My boyfriend and I had a pretty serious fight last night that resulted in us being up until wee hours of the morning. Anyways, I didn't get enough sleep and I was extremely pissy this morning. I think he got the hint, because after we left he wrote me a text message saying he was sorry. I don't know what to do. I know he probably really feels bad and wants me to forgive him. However, I also feel like he is just saying it so I will say I forgive him and we can stop talking about it. But I don't want to just let it go. I still feel like there is more discussion that needs to be had. I want him to say what he is sorry for, or else I feel like it's not a heart-felt apology but just a way for him to skirt the discussion. So how do I let him know I care, but I can't accept his apology until this issue is really resolved? I want to sound sincere but also serious.
2006-08-22 04:35:27 · 8 answers · asked by Heather E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the best way is tell him exactly what u just told us. Good luck with all of that.
2006-08-22 04:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this serious fight over something that can affect your relationship a year from now or ten years from now? If not, then reexamine why it is so important to you to feel vindicated or right? Why can't you just let it go? The fact that he said he was sorry is good. Men don't always know how to deal with females and their need to talk everything to death.
Maybe this:
"Thank you for saying you are sorry. But I really feel the issue hasn't been resolved and I would like to discuss it with you when neither of us are tired and we can talk like adults instead of shouting".
2006-08-22 11:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you forgive him, but that doesn't resolve the issue and that you still need to discuss it, but that you would like to wait a day or two.
2006-08-22 11:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda hard to answer, cuz I don't know what exactly is still unresolved, but basically allow him to make his apology and accept it, first off, but tell him there is still something left to be discussed, and allow him to participate in finding time to continue discussing it. I don't think men are against talking or discussing, but we're highly against having our ego and pride beaten with accusations, blaming and pointing of fingers.
2006-08-22 11:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him the truth. You want to forgive him, you don't want to cntinue fighting, but you still need to discuss it. Better to get it over with once instead of it coming up again later.
2006-08-22 11:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, we have to learn to choose our battles. Honey, if the problem is not really a problem and you love each other, let it go. Don't let the bad outweigh the good. He's being big enough to meet you halfway. If the problem is really a problem, talk it out.
2006-08-22 11:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a small issue u can control the situation so all u can do
is telling him what do u want and if he agreed then u can accept his apology simple but dont try to be bossy try to be sweet when u ask him what u want :) i hope it works :)
2006-08-22 11:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Dr.Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got the recipe so start cooking. lol
2006-08-22 12:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋