She is accountable for her actions. You are too. You need to forgive her and remember you can't trust her. Tell her this. As long as you are clear with God what she thinks is her personal choice. We are commanded to love one another. It really doesn't matter about your past as long as you have been honest in your dealings after truly repenting.
2006-08-23 03:38:27
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answered by Angel 4
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I think you should talk with your future mother-in-law and let her know that she had no right to reveal anything about your past. I think it is wrong and rude to do a background check on a child's future spouse. That leads me to believe that the mother doesn't trust her daughters good sense. None the less you are marrying the daugher not her mom.
2006-08-22 05:13:55
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answered by Anonymous
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I am so sorry Sometimes the past can come back to haunt u when u got busybodies like that. The past is the past & should stay there. We don't live in a perfect world. But, i hope u have told atleast your fiance about it. That is one person who is entitled to know. Don't worry about everyonelse. All that matters is that u & your fiance r happy together. And for the "mother in law", she is bad news. She needs to worry about herself. That is sad that she has nothing better to do than to pry & gossip. I am sure u r not the only one she has done that to. What a hag!
2006-08-22 05:16:27
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answered by manders1975 2
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Sorry buddy......I have a mother-in-law who, if she knew how to do that 20+ years ago, would have. I'm sure you aren't alone. It will be interesting to read the answers to this question. I think I'm going to put on my watch list. I'm truly sorry about that. People don't realize that your past IS your past. We ALL make mistakes. Gee, wonder what made her do that? The fact that she knows SHE did bad things in the past so she knows how to prove you did? I HATE when people impose on a persons privacy like that. My husband and I don't even go in each other's wallet/purse or anything and never have (unless asked). For her to do that to you.......it's stinks. How does your future wife feel about this?????? I'm sorry. Tell her we think she's evil. MAYBE YOU SHOULD DO A BACKGROUND CHECK ON HER......
2006-08-22 05:09:17
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answered by butterfliesRfree 7
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What a dog, i have a shameful past and have made a tonne of mistakes, (my friends have voweled never to speak of it) ppl have to realise that ppl can change and should respect that you've made a conscious effort to leave behind ur old ways and carry on. Most in-laws would do a background check to be safe, but unfortunately it seems u have to prove to her u've changed! It's hard to escape a past. good luck with u decision, to stay and work through it or simply go.
2006-08-22 05:11:11
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answered by Anonymous
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I would hire an investigator to check my future son-in-law! You will be a family, let them know about your past from your personaly and that you don't like your private life be published in the Daily News..I wouldn't say that she betrayed you
2006-08-22 05:14:49
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answered by alya m 3
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Meet it head-on. It is what it is, right? I would speak to anyone whose opinion you CARE ABOUT, and acknowledge what has been said. Follow that up by your wishes to leave the past where it belongs....in the PAST. Tell them that you're being honest with them...that their thoughts are important to you.
And then....the mother-in-law. I'd talk to your fiance and explain that you need her support and she needs to stand up for you. Present a united front.
Good luck.
2006-08-22 05:14:46
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answered by lauriejustlaurie 2
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Well, I guess she is trying to protect her daughter so she is doing what she can to undermine your relationship. I am not saying that is right, but what do you have to hide that could be used against you? I wouldn't want my daughter marrying someone with a sketchy past either.
2006-08-22 05:10:09
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answered by Anonymous
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We all have one, and it will be another, and another that will expose our past, but stay and deal with her, it might be fun!
We live in and for the future and have our being!
The past takes us to the future, don't be ashamed, it's a good thing!
Gayle
2006-08-22 05:11:22
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answered by gayle j 2
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it was wrong for her to tell anyone....and I do hope your past is good, jokingly tell her you are having a check done on her and the news report will be telecast next Sunday so to stay tuned....forgive the old biddy and have a great marriage
2006-08-22 05:11:59
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answered by Anonymous
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