My boyfriend is driving me nuts , I have to constantly be snooping to make sure he isnt trying to play my SH*T! I wish I could turn off my knowlegde of men and their bullshit lies but I cant and I cant have a successful relationship I need help what should I do ?
2006-08-22 03:02:30 · 19 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to be snooping all the time is it really worth it? I was doing that with my ex girlfriend and then decided that it wasn't worth it. You will find someone for you that you won't need to wonder about what he is doing.
2006-08-22 03:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by minenameisjoe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What kinda man did you get that thinks he is better than you is the first thing I want to know. Last I checked when I often seemed at my weakest my women that I were with picked me up, granted they sent me crashing to the ground like a shot down airplane later but they supported me at times when no one else would. If you are sneaking around trying to catch him in the act of cheating that means he has cast some doubt in your heart that makes you feel this is the best route to take. Honestly, dear lady, if he is stressing you out this much I can honestly tell you it will not get any better, that doubt will linger with you until it destroys your realtionship. Tell him you think he is not being honest with you and that unless he can start letting you know what is really going on or you will just have to go find someone that will not deny you the security you need in a relationship. He will either open up and tell you the truth or be a A** and tell you to leave. If he choses the later then he was not meant for you anyway.
2006-08-22 10:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sadly you are right ,you never will have a lasting relationshop until you stop judging every man the same. Im agine yourself with a man that judged you based on some cheating slut he had before you? wouldnt it piss you off. Keep in mind men love the chase and many times after they catch you they get bored and want to go on to the next chase. now stop that darn snooping if you dont trust the guy it will never work! You cant stop a man thats gonna cheat no matter how hard you try.but you can sure drive one away acting the way your acting.
2006-08-22 10:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't trust this guy then I think you should break things off. Trust is everything in a relationship, and when one partner doesn't have trust in the other, it's not a healthy relationship. If you think he is cheating on you, you are probably right. God gave us the gut instinct for a reason, you should listen to yours. Ask yourself has this guy ever given you a reason to not trust him. If can't come up with anything then let the guy go! Just don't be attached for awhile, it sounds like you don't know what makes you happy in a relationship. Therefore you keep dragging yourself through these guys that don't make you happy. Just be by yourself for a while and get to know who you are without anybody! You deserve to do that for yourself!
2006-08-22 10:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men do that because once you give in they know that they have your heart! Dont take their sh*t and put him into place!
I say that you should dump this bugger that is full of sh*t and lies and next time dont go into a relationship with your heart! Use your head and once you see the mans true person then decide whether that guy is worth your heart... or your head. Never go into a relationship with your eyes closed! Always show a man that you are strong headed and he wont dare to mess with you!
Good luck!
2006-08-22 10:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go ahead and break it off with this guy, move on and be yourself and when you meet another then make no judgements until he gives you a reason too, You are bitter and I am sure it is for good reason, but not every guy is the same, otherwise no one would stay together! Good luck.
2006-08-22 10:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about them as bullshit...
And if your boyfriend is driving you nuts...get out of his life... why should you sacrifice. yourself.... better be alone and someday... some good guy not nuts will come your way...
I see you are not happy with yourself anyway...
Be happy with yourself first...
Forget about men... they will come to you at the right time at the right place...
Love comes from the most unexpcted places... believe me... believe you me....hehhehhehe Good Luck...
2006-08-22 10:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WTF!!! WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH SOME OF YOU WOMEN ON HERE? I DO NOT SEE WHY YOU ARE TRYING TO PUT ALL MEN IN A F*CKING STEREOTYPE!!! NOT ALL MEN ARE IDIOTS, NOT ALL MEN ARE PIGS, NOT ALL MEN CHEAT...THE LIST GOES ON AND ON...
you know I am so sorry that some of you have met some men that were scum...but that was them...You know I have met some f*cking B*TCHES but I do not go around saying ALL women are...
2006-08-22 10:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're with the wrong man. My man doesn't act like he's God's gift to anything. He cherishes me and his daughter and treats us both like queens.
My advice - Put him in his place and if he continues, find another man.
2006-08-22 10:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u need some help.... not from here, maybe its an issue from when u were a child like ur dad wants around or something....good luck
2006-08-22 10:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋