Why do parents think talking about sex will make teens what to do it & keeping them in the dark will stop them

Question

Why do parents think talking about sex will make teens what to do it & keeping them in the dark will stop them?

Hav

I mean do they actually think a teenager boy will never get a hardon or find girls boobs facinating and girls wont feel the need to kiss someone with muscells if kept in the dark?

Ie its about fancying someone not what you have been told...

Ie lets prove it with an experiment...

Get the campest gay going (in th Uk possibly Graham Norton).

Give him some porn magazines and a video, a packet of condoms hell how about a male pill and a sex ed lesson and see if we can turn him straight and want to be with girls.


Oh and in the past people still gort pregant but were taken away to aunty whatsit the 'back steet abortionist' or imprisoned in a magdelen laundry to be abused and tortured...for life where friends were told she had gone to live elsewhere, DIY abortions. Dying in the process or parents saw to it their daughters had 'unfortunate accidents'

As for STDs... er condoms and std checks.

Pregnancy mutliple contraception ie patch and condoms. Plus practice to make perfect with them...

So why do parents still think their daughter wont grow breasts, start cycles and the boy wont start polishing the wand simply as dont know what they are doing other then wanting to be with someone they like and for some reason want to touch and look at?

Answer 1

Because they are dumb, scared, and selectively forgetful...they are afraid there little boy/girl will grow up to fast and that they may get preg. or an std...my mother-in-law KNEW my sister in law was sleeping around and still wouldn't put her on the pill...thought it would make her have sex more well 1 year later and the sis still sleeping around like she's gonna forget how and finally mom puts her on the pill and gets her an STD check. These parents are hoping they won't have sex and being rather forgetful when it comes to there own child hood when they were being oppressed by there parents which only cause promiscuity in the shadows I mean if ppl would be open about the fact FACT that kids are going to have sex maybe then we would be more intelligent and teach contraception in school and give out birth control and condoms and stop pretending that gee if the kids don't know about contraception then they won't have sex when in reality its well I don't know about contraception but im gonna have sex anyway oops she got pregnant and I got herpes....I don't understand why ppl don't see this its the same as drugs and alcohol I mean would you rather that your kid have a huge party at your house where you can see them getting wasted and take care of them if they need it or would you rather them sneaking around trying to do it behind your back and then end up in trouble at a party where there is no one around to take care of them.....I mean its like ppl think that if a kid doesn't do it around them then gee they must not be doing it....so exasperating!!!

Answer 2

Far to narrow an observation. Some parents are uncomfortable talking about these things. Some parents give way too much info. Some parents talk to their kids from a religious point about premarital sex, experimentation and the importance of being chaste.

Mine I give the basic info, according to their age, prior to puberty. When puberty arrives or just before, we don't just discuss sex, we talk about the responsibilties and consequences of getting involved that way. I stress the importance of protection and self respect at the same time. The point I stress the most is he or she can come and talk to me about anything, without my blowing up or getting judgemental. Doesn't matter if it's about pressure to become active, if sex 'just happened', if he/she is considering doing it, or they've been having sex and there's a pregnancy (possibly or actually) involved.

When you've walked a mile in the shoes of Today's Parent, then you can make such broad accusations.

Answer 3

My mother didn't tell me anything and left it to sex education at school. I think this is because that was how her mother was with the subject.

I am a mother now and even though my daughter is only 5 she already knows about periods. I think that the earlier she knows the less likely she'll freak out the way i did when she starts. In my family we were all early starters. My daughter also knows that if you stop having periods you are probably pregnant.

When she is old enough I will tell her about sex. I feel being open and honest about things is right, no matter how embarrassed she gets!!!

Answer 4

Parents don't think that!
Parents are generally there for their children when they are needed, and want their child to have the best life possible. This includes making sure that they have good information at the time they need it.
If parents aren't able to give young people the information they need about sex then obviously the YP will go elsewhere to find it.

Answer 5

Good question--
Parents in general tend to be in denial about a lot of things......especially when it comes to their own kids.....i used to work with a woman that was having all these problems with her daughter she is 14 btw....so a couple of us said....do you think she is having sex.....she replies no....i can't imagine her having sex.......i was stunned......from that moment on i took a good look at myself and my mission is to be as real as possible with my daughter regarding sex. I intend to answer any and all questions that come my way from her, no matter what.....because if i don't someone else will......i don't want her coming to yahoo answers asking what's a bj?....lol

Of course she is only 5, so all she knows is the correct names of body parts....
Peace.

Answer 6

Good question!

Stupidity, ignorance and power!!!

I'm a parent and made sure my girls knew about sex, birth control, std's etc. I'm only in my 50's, my parents told me NOTHING! It was only hearing other girls talking about loosing their virginity that I realise I'd done it too!!!!!! Thank goodness I didn't end up pregnant or catch an std.

Answer 7

Parents may as well just get used to the idea that when their "Babies" hit puberty, they are going to experiment.
This is the norm. I think if teens aren't having feelings, something is wrong, but it is still up to us as parents to try and teach them right from wrong.

Answer 8

my mom wasnt like that she did the best she could and we didnt try sex til we were legal adults. infact my brother is 26 and a virgin. hes afraid to have sex because of std and pregnancy. i grew up well informed about sex and so will my kids

Answer 9

The short answer is our parents were raised that way and while it may not be the best way it is the way they know.

Answer 10

not sure guess all our folks still live in the dark ages