My bf is pushing for a baby. Please tell me nice things about becoming a mom???

Question

I have never really gave much thought about babies but I have found a bf who is eager to have them. I can just think about things such as weight gain and waking up at the middle of the night for months on a row. Please tell me about the blessing part? Thanks.

Answer 1

Well, my son started sleeping through the night at a month and a half old, that in itself is a blessing. :) Yes, you gain weight, but you can lose it. Yes, you have to go through hours and hours of pain for labor and delivery, but you forget all about it as soon as that beautiful baby is placed in your arms.
It is wonderful to feel moving and squirming inside you and know that is YOUR baby. You helped create a life. You are growing that life.
Waking up in the middle of the night is not as bad as it seems; in time, you forget all about it and want another baby. lol. I guess that's how I got pregnant again.
Above all, you have helped create a person. A real person, who will love you and look to you for advice and teaching. It's a wonderful feeling, that you will never know until you are a mom.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You're obviously not ready to have children so don't go making any. The blessings come when one is mature enough to get past the things such as weight gain and waking up in the middle of the night for months in a row. Your boyfriend no more wants you to have a baby than HE wants to be stuck paying child support, he is only telling you these things to have sex.

Answer 3

There are so many wonderful things (and not so wonderful things) about babies. The middle of the night bottles and diapers and colicky screaming fits aren't fun. When your baby looks up at you and smiles at you for the first time...it's incredible. I cried when my two boys did this. It's probably hard to explain to someone who doesn't have kids or really hasn't taken an interest in them until lately, but trust me...it is amazing.

I think the best is when they get a little older. My 2 1/2 year old son greets me every day at the door when I get home from work with, "Hewwooooo Mommy! I yub you (love you) Mommy!" and makes "fish lips" and gives me a peck on the cheek. His younger brother (13 months old) has reacently learned to walk, and he comes lumbering over like a cross between the Frankenstein monster and a zombie (arms all outstretched) with this HUGE grin on his face, and his little dimples, and is SO happy to see me. He gives me a big, drooly kiss right on the lips. I love my kids so much. :)

They're kind of like dogs in a way (although kids don't shed and slop water from their bowl all over the kitchen and poop in the yard, lol). They're glad to see you, no matter what. To them, the highlight of their day is seeing you just walk into the room, whether it's because you've been at work all day, or have been in the basement doing laundry for the last 20 minutes, or are just getting home from the grocery store. Their little faces light up like you've just done the best thing for them...and all you were doing was being Mom. :)

Answer 4

i don't feel like you are ready if you have these kinds of feelings like dread. (Dreading the 3am feedings and weight gain) But babies are wonderful.....They look up at you while you are feeding them and you see so much love in their little eyes as they focus in on you. The feeling that God trusted you with this life to care for and nurture. when they start talking and say Moma or Dada. When they cry for you. When they leave their toys just to come give you a hug and tell you they love you! They are truly blessings! They are hard work too but it is worth it!

If you breastfeed it helps for you to shed those baby pounds! Plus when else can you eat whatever you want and not worry about it! Your are going to be a mommy! Enjoy the pregnancy! It only lasts 9 months!

Answer 5

Dear Rose,

In my 100% honest opinion...I don't think you are ready to be a mom because the desire is not in your heart. This isn't something that you should have to be convinced or pursuaded about.

It should be a natural desire. You should have overwhelmingly joyous thoughts and feelings. And right now you don't. So, I'd wait until you have the God Given desire to be a mom.

Motherhood is 365 days a year, 24 hours a day, and will NEVER end, just because the child grows, does not mean you won't be waken in the middle of the night...ask the mothers of teenagers, and college aged children(which I am a mother to 1). My oldest is 18, my youngest is 3. Ask mothers with toddlers and young children how often they are awakened. Ask mothers with children who are getting married! Ask mothers of children going through menopause, or hitting middle age! Then ask the grandmothers!!

We love our children, we delight in our children both young and old.

Motherhood is a Holy Calling & a Holy Annointing.

Blessings To You & Yours

Answer 6

A baby is a blessing in it's self. If you need to be reminded of what joys are to come it might be a good idea to wait until you two are BOTH completely ready and understanding of what is to come. All the hardships of being a mother add up to the joys. The pain of labor and loss of sleep are nothing compared to the look in your baby's eyes or the first time they smile at you. Just think things through before you jump blindly into a situation that is a one way street.

Answer 7

Being a mother is not easy - it's hard work. I have a set of twins who are five and the joy of my life! The first year or so with a baby (or babies) is tough on both mom and dad. However, the amount of rewards outweigh the tough times. The first time you hear your child say "Mama" will just tug at your heart. Potty training is messy, but funny! The part I'm going through now is Kindergarten. It's sad because they're growing up but I'm really starting to see their independence. :-)

Answer 8

YOu have one when you're darn good and ready....DON'T let him push you into doing somethign you're not ready to do.

How old are you?

Yes, there are blessings to having children...children alone are the blessing...you really don't know love until you have had a child...they all say that and it's true! and you never know what they mean until you have one.

However, you are responsible for this wonderful little bundle of love for the rest of your life (I say that cuz even after they leave home you still feel responsible for them).

Waking up every 2 to 3 hours to feed them for the first few months, changing poopy diapers (which get worse when they start eating food), being puked on, peed on, pooped on....all your money goes to the children, the list can go on and on.

So unless you are ready willing and able to have a child...seriously re-think your boyfriend!

merlin the cat

Answer 9

Having a baby is a lot of work. What is he signing up to do? If you guys aren't in a very committed relationship, married or not. You should be looking at this from the perspective of whether you are willing to be a single parent and take this on by yourself. You need to evaluate how involved he wants to be as a dad when it comes to all the details of feeding, changing and discipline. Which is another thing you need to be on the same page about - how are you going to raise this new person?

Answer 10

Children are beautiful blessing the enhance every aspect of life, they bring delight to the smallest wonder. And love you unconditionally. But i think if you have to ask you know the answer and being happily pregnant now and looking forward to a baby girl soon i would tell you like i would tell my sister.. YOU DON'T SOUND READY!! I can only be honest with you is your bf ready for this responsibility, of diapers, daycare, unselfish sacrifice of his time space and wants. I want to encourage you to wait wait wait wait wait, he maybe in a rush now to have a baby but why ... look deep into your heart and ask is he wanting something to replace something he doesn't have with a child. Children are so special and as a mother you want to be able to do everything in your power to make life easy for them.
I would ask these questions before you start trying

1. where will we be in 1 year ... (not some fantasy answer)
2. where will we be in 5 years ....
3. is this someone who is willing to support my MAJOR personal decisions. (i.e. going to school, changing job being a stay at home mom etc etc )
4. what besides our emotions do we have in common?
5. what besides love will we offer a child or children(i.e. family life, housing, education, etc)
if you can "live" with the his best answers to all of these question go for it but if all else fails turn on Maury!!!