Why do people look down on young moms?

Answer 1

usually because the older and more mature you are the better the influence on the child

Answer 2

There are a few things here. I assume you are talking about teenage pregnacy. Well life is hard enough as it is. Most teenagers don't realize this because the have little real life experience. They have always had their parents to fall back on if they make a mistake. Well image what life would be like if your parents weren't there as you are growing up. Life would be hard and you don't get the time to have fun and learn and develop to a young adult.
Teenage pregnacy also effects out society. Most teenage pregnacy effect the lower class (speaking in terms of income level) of society. Usually the new teenage mother has to apply for State insurance, food stamps, WIC, and other social services. This requires tax money to fund. I couldn't even image how much money is funded for these reasons. But if there was less teenage pregnancy then there could be cutbacks in these programs (basically because the money is not being used) and the money could go some where else like or failing Social Security program.
And then there is the child. The chances of your child becoming a teenage parent themselves has increased as well. Justify to a child that getting pregnant at a young age is not a good idea when it happened to you their mother. The expression "the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree" applies here. Look at it this way. To your child you are not just mom but a role model. They will learn more about life through your actions than through what you say is right and wrong("actions speak louder than words").
You owe it to the child (before they are ever created) to wait and provide a stable environment that they can learn and grow from. We, as a society, must take responsablity for our actions. We need to be more of a nationwide community than just pockets of self interest.

Answer 3

What do you mean by young?? A teen mom? A mom in her early 20's, late 20's????

People thought I was a young mom at 27.....my husband and I are both college graduates and planned to have our daughter...

I assume you mean a teen mom...

I think that people 'look down' on young moms for getting pregnant at a young age because it is very irresponsible ........children are a HUGE responsibility and if the girl wasn't 'smart' enough to take the precautions (you can't depend on the guy) needed NOT to get pregnant then how can she be a successful parent? Also, lots of people think they themselves are above making stupid decisions. People need to remember that Sh*t happens and it can't always be avoided...

I also feel that they aren't always looking down on young mothers as much as they feel sorry for them...who wants to be in that situation?? Other parents know how hard it is...and it must be even harder if the mother is still a child herself...

I also think that as people get older they get a case of what I like to call "the older I get the better I was" many old people only remember their accomplishments and such...not the dumb things they themselves did...

Oh! Pay no attention to Dr.Z he's a bigoted A**!!!

Answer 4

I don't, because I will be a young mom in 4 months. I'm 21 and everyone at my work seems to look down on me, because I'm pregnant. I'm the youngest that works for this company. Everyone else is 40 years or older. I don't understand why people do that. I know I can handle this, and I'm the happiest I've ever been!

Answer 5

I'm 27 (by far not a young mom) but I look young and now I'm pregnant I get all sorts of wierd looks like I'm way too young to be pregnant. When I got into the doctors many people look like they are sympathizing with me because I'm a teen mom or something, where in fact we have planned this pregnancy. People are just judgemental.

Answer 6

People look down on young moms because they think that they are not old enough to handle all of the responsibility of caring for a child while caring for themselves at the same time. In alot of cases, the young mom is not financially stable and also make lack the proper education to get a job that will enable her to provide for her child. I think that age is just a number and it is all up to each individual person how their life ends up.

Answer 7

I think that women's liberation is partly to blame.

People think it's wrong that a young woman 'throws away' her life without considering that it may be the one thing in life she truly wants- and despite what a lot of society says these days, what is really wrong with a woman having a life goal of being a loving mother and parent?

I think it's true that life experience is important in raising a child, but that doesn't necessarily come hand-in-hand with age (there are some very immature older women and some very mature younger ones too) and it isn't the only thing which is important.

Education, patience, understanding and love are amongst the most important things, regardless of what age a mother is... older mums can be just as neglectful and accident-prone as some young mums... people just need to pull their heads out of their ****'s and stop being so damned judgemental.

Answer 8

I don't know! wish I had the answer I had my first daughter 1 month before I turned 20 and my second a week before I turned 22. (he is now 9 weeks old) I am married have been since I was 19. I look young like I am 17 or so with 2 kido's and a husband and people give me looks like i am a whore or something. It bugs the crap out of me. We own our own business.(im 22 and hubby is 25) we have two new vehicles (payed off) and our home-thats the only debt so I also don't understand while people look down on us because I know many of older people who aren't doing as well as me a 22 year old. (plus i haven't had to work since my first child was born) and no state assistance or anything ever.

Answer 9

well because people are all too quick to judge others by appearance unfortunately.

Also most people believe that a young mother or young parents are unable to care properly for a child (which is crap).

Don't let it worry you, those people must live with themselves at the end of the day, what they say to you is not important. My mom was a young mom and I am a university graduate and I own my own business and I am not 25 yet... people are too quick to judge.

Answer 10

First of all. I hate some of the answers you received on this touchy topic, especially the racist and bias ones. Ignore those, because people are ignorant and the majority of them do far worse then social norms themselves, even if its not having kids young, they do something else that is equal. People feed off by directing their disappointment at young mothers to inadequate their flaws.

Firstly, you never said you’re a young mom, so those who answer your question directly attacking you, one big middle finger up to them.

I'm not a young mother. But I can tell you my perspective on this topic. Firstly, you need to see that a lot of young woman are not steady in their lives and are not ready to such a long-term commitment. I mean having a child, is serious, you need devotion. A lot of the times these children lack the devotion they require due to young mothers being inexperienced or because they have a lack of correct judgement. AND THAT IS ALL NORMAL.

But the looking down on young moms is because of the lives of the children they bare. It’s such a 50/50 percent chance of that child being brought up in the righteous realms of this society. I’m 21 and I don’t think I can bring up a child right now, because I’m still a child and I still have so much to learn. But you know what, no parent is born experienced as a parent regardless of their age. It’s just the fact that when you’re at a healthy age to have kids, your able to support them financially, mentally and emotionally. Because usually people at a healthy age, are able to make good judgement due to their past doings and lessons they learned along their life.

If you’re a young mother, my advice to you is not to care what people think. Right now your child is your world. You made the smart decision of bringing them to life, and that makes you a god in a sense. You’ve given someone life. Now its your responsibility to be mature about it and handle your responsibilities accordingly. Make sure your child lives a life of happiness, get support from your parents, friends and family. Just keep the goal in the mind, that you want your child to grow up and not once think “my mom had me so young why can’t I?” or “My mom was so young and stupid”. You want them to realize how hard you worked it for the so they can appreciate you in the future years no matter how old you were when you gave birth to them. You want them to say "Yeah my mom had me young but damn she was strong to raise me so well" Just be wise, speak to your elders….get advice.

Answer 11

because in 1960 the standard was to be married at 18 and start a family, but in 2006 the standard is to go to college have a few good party years, get a job after college settle down with someone and have a child after your financialy secure. That way your child has better oportunities in life than being destined to live in the trailor park there whole life