I met an amazing guy nov 2004, we hit it off brilliantly but he always seemed a bit shy talking about his feeling which didnt matter at the time, I ended it four months later due to living 300miles apart and I couldnt handle the distance and not seeing him all the time... I am one of these people who get very engrossed early on I just want to spend all my time with him!.... we have stayed in contact talking about our then new partners and supporting each other when they both ended badly... the thing is I have always known I want to be with him and spend the rest of my life with him, and we recently met up and spent the week together... it was perfect!!! he admitted to me he likes me a lot and wants to carry on seeing me.. Im just worried I might ruin it by being to eager to see him, Im so awair of his pressure due to his job and I dont want to be seen as another pressure.. but I just love being in his company I cant help my self!! also when is it ok to talk about being exclusive!?
2006-08-22 03:25:59 · 7 answers · asked by meow22 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi, thanks for your thoughts....
I have said to him about movin to his city which he sounded pleased about, also he did say to me I should stop doubting myself! lol.. which has probably sent me in to this little caos state.. lol... we are seeing each next weekend and I cant wait.... I just want to be in his arms all the time... if he asked me to move to his city I would do in a second.. I have found myself looking for jobs in his area.. and when he came up to me last week he did say he would love to move here but couldnt cos of work... I just hate the not knowing stage of things.. that squermy butterfly feeling I have in my staomach just wont go away,, :-)
2006-08-22 03:42:14 · update #1
ok I have already said about moving closer but again Im doubting myself in the fact that I wouldnt want it to scare him off..... maybe I might bring it up next timw we see each other again and see how he reacts again.....
2006-08-22 04:20:25 · update #2
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him to be honest about his feelings too. There should be no judgement and there should be no precontext answers between the two of you guys. The sooner you tell him how you feel the better. If he feels that you are pressuring him, tell him to let you know and then you will slack off. The best advice I can give you is communication and fate will do the rest. best of luck amigo
2006-08-22 03:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love will find a way! it always does. maybe u guys r meant to be together and distance is just a test to ur true love. if he has job pressure can u move closer to him? or maybe just keep in touch via internet and calls and wait for the right time. sometimes love is also sacrafice and patience. so if this is the guy then wait or u take the step go to him..
2006-08-22 10:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the attraction you feel and felt for each other will always be there but you are going to run into the same problems and it's no-one's fault. unless you can move to be near him then you'll suffer and put each other through another break up. you can't change who you are and what you need but try to resolve the old problem and you stand a good chance. don't see other people while you sort this out..it will confuse you both and it will hurt others.
2006-08-22 10:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you've answered you own question - you need to play it cool for a bit. The exclusive thing normally sorts itself out, you don't have to say anything in my experience, if someone is really into you they just stop seeing other people. Chill and good luck!
2006-08-22 10:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Leapling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have done ldr many times and I ended them all because I could't handle the distance.If you cannot handle the distance leave because it will hurt for a while but in the end you will be happier.but if you truly think he the one why don't you move closer to him.
2006-08-22 10:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nails 4 breakfast,tacks 4 snacks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you move nearer to him? if he want to see you then it is exclusive, talk to him and tell him how you feel.Good luck
2006-08-22 10:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by cheyenne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think you got to take it easy, since he has a tight schedule try to understand
2006-08-22 11:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋