He sounded so serious and single. I would not trust him in the beginning, but as fate would have it, i gradually fell for him, loved him sincerely only to find that he was just having a fling with me. he is married with 2 children and is supposedly leading a satisfactory marital life. I feel so cheated and guilty about being so overtrusting and naive. the emotional pain is so unbearable. he told all kinds of things which would create sympathy in a woman's mind. I was emotionally attached to him. But he is very playful and asks me to forgive him and tells lets be like brother and sister. He has just ruined my life leaving me in a misery and i even tried commiting suicide. Kindly post all your thoughts
2006-08-22 04:29:55 · 18 answers · asked by gowri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, this could happen face to face. I know a woman that met a guy and he was great. He traveled for a living. He told her everything she wanted to hear and etc... Well, she gets pregnant. Then she finds out that he is married and has children and that is not the only woman he has done this to. The man's wife finds out and she is still with him. So in my opinion, the wife is the fool. Not the person that got played. That is what you do when you meet someone, you put all your trust in them and you hope that everything they say to you is true, but in reality no one knows if they are telling the truth or not. So don't commit suicide over a loser. I think those kind of sites has rules and you could turn him in. Get him off before he does it to someone else. I don't understand why men do this, but do know, they will get what they deserve. It may not be today, tomorrow, or years from now, but one day they will pay. Karma will come back on him. Women are trusting by nature. We want to believe so bad that we miss clues and hints. I guess you say blinded by love. The next guy you meet, be more careful. Just put it off as a lesson learned and move on with your life. You are not in love with this man, because this man has betrayed himself as someone else. Your in love with a man that does not exist. When you do meet someone, meet their family and friends. Get in his life as much as you can to find out if what he says is true. You can put your heart out there, but don't put it all. Leave a little out as distrusting, and if it happens again you want be as hurt. This person will probably see this and if he is true, then he will do what he can to make you trust him. And that is the person you want to be with. Someone that cares for you, cares for how you feel, and etc... Good luck and don't fret over someone that doesn't even matter and isn't even worth a bullet.
2006-08-22 04:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,I'm sorry for what had happened to you! But its not the reason to give up hope and confidence in your life.He is some unknown person and you want to give up ur life for some junk ,cheater who didn't even care abt your feelings. Your life is more precious .U must not be a coward .I know its really difficult to come over .I who had a similar type of ur problem ,came over and now im happy and content with my life .I'm even more content that Ive not given up my life for nothing. You have people who love you .Take time look around ,if will find love more than you've ever felt! If people start committing suicide for this reason then take my word the world will be almost empty! Go on share with your friends.. your love and friendship.. you will see the difference. Cheer up dear!
2006-08-22 04:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooo!! There are better choices in life for you! You must be a very caring person for you to have cared for a jerk like him. And because you are a caring person I'm sure that you will find another man one day to care for, and one that truly cares about you. There are so many men who are good, it's just that you have to be careful who to trust.
I have dated online too, but never gotten as serious as you did. My advice is if you're going to meet people online they should be local (live where you live) so that you can meet them. And, when you meet them, meet them in a public place. Also plan to meet within 1 month of talking to this person so that you don't waste your time if it turns out that they are not right for you.
2006-08-22 04:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by it's me! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this person take over your life...A moment to love, a lifetime to forget. Build a fence around your heart, forgive him, and move on. There is a special someone for everyone, find that person and give it everything you've got.
2006-08-22 04:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by weeweakie2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its a sad story, but not something that u wud want to commit suicide on... come on u have a long way to go... this is the begining of life... Is this the only guy u wud have fallen in love for... try spending time with a close friend who shud be a guy... u'd forget this guy in no time... Make friends, have fun... got 1 life enjoy every min of it....
2006-08-22 04:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by UK GUY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP ...... do not for one second spend anymore of ure precious life on this 'playful' guy.
What he didn't understand is that even online these are real lifes and real people with real feelings.
Your time will come, be patient and ull find ure happy ever after.
2006-08-22 05:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, by dear, are you really going to let this ruin your life? It is true that feelings, including love and lust, can be created through long distance communication (like phone and internet). This proves that feelings are really within each of us. I hope you will choose to let this be a learning moment rather than a ruinous one. The choice is yours. As for this man? Who would want him anyway?!?! He obviously is not devoting his appropriate attention to his family.
God bless you!
2006-08-22 04:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so overwhelmed, I don't know where to start, I'm sorry for your pain (this will make you a smarter and tougher cookie).
I really don't want to burden you with sarcasm and I just hate it when women get used, but WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING?
2006-08-22 04:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chatting online isn't enough to build a marriage on. There are biological reasons you need to meet face to face. Smell can indicate a genetically good or bad match!
2006-08-22 04:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by thebluebeagle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
suicide is definetly not the answer.. u trusted him very easily.. but things cant b undone now.. all i can say is rather stop talking to him.. coz u wil always have feelings for him..which is not good at all.. a person u once loved as a lover cannot become ur brother next minute can he!!?? its gross!! be carefull next time u have such flings!! move on with ur life.. just forget it as a bad incident..
2006-08-22 04:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋