I have been with my boyf for over a decade now. When we first met, he introduced me to a lot of people, many were his exs, he was still friendly to a few - it never bothered me. But as they moved on with their lifes, We moved away and started a family ourselfs, so i presumed that he was starting to move on himself.
But today, he saw two of his exs shopping, not that i recognised them, he turned to me and pointed to them, telling did you see who that was? on the first ex he saw, i said i knew and i didnt care. He said 'look theres my other, i so hate her boyfriend'.
Baffled what he was on about! i turned around and looked 'who' i replied, then he said it was his ex. I was like 'so'? your with me now.'
He went on about her new boyfriend. I was getting angry. So i told him straight, it was the second time he had pointed one of his exs to me, 'what is it about you and your exs today, can't you get over them or something?'
He said i was being mean and should apologise
2006-08-22 03:20:46 · 26 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you were a bit snappy, but he should probably have known better than to talk about his exes and expect you to be sympathetic! Fact is though, you probs have to accept that we all still harbour feelings for people we once had relationships with...it's a fact of life!
I think you should apologise for snapping, but let him know that you're not up for indepth discussions about his ex-girlfriends
2006-08-22 03:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!! dont appologise! he was being very insenitive pointing his ex`s outlike that.... tell it to him straight.. the past is in the past he needs to move on with his and your life together!
He sounds like he maybe very insecure about himself deep down so he keeps pointing his ex`s out to try and make him feel better about himself and to try and show you hes still a catch!... Maybe you should go away on a romanic weekend and have some real open talks about your relationship that might make him realise things between you are ok... but make it very clear you wont stand for any more of his childish behaviour.... state it very clearly to him that if he carries on it will break your relationship and that might knock some sense into him! lol...
2006-08-22 03:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by meow22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure what you're upset about. Sounds like you're the jealous one. You say yourself, you're with him now, so why get upset when he happens to bump into an ex? At least he's being honest and not hiding it from you. And perhaps the new BF is a jerk and he's just being concerned for an old friend?
2006-08-22 03:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...no. He is wrong and you are right. It's been ten years! I think, the past is the past and that's where that information should remain. It's cool that he is still cordial with them but, you don't need to hear about how he hates their bf's. Who cares about that anyway. He seems to be the only one unhappy in this situation because his ex's are happy with their bf's and you seem to be content with him.
Don't apologize but don't egg him on either unless it is really bothering you because you don't want to start an argument that your not in the mood to deal with.
2006-08-22 03:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well he shouldn't be jealous because he is with you! He sounds jealous but i think you did the right thing. if your with and started a family he shouldn't care about his exes he should be like hey and bye but like do you see who that id you were right and was a little mean but he does need to get over it and just gone with his life
2006-08-22 03:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kayleen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men ,see its like toys to them they may not want to play with that toy anymore but they just hate the thought of somebody else playing with it. Sometimes you just have to get down and dirty and give it right back to them. Next time you point out some guys.They dont really have to be your x just make sure they look better than him! Hes the one that needs to apologise not you!
2006-08-22 03:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!! Your man needs to apologise!! You were right 100% with what you said and he needs to GET OVER IT!! Dont apologise because you're not in the wrong! I would of done the same thing!
2006-08-22 03:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be seeing "man, I'm glad I found you" (to you that is). He does need to get over what's going on in his ex's life... I mean, it's great that they are still friends and all, but to be at the point where he knows that much about them, he shouldn't be hanging up on what they are doing.
2006-08-22 03:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Matt B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You offended him because you cut him off from his moment of self glorification...good for you...he forgot for a moment who he was boasting to...you don't need the ex's thrown in your face, not after being put up on a pedestal...don't allow his insensitive remarks put you down from there.
2006-08-22 03:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ex's" as in women he was married to and divorced? You really shouldn't be involved with a man like that to begin with. Find yourself a winner and not a loser while you're still young enough, hopefully.
2006-08-22 03:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋