I am a Christian woman seeking practical advice on the traits I should be looking at for my choice of husband. I also really want to please God by the kind of wife I will be. Please give me practical advice.
2006-08-22 03:00:03 · 12 answers · asked by JB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is definitely the wrong place to ask this question.
Don't you have strong women in your church that can keep you accountable in your decisions?
2006-08-22 03:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look for a man of character with values and morals to be a wonderful husband and father. Look for a man that takes marriage seriously. The only way you are going to please God is by making yourself happy first. You are not here to cater to a man and forget about your needs. Be an independent woman with her own identity her own goals her own wants and needs. When you bring children into this world make sure you that you marry a man that puts value in the fact that you are a mother and that realizes that the children come first. Your career doesn't come first! Marry a man that takes provide in the fact that he can secure your financial stability so you can stay home for several years while your children are small. Do not marry a man that places your value on a paycheck. Marry a man that doesn't think it is ok to put a child in daycare for the first 3 years of his or her life. Marry a man that thinks you are the creme of the crop and there is nothing he wouldn't do for you. If you don't agree on the smallest issue (before marriage) don't get married.
Religion, finances, and how you will raise children, and if you will work or not are very important issues. Don't sugar coat them and don't ignore them. Issues don't disappear after the wedding they get worse.
2006-08-22 03:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Practical advice would be to tell you that god does not exist and resides in all of us.
Helpful advice would be to suggest that you look for a person who has similar likes and dislikes. I would first talk with your church leader as they might know some single men in the congregation who are looking for wives.
My ultimate suggestion would be to never settle. I come from a very religious Jewish family (I am not religious) and a lot of the women allow themselves to be dealt with in a very dissrepectful manner. Not saying it's going to happen to you but hey, just be careful.
The first link I left you is for a Y! search on "chrisitan dating" You could probably find a few good sites there.
The second link is an actual site and I hope you, and everyone else, will look at it with an open mind.
Best of luck.
2006-08-22 03:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being of the Christian faith, you know that you want a husband that is of the same faith as you and you want your values and beliefs to be on the same wavelength as well. You read Ephesians Chapter 6---the entire Chapter and this is God's message to our children, husbands, and wives. If your Bible has a commentary or concordance
Look under the word marriage and read all scripture passeages in this and you will find that God wants us to be the kind of wife that will take on the heart of Christ and yield to our husband as Christ yielded his life for us. If you know in your heart the man that you choose to be your husband is a Christian and is a true man of God, then you have nothing to be worried about. You need to pray about this and ask god for guidance as you are trying to choose the man that he would want you to spend your life with. Good Luck God Bless and Remember that with God all things are possible and read the 10 Commandments as well. None of us want to do the things that we have been commanded not to do.
2006-08-22 03:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me the most important aspect is that a husband also has a heart for God and know what his purpose in life is. You'll know when you meet him.
For you, if you honour God with your life and live in close relationship with him, you will be the best kind of wife that you can possibly be....youself (together with God).
Relationships and especially marriage is all about growing & changing together. If you ensure that the foudation is right, the rest will fall in place.
2006-08-22 03:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Issabella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The trait you should be looking for is someone who has your interest in life, this way it leaves out alot of change you or future hubby has to go through. It will make marriage so much easier. Good luck.
2006-08-22 04:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, i my self am a Christian and you need to find a mentor - older woman in your church .. God will send him to you when the time is right, rember you will not have if you don;t ask! Just dont get your self looking in all the worng places or wanting this so bad you forget your christian side! I have seen this happen.. God will give us all we need in our lifes we just need faith! As far as pleaseing God stay strong with in and never leave God and serve him the best way you can and you will please him! I will keep you in my prayers....... Trust me pray works I have found my soulmate.
2006-08-22 03:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Gracie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A husband that you can be with forever and ever. Look for someone that has the same values and morals as yourself. Someone who will love you despite your flaws. Someone who will support you in everything you do. Someone who will be willing to take care of you.
You should be a wife that has his interests at heart. Be a loving, caring, thoughtful and respectful wife. Take care of him and cook and clean.
2006-08-22 03:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by sapphire9580 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well,about the husband you have to decide what kinda of a person you want to spend the rest of your life with....about being a good wife,basically you gotta be matured and rest will all follow,trust me!!good luck!!
2006-08-22 03:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should find someone who shares the same values as you and you should be a loving, caring wife who stands by her husband no matter what.
2006-08-22 03:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋