the point of having an engagement party. It just seems like another way to get gifts from your friends and family and make it all about you. I think engagements are still a probationary period, where a couple can still back out. They shouldn't feel like they got all these gifts at a preliminary party, and feel obligated to go through with it. The way I look at it, if they make it to the wedding, I'll bring a gift and celebrate in that true commitment.
2006-08-22 13:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by gurugirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all up to you....wedding should be about the couple and their wants and needs. Do you need a engagment party...U decide yes or No. It's not really necessary if you decide it isn't.
Weddings are personalized to the people, some jump the broom others don't. The power is in You.
2006-08-22 12:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't necessary to have an engagement party. the purpose of an engagement party is for all the family and friends know that you're engaged and going to marry this guy. Which defeats the purpose of the wedding pretty much. That's what wedding receptions are for.
2006-08-22 12:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by superboredom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not NECESSARY...it's all about what you want and how many times you want to celebrate.
Honestly, how many of the people on the invite list for an engagement party are going to be invited to the bridal shower, the wedding, and the reception?
Personally, I think it's a little overboard, but hey...whatever tickles your fancy!
Best of luck!
2006-08-22 12:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Country Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's necessary at all. I had one, but I was not planning on having one until one of my bridesmaids wanted to throw one for us.
Only close family and the wedding party were invited. Since we were having an engagement party after all, we decided to make it more for our families and wedding party friends to meet and get to know each other before the wedding. We also noted on the invitations that gifts were not necessary. This was about family and friends getting to know each other.
So anyways...it's not necessary, but if someone wants to throw it for you...it's fun and a great opportunity for family and close friends to meet. Plus you can order cute little Save-the-date magnets or stickers or something to pass out at the party. :)
2006-08-22 12:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be becoming a trend. My husband and I were married last year in September and my sister in law insisted on having a July summer BBQ with all the family to introduce everyone. People gave us engagement cards and gifts at the party too - even though it wasn't an official engagement gala. I don't know, I think people have too many parties sometimes - it's all costly you know? You have to determine where you want your money to go.
2006-08-22 13:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I didn't have a reception for our engagement. But it is completely up to you.
If you can afford to have an engagement reception and want to spend time and energy on that, go ahead. But if you are frugal like me and don't have lots of time and/or energy, just focus on your wedding. Make your big day special by not having too many things going on too close to one another.
2006-08-22 12:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by Katie N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋