Okay, this is a bit of a "sensitive" subject I suppose, but here it goes: Basically, it hurts my girlfriend to have sex because it's too small down there. Now, outside of turning into a eunuch, anyone have any ideas on how to solve this problem, or at least make it more bearable?
2006-08-22 02:53:52 · 28 answers · asked by JudasHero 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I've definitely considered lube, so thanks for the reminder.
I've done foreplay for like weeks straight and that doesn't seem to be helping (though it's better than not doing it at all, I admit).
2006-08-22 03:37:14 · update #1
Incidentally, I'm not that huge, so I don't think that's the problem.
2006-08-22 03:39:59 · update #2
She's 23 and she's had some partners before.
2006-08-22 03:42:24 · update #3
Do you mena your penis is too big for her? Here it is in easy terms. The vagina is a muscle--it can push out a human being. The possibility that you are too big is very slim. ( no pun intended) The key is to use lots of water based lube and go slow. She also needs to relax. The more tense she is the more it will hurt. Also let her get on top and let her control the pace and penetration. If you do these few things it will get easier over time. If it does not improve she may have another problem and need to go see an OB/GYN. Pain during sex that cannot be eliveated can be a sign of endometriosis, cervical cancer, and or tumors. Just try the others things first. Good luck
2006-08-22 03:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by yummymummy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are large, some are small. In your case, the two of you are different "down there." It's a physical incompatibility. Ultimately, you may end up in a relationship with someone else more compatible. But for now, go easy on the "rough sex." Try using lubrication. Try enjoying sex without full entry. With some positions, like girl on top not facing you, she gets to control how deep you go.
2006-08-22 03:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with lots of foreplay, the more turned on she gets, the more she'll loosen up. Before you get to sex, you should have an idea of whether she can handle it by how many fingers she can take. Once you get to sex, lube is a good idea. Oral sex is good too, if she can't handle you just yet. *It may be fear that causes her to tighten up when it's time for intercourse. has she had sex before? how old is she?
2006-08-22 03:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by when's my next vacation??? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest she masturbates, maybe with your help, before you insert yourself, or just have times where that is what you do, don't make the goal intercourse but instead an orgasam by other means, work up to great intercourse, it doesn't just happen always. Communicate with each other.
How big are you? Keep in mind you can't fit a watermelon in a grape skin, no matter how hard you try.
I think you will be fine if you work at it...together.
2006-08-22 03:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by nicole3208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, u need to go see a doctor about it, yes, I read an article in Mens Health last month or so, many females think its just a tight squeeze they open up to, but some might need surgery to open up a bit, dont b escared of anything, ask your GP or gyno, they'd give u good and sound advice that would be void of complications.
2006-08-22 03:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by t_faj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see here...not really. Ok...now getting to your Q...
If it hurts her so much...then well she is petite...not your problem or her's. So if you can use lubricant to...if that is also the case. If it has to do with her body not producing enough of its own lubricant. So she isn't getting wet enough for you, so obviously she is getting dry from the inside...and outside. Have her or you buy lubricant...and put it on her ______. Inside and out. Help her if you can. Ok. This is all the more i can tell you.
2006-08-22 03:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find out why it hurts. You may be going to hard, or fast, sometimes it helps to go slowly and of course lube always a help. They also have the warming lube. Hope this helps.
2006-08-22 03:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More foreplay mate. Couple of, er, toys. Slow down, like. They're made for babies (in a way), it just takes time to warm the engine.
2006-08-22 03:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by corpuscollossus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me with one of my ex's...
He never really tried to fix it because he didn't give a sh*t but I think you should try using lube or extending foreplay, do it slowly so she can stretch to accommodate you, or let her take the reigns so she can do what feels good to her.
2006-08-22 02:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 13:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋