My ex-boyfriend and I hav been broken up for about a year now but we haven't stopped going out w/ eachother and he still tells me that he loves me and that he wants to marry me. He also says that I'm "The One" and just to be patient because once he finishes med school next May he'll begin making "real" money to support us and enough to plan a great wedding.....should I stick around???
2006-08-22 03:42:25 · 38 answers · asked by Pink3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are “the one.” The one he wants to use until he gets out of med school. If you are broken up, you are broken up. A guy wouldn’t allow that status to persist unless he was just reaping benefits. You are a source of booty to him and he will say anything to keep the supply lines open until he has time to seek out “the one.”
2006-08-22 03:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not broken up with your boyfriend because if you were you two wouldn't be still going out with each other like couples normally do. Everything you have written down tells us that you still love him and he's not much of an ex as you think he is. If he's still telling you these things then why are you two still broken up? If he wants to take care of you and your "The One" then why don't you two get back together. You shouldn't have to wait around for him until he gets out of med school. If you truly feel he is worth the wait then by all means wait for this guy, but if you are going to do that you two need to atleast get back together as boyfriend and girlfriend.
2006-08-22 03:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your heart tell you? money isn't everything but it can help and if it's about supporting you and giving you what you want then maybe? Is he your "one". If not then move on, if you think he is, then maybe is it worth waiting round a while. If it's about having a big wedding, then that's not really what a wedding is about - it's about 2 people and the commitment thing and it can be even more magical with just you and your witnesses (and the vicar of course).
2006-08-22 03:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's not seeing other people and you want to be wiht him, too. I don't see why not.
Why did you break up in the first place if you are still seeing each other? Sounds like you're not really broken up. Unless he wants to be able to do his thing...
If he wants to marry you, tell him to ask you and give you a ring. That way you know he plans to make good on his promises. Otherwise he may be stringing you along because you are convenient.
Good luck chica!
2006-08-22 03:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by **Shannen** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get your own life and not rely on him for "support". if you both love each other you can support each other mentally and emotionally. i dont know why money should come into this equation of love.
u can stick around if you want. but it is important to have your OWN life and OWN interests and not revolve it around him.
date him here and there but if by chances things don't work out at least you'll be strong enough to move forward and get other men more suited for you since you and probably even better than him.
you deserve to be loved and should NEVER come in second.
2006-08-22 03:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you enjoy dating him? If so, then just sit back and enjoy this stage of your relationship. It's actually very smart and mature for him to wait until after he finishes med school,especially if he's that close to graduating. This will allow him to focus more on his finals and things needed for school now, in return leaving him more time to focus on the wedding plans when that time comes.
2006-08-22 04:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether you believe him or whether you feel he is just hanking on to you and keeping you as the "Jerk in Reserve" until he finds what he really wants. Lots of people going to school get married. Has he cheated on you? Do you know you are getting all of his free time? Have to talked seriously about marriage? BEing a doc's wife is no picnic -- you are second, always to Mistress Medicine, and some of them are real rounders when it comes to women. They generally don't have 9-5 jobs, and temptations are everywhere.
2006-08-22 03:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you broke up for in the first place. If you broke up cause he was in school and wasn't spending enough time I would say yeah but if it was something else you may have to make that decision yourself or ask a close friend their opinion because we don't know the circumstances of you twos relationship
2006-08-22 03:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by kandigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are either of you dating anyone else?? I can completely understand wanting to wait till graduating. School is ALOT of hard work and having to be completely into school AND having a girlfriend around is too hard for most to handle. I say wait it out if you feel the same.
2006-08-22 03:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are on a break? I would say to use this time to go out with other guys (just casual dating) and see what other qualities you like in a guy to make sure he is the one you want. No reason to be faithful to somebody if you aren't going out.
2006-08-22 03:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋