please tell how to arouse my partner and also how to get started.
2006-08-22 03:22:59 · 25 answers · asked by PH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here are my top 5 suggestions:
1- Talk & tease
The power of suggestion through foreplay can be as great as the sex itself for many women. If you can describe how you want to touch her, where, and with which of your body parts, she'll visualize it easily and eagerly. And if you know how to have sex with her brain, you can bet that she'll be begging you to have sex with the rest of her in due time.
If you need to touch her while you talk to her, avoid touching her breasts and vagina. Instead, focus your mouth and hands on her neck, wrists, inner thighs, lower back, and ears.
2- Get started in public
If your girlfriend doesn't start crying at the thought of public displays of affection (and you don't either, for that matter), try doing some fun things in public. And by fun things, I mean rubbing her breasts or patting her *** in a restaurant, kissing her passionately while having drinks at a bar, dirty dancing at a nightclub, etc. Make an effort to turn her on wherever you are.
If you show her that she turns you on via PDA, when you finally do find yourselves in a private situation, the good times will shake, rattle and roll.
3- Strip down
While I don't suggest you dance for her while you take off your socks, I do recommend that you remove your clothes slowly (especially if you're fit). Start by removing your socks, then your shirt, then your pants, and then your underwear.
At this point, undress her just as slowly. Sit her down and remove her clothing in the same order you removed yours.
4- Give her an oral & some fingers
Bring your fingers to her vaginal area and, with the tips of your fingers, rub her outer lips by spreading them apart and bringing them back together; that'll start the lubrication process.
When she begins to spread her legs even more, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch the wet spot. At this point, you can start rubbing her inner lips lightly, and then move up to her clitoris, which you should rub in a circular motion.
After a few minutes, bring your mouth to the area and, while you continue to use your fingers to play around inside her, begin suckling her clitoris.
5- Watch some sex & kiss her
Porn is a great way to get you and your girl in the mood. Put on something that both of you can enjoy (preferably other couples having sex), and lay naked with each other while you watch it.
Every now and then, stop watching the movie and kiss her, or play with her body. Make sure to pay more attention to her than you do to the movie. As well, if you see something kinky, ask her if it turns her on. Get her imagination going. Remember; sexing a woman's brain is where it's at.
2006-08-22 03:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual arousal is very much custom tailored. Meaning what might arouse me and/or you may/may not arouse someone else. It's very much individual. Having said that... you might want to try this book: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0752857207/sr=1-1/qid=1156257040/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-5105987-4781622?ie=UTF8&s=books
It's called 101 nights of Grrrreat Sex. It's fun and helps "get things started".
Slainte,
-D
2006-08-22 10:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by chicagodan1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wasn't aroused when you started, you are fighting a losing battle! A kiss is a good place to start!
2006-08-22 10:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Bear Naked 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love talking dirty. We have tried all kinds of talk - everything from me telling him how great he is to acting like he's not even there. It all turns him on. I also like flashing him when he doesn't expect it. One time he was doing me doggie style and I acted like I picked up the phone and made a business call. I told the person who answered the phone I wasn't doing anything worthwhile.
2006-08-22 10:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it not better that you ask staright to your partner? Means are many, ways are many but the partner is only one and his/her tastes are also unique!!
2006-08-22 10:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dun even know u r a girl or boy...
jus hug ur partner from behind, kiss the neck,n fondle with the nipples.. n u will start from there
2006-08-22 11:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by tattoo babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get past age 13
Then grow up some more
Then come back and ask again
2006-08-22 10:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to arouse just strip in front of then lick them touch them
2006-08-22 10:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Gaby O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold there hand , look into there eyes , then say close your eyes and open your mouth. Then stick a pre laid big sloppy juicy pooh in there.
2006-08-22 10:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out with a full body massage.
2006-08-22 10:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by sapphire9580 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋