Should I prepare to move on or wait until both of us cool down? if that possible? I really need your help?

Question

I have dated the guy from internet dating site for a month or so. Every is going great including the sex but he has the past that woman tried to ruin him by lying about pregnancy. So he is really paranoid about the subject which came up too many times after we slept together.I'm on the pills and I don't want any kid. We just agreed that we won't see anyone else. I just found his profile back on the internet dating site that we met. ( we both inactive our profile after we agree). I called and left him short messege ( Hi it's me, can you call me back when you have a chance?).He called and told me that the site is making mistake by activate him again. But he was pissed and yelled at me -messege gave him flash back. He thoughft I was pregnant. I shouldh haven't left it since he told me about that woman. He said we'll talk tomorrow after he cool down. Am I inconsiderate? or he is overreact? will this relationship can be workout or his scar is too deep to heal?

we just talked on the phone. I asked if he wanna end this-fine by me or work it out-we need to talk face to face. He wanna work but same time still keep yelling. Later, I sent him the email ( I hate confrontation), about what I will compromise, what I need from him, and ask what he need from me to make it work? Was it a good idea? I am at the end of the rope..Should I still try to work thing out or it is a time to go.?

Answer 1

Sounds to me like he is at a point in his life he can't trust women right now until he's proven they can be trusted. It's a shame that a person can hurt you that much to make you never trust again, isn't it? But it's true. We need to all protect ourselves from that sort of thing and remember that just because ONE person hurts you or stabs you in the back, does not mean everyone else is going to do that. He is being paranoid but I guess I can't blame him too much. He needs to be calm FIRST - find out the facts. Personally, this would raise a flag to me though that he will jump to conclusions when he doesn't know the truth first. That can be a bad situation. Just be cool with him. Make SURE this is what YOU want to get yourself into. I think you have a right to make it perfectly clear that you did not hurt him, never intended to hurt him and the fact that he's accusing you of such a things makes you wonder where his head is so maybe you need to back off. You don't need that.

Answer 2

I think that he is over reacting. Not because some one had problems with a past relationship that means that it is okay to treat you badly. if any thing they should learn from previous mistakes. And if you have only been seeing each other for one moth and he is already behaving this way that does not say much for him at all. Usually so early in a relationship things are still going pretty smooth, its the grace period. But in your case he already acting up. Look i am sure you dont need any issues to deal with so cut your losses and move on. Got to go my boss is coming

Answer 3

Ask him what doesn't he understand about Precautions?

He sounds like he had a Fruit-loop day!
Hope shouting at U made him feel better, look what he's done 2 U!
U may have a long battle 2 prove 2 him that not all women LIE.

Good Luck, hope U can get thru 2 him.
If U think he's worth the fight, don't give up just yet.

Answer 4

Slow down for now. Cool down. Talk later. Not likely the site put his profile back up but it could happen. I have a site I cancelled mine on and still get email from people on that site. Calm down if you love him and he loves you you two will work things out

Answer 5

Well I think you had every right to ask! Sounds to me like he totally overreacted. In my opinion....someone who is that oversensitive makes it VERY difficult to communicate. Will you have to walk on eggshells just so that he doesnt get upset?? thats ridiculous...you don't need that! It seems like he just has way too many issues. You need someone who can handle bumps in the road without making a federal case out of it! Don't know if that helped,but that's my 2 cents! Best wishes to you!

Answer 6

he is overreacting by far u did nothing wrong...because he slept around and women tried to tell him they were pregnant.....thats his problem...and he needs to work that out...i think u need to just cool down let him cool down...but make sure u dont apologize u didnt do anything if u start that sh*t now ull be sayin ur sorry for ever.......i have seen it many times u start blaming ur self and its down hill......be sympathetic to how he feels but dont admit to being wrong.....hope it all works out this is not a big deal and if something like this can shake this relationship up enough to make it fall apart them its prob not gonna make it in the long run.....be strong and stand ur ground ...do not take sh*it from no man.....u were upset so u called him now he turned it around on u.....not cool

Answer 7

He's lying about the website thing. If he's sooo scared about the pregnancy and can't trust you then walk away. He seems like someone who overreacts easily. If you gave him no reason not to trust you he should be reacting differently. And why were you on the website anyway? Checking up on him? So you don't trust him either.

Answer 8

no scar is too deep to heal, and he's overracting have u thought that maybe he is still hung up on old probs u should talk to him when u guys cool off but i have a question for u if u r already w/ a guy why did check out other dating profiles? just thinking about it

Answer 9

You are not inconsiderate and he is over reacting. He has deep scarring and you have deep issues. Your first response was blaming yourself. NOT HEALTHY!
Please cool this off and start getting out in your community to meet people. Churches, singles groups, dance schools, adult schools, library groups are all good places to mingle and meet people, but best of all improve your mind and self-esteem. Internet dating is too full of crazies and needy, warped people.

Answer 10

I think you both need a break from eachother and the premarital sex. Then be straight up with him. Either he's your man or he just wants to go out and get as many as he can. I think you should just move on girl.