there's no santa?
2006-08-22 04:51:42 · 89 answers · asked by bobcat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This world is hard enough don’t rush your children into losing their innocents. There will be enough time in their little lives to face reality. Why do we always want to take that magic away from those who believe. Not only that, live through your children’s eyes and smiles.
I still wish I believed in Santa.
2006-08-22 05:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by jake p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest child heard it in the first grade and was very distraught.
At that point, I had no choice but to tell him the truth. In age appropriate terms, I explained about the 'giving spirit' of Christmas, and assured him he'd always receive 'Santa gifts' from Mom & Dad. Ha! In no uncertain terms, he said gifts or no gifts, there WAS a Santa, and there'd always BE a Santa! Gotta say the kid is true to his convictions. He still insists there is a Santa, and he's 21 years old!
2006-08-22 05:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by monkey jacket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I for one believe that you should never tell your children that Santa really exists. My children grew up knowing that Santa was a fictional character and that he didn't come down the chimney at Christmas. I don't think that lying to your kids is healthy in any way because then what happens when they feel they can't trust you. I mean you lied to them about Santa...what else are you lying to them about or will you lie to them about.
Don't scar your children like that.....the magic of Christmas comes from Christ and from within your own hearts....not from a fictional Santa Claus
2006-08-22 05:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by onyxunicorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never told my son that - he knew himself when he was old enough. He came to ME and asked (to verify)...lol. Most children will. When they do just explain they are old enough now to understand that Santa is a fable, however the spirit of giving & receiving is a part of Christmas..and maybe include them that year in helping you to shop for younger children in the house or other family members to teach them that gift of giving - It should be a joy to give as well as receive. Lessons there to share with them. I wouldn't sit a child down and tell them there is no Santa (if you've previously told them there was) until they were old enough to question that on their own. Some kids question early, some much later..and I had a brother that never bought it at all..lol
2006-08-22 05:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-22 05:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to sit down with him or her when your child's friends stop believing in Santa (just ask their parents, they'll know when it happens).
If you're the one doing it, explaining what Santa represents to your family, be it the giving spirit or a religious reason, and how that is very real to you, it will be a lot kinder and nicer than if a big kid at school laughs at them for being a baby.
2006-08-22 05:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Kiari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, a parent should never tell their children that there is a Santa Clause in the first place.
Kids should always be able to trust their parents to tell them the truth. So telling a kid or even leading them to believe that there is a Santa Clause is telling them a lie.
I would suggest rather than telling them there is a Santa Clause to tell them about what Christmas really is. I also think that you should tell them about Santa Clause and tell them that most little kids believe in him but he is not a real preson per se.
This is the way I raised both of my kids, with honesty.
2006-08-22 05:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by netnerve@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If a child has worked out the question then he is entitled to an honest answer because he wouldn't have asked if he didn't want to know. Usually by the time a child is 7 or 8 years old (or sooner if he is very precocious) they know that Santa isn't really anyway, so why tell them, let them work it out for themselves, don't spoil their illusions too soon.
2006-08-22 04:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should even tell your children that Santa is real. My parents are traditional Chinese parents and Santa isn't something they're into so I grew up knowing the truth and I'm still okay, I didn't die. Plus, I'm very into holidays so the truth didn't spoil Christmas for me.
2006-08-22 05:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep them believing for as long as possible. Today Childhood is curtailed due to the pace of life and anything like Santa the tooth Fairy is good for children to experience.
However you may find as they go to school that some one always lets it out the bag.
I tried to keep this going until they were 8 years old if that helps .
2006-08-22 04:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by True B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋