you dont have to be cruel, no one knows what my life was like before i left everything. i gues this wasnt the best place to ask advice. i love my kids, more than anyone can know.
2006-08-22 03:45:53 · 18 answers · asked by woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That often happens in your situation. There's no easy way to get your b/f to understand. Never give up hope, check your priorities in life and talk to me if you ever need or want to.
2006-08-22 03:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just read your other question.
Yes, people sometimes don't consider other factors and they assume things they reallly know nothing about, especially since there isn't much room for you to give all the facts.
I don't think your boyfriend doesn't understand. I think it's because he doesn't know what to do or perhaps other things are bothering him. I was in a similar case where my partner just didn't appreciate what I did for him. No kids and no 'other partner' involved, but I still sacrificed many things to be with him.
We broke up and have since discussed why we broke up. I mentioned things that I said while we were together and he gives me the whole 'you should have said' speech.
Seems he wasn't really listening because of his own problems and things. I think males hear you but they don't listen when you are upset. He also didn't know how to handle me when I wasn't happy.
I think the best way is to sit and talk with the intention of sorting it out. I wouldn't say counselling per se but perhaps more mediation. You may find you're not the only one with something to say and you may not like what he says.
Good Luck..
2006-08-22 20:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by thespian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Amy I am a good listener. I am a professional counsellor here in the UK. I work with young people with substance misuse problems. Some of them sound just like you and honestly I promise you I will not judge you or give you 10 cent advise that you can get from any agony aunt. All you have to do is tell me in detail what is the problem and I will try and enable you to see a way through your unhappiness at this time. If you choose not too OK no problem but you sound as though you need to speak to some one. I assure you I can be totally objective with you and hey it is sometimes easier to talk to a total stranger. I have been doing this work for 15 years and you will not shock me. Please no matter what look after yourself regards Dirky
2006-08-22 11:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Amy, you haven't said much about your problem, if your boyfriend is giving you a hard time then get rid of him, or take some time apart, kids don't want to see their mum upset, for kids to see you upset over a man is not worth it. You are a strong character, it is not easy bringing up children, if you have left everything in the past then don't make that same mistake again. Put your kids first, and nothing or nobody should get in the way.Oh! i don't know can't help you if we don't know what your problem is sorry babes, i wish you well and good luck
2006-08-22 12:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what your original question was, and am sure some people were fine. People dont know what you dont tell them, so have to make assumptions based on the info that you give. I love my kids too, as do most mothers and they tend to get put before your own feelings and emotions all the time.
Errrr. so based on your question - I guess maybe this isnt the best place to ask for advice. You always get eegits posting stupid stuff for replys to questions (ive probs done it myself if it was a stupid question).
So that tells you nothing really, but this particular question didnt really ask anything either. It was more of a statement than a question.
2006-08-22 10:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Moi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy I read your other question. I think the reason your boyfriend acts as he does is not so much that he doesn't understand but that he feels guilty because you gave up so much for him. When you get depressed and cry because of it, he really just can't handle it, it is to much because of his guilt. I can only suggest that you try talking to him about it, or alternatively, is there any way you can both go for counselling together? If you are not already, I would suggest you seek medical attention for your depression and also counselling for you if your boyfriend doesn't want to go. I do hope things work out for you - my heart goes out to you. I hope you find the help you need. God Bless.
2006-08-22 11:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry there are some nasty people on here it must be terrible for you men are not very good at understanding you have given up a lot but this man does not sound good to me can you not go back where you came from and put it down to a bad experience i hope you sort it out be happy i will be thinking of you good luck.xxxxxx tried to e mail you but no success
2006-08-22 10:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by ladybird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello amy,
Your problem is best left to the professionals. You should go see a psychologist or a psychoanalyst about this and get some help. I'm being serious.
--Rick
2006-08-22 10:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not being fuuny but dont ask strangers questions on here you must know that the internet is full of tossers can you not talk to a close friend
2006-08-22 10:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy you need to confirm your email address as I have advice for you but cannot send it to you because you have not confirmed your email address it is sultrysag you emailed me before I have had to guess your email address don't know if it is right email me again yeah chick x
2006-08-22 10:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by sultrysagittarius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋