It has been theorized that the stricter the home the stronger the rebellion, and there is a lot of observable evidence to back that up. So if it is so great a concern why tighten the proverbial reigns?
2006-08-22 03:51:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
On a side note, yes I have two of my own.
2006-08-22 03:51:54 · update #1
So true.....That is funny, because my 13 year-old daughter yesterday when she was leaving the house said with a big smile, "thanks for giving me such freedom, mom."
That lets me know that I am on the right track....
2006-08-22 04:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children will rebel. This too is a Biblical truth backed up repeatedly in scripture. The idea is to set within them a firm foundation "so when they grow old they will not depart from the ways" of their youth, meaning the way the children were taught before they rebelled
2006-08-22 04:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by wiregrassfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start with: I was one of those people for 21 years. I had become a lead teacher in the Christian Church, and during that time often dismissed arguments as inspired by the Devil. I am now an Atheist, and can offer you insider information. The Church teaches this doctrine out of fear. The Bible is full of delusional and inconsistent concepts that science and reasoning either entirely disprove or refute. Christians are taught that to doubt the Bible and church doctrine is sinful, so they become filled with fear of damnation. Denial is Ignorance, Ignorance is Bliss, and Knowledge is Pain.
2016-03-27 01:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being a parent I can't say, but I have been blessed with two fabulous parents and have experience as a child.
Parents love their children and never want to see harm come to them, so they do everything they can to protect them from hurt and pain (physical and emotional). However, kids need to learn for themselves when they get to a certain age. Example: I dated a guy who was totally wrong for me for 2 1/2 years that was totally wrong for me. My parents despised him, and with good reason, he was totally creepy (think that John Mark Karr guy, that says he killed JonBenet Ramsey--that kind of creepy). However, I thought I was in love, and yadda yadda yadda. When I finally broke it off, it hurt. But I had to learn what that hurt was like, and learn to deal with it myself so that I could become a better person, and I am now. That way next time it happens I know better. Just something to think about.
2006-08-22 04:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it goes back to choosing your battles. My daughter at 13 wanted to dye her hair black with burgundy bangs. I let her, its only hair, it grows out you can cut it off. My husband and Preacher father in law hated it and ragged on her alot about it. It only made her want to do it more. But I supported her. Now at 16 she has no desire to dress wierd or smoke. Allowing kids a chance to express themselves and establish their identities in small ways that seem rebellous but in the end are harmless, is what I call Controlled rebellion. Worry about what will get them hurt, not about hair color or funky clothes, most of them will grow out of it.
2006-08-22 04:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by paddlelady911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cases yes, rebellion, its the course of learning right from wrong. However without some rebellion, our existance would cease, because we would be afraid to try something new ...
2006-08-22 03:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by pilotattitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for me and my experience.
I rebelled out of frustration and anger. The adults that I was living with when I was growing up never listened to what I needed...just what they thought I needed. I was never asked what I wanted or wished for, and when I argued or disagreed, I was cruelly punished (physically and emotionally.) I was being taught using "tough love" without recourse or redress...I rebelled.
God is not like this...Isa. 1 tells me to question, and argue out, our salvation and His ways. God is just, and merciful. God listens to us, and He loves people who doubt and inquire about the truth. If our children knew, in their heart of hearts, that this is the true nature of God, they wouldn't rebel.
2006-08-22 04:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by stronzo5785 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that my sons are less likely to rebel about something if they understand why it is important. Making it easier is not always the answer. Hurdles and obstacles can help to make us stronger.
2006-08-22 03:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree that parents should not be overbearing to the point of smothering their children's individuality. However, responsible parenting also entails teaching correct principles. If you teach children correct principles and then let them govern themselves, they will often suprise you by choosing wisely.
2006-08-22 04:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Open Heart Searchery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I think some Christians are too worried that their children will make then look bad so they're very strict.
2006-08-22 04:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Demon of hand-writing analysis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋