I've left home and now at college. My girlfriend is back home. Home is only an hour away. However, the other day my girlfriend said she was this close to breaking up with me because she couldn't stand being depressed all the time. Should I stay with her or watch what I'm doing cause she could leave me at anytime.
2006-08-22 04:38:35 · 29 answers · asked by bdbush007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it would be in your benefit to end it, I mean if you guys were ment to be together then you will eventually but Dude....your in college..have fun don't worry about being in a relationship, these are supposed to be the best years of your life and sometimes having a girlfriend puts a huge damper on that. Trust me man..I wasted 3 years of my college with a girl who lived an hour away and I don't even talk to her anymore..we broke up my senior year of college, and I can't get that time back. so have fun.
2006-08-22 04:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for her, and not want to see her going through the hardship of a long distance relationship, there are 2 good choices...
1). Set her free... and if you 2 are meant to be, then someday, somehow you two will once again find one another.
2). Go completely out of your way to make sure you call her often. Send her emails, letters. Surprise her every now and then with gifts, even visit her more often ( an hour away isn't that far ). Put in more effort, to remind her that distance alone doesn't mean that anything else should change.
The last choice isn't all that great, but I'll say it anyway... If you REALLY want to be with her, and you're willing to sacrifice where you're going now in life, then do it. Leave what you're doing, and go back to her, and be with her...
None of this is a recommendation... just some solutions to your situation, solutions of which I'm sure you already knew, you just needed to be reminded. Good luck!
2006-08-22 11:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by late664 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she depressed because of something you are doing/not doing or because you guys are apart? If home is only an hour away it's not really a long distance relationship. I mean, come on, that's how long it takes most of us to get to work in the morning. Anyway, how much do you care about her? Enough to work on whatever problems there are? If so, try and stick it out. If she seems like she is unhappy with the relationship and wants to leave, you may have to let her go or send her packing if she doesn't have the courage to break it off herself.
2006-08-22 11:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one but you do need her support right now that you are trying to deal with school its hard to do anything when your worried about her. She needs to find things to keep herself busy and not thinking of you all the time not that its bad that she does but being depressed because your off taking care of the future is not good. If you love her work it out and if you don't let her know how you feel if she understands kool if not than definitely move on. Good luck buddy.
2006-08-22 11:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was looking for some reassurance from you. Sometimes all a girl needs is for her guy to tell her to hang in there and it will all work out. She needs to know that's what he wants. If you do that and she keeps complaining about it, maybe you should think about letting her go. Would she rather have you 1 hour away or not at all?
Good luck!
2006-08-22 12:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Leslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's thinking of breaking up with you then you guys should either break up or take some time apart for a month or so and see how you feel then. Long distance relationships at your age are hard to maintain. Some time apart will clarify things.
2006-08-22 11:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by jeneration Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live 45 minutes to an hour away from my boyfriend and neither one of us are depressed, and we see each other quite often. Do you not get to see each other much, if so why not? Not trying to be difficult, but that is a small amunt of distance for such an extreme decision. I would wonder if there are other underlying problems.
2006-08-22 11:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best to break up with her. If she feels that way then more than likely she will find somebody to keep her company and keep her mind off of you so she is not depressed. It will be better for you in the long run.
2006-08-22 11:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by sincere2244 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel attached she is just trying to mess with your mind you are just an hour away she can go see you if she really wanted there is nothing to be depressed about and i think she is just making excuses because when u r in love you do anything to make it work she is probably liking some other guy and just started making excuses to not sound mean and make u feel bad all i can tell you is to really think about it and decide if you really are in love then go from there because u r in collage and you need to worry about your career because any choice you make now is defining your future .
2006-08-22 11:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by conde_j2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't claim her as a girlfriend if I were you.
You seem to have a lot going for you. Think about it, fast forward your life five years from now. Where will you be? Not with her, she will keep making demands and life changing demands are those things you can never go back and undo.
You deserve someone who WANTS to do things for you and supports your education and future, not someone who just WANTS things from you.
2006-08-22 11:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋