we're both sick of sneaking around like this, we're thinking of MAYBE coming clean about it. any ideas?
(ps: no judgements please, i don't feel like being preached to)
2006-08-22 02:41:25 · 20 answers · asked by carla here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you're a girl, you also have the added burden of letting them know you're a lesbian (or at the very least, bi).
Parents are best approached with one ordeal at a time. First let them know you're bi/les/whatever and let them get used to that idea first. Give them some time with that one before you go in with the step-sister 'kill'.
And when you're ready to tell them, *both* of you should just sit down and tell them straight out.
2006-08-22 02:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ever ever ever so carefully. Per your request I will do no preaching but before telling your parents I would seriously consider their likely response and prepare yourself for some SERIOUS preaching. If you can handle that, then tell. But you've got to be ready for a fairly negative response.
Then again, maybe you have very cool parents. Even then they are going to at least bring up the fact that if the two of you should split up it will very likely cause some degree of familial tension.
2006-08-22 02:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh...Very sticky subject. Depends how old u are. Are u out of the house? If your out of the house then I would tell them.If your not then u better hold off untill u do move out or u might be kicked out. You both need to sit down with the parents and tell them exactly how u feel about each other and hope for the best. Good luck.
2006-08-22 02:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Do you all live together? Do your parents know that either of you are lesbian? Do you REALLY need to tell them? Understand that this may cause them a great deal of pain. What will you gain by telling them? What will you lose? If you decide to tell them, please come back on here and report the results. I just can't imagine the conversation.
"Mom, Dad, I have something to tell you. I'm gay."
"Yes I'm sure."
"I'm in love with my step-sister"
"Oh, I forgot to mention she's gay too"
"Well looK on the bright side you wont have to buy Christmas presents for any grandchildren. Of course you'll have to pay for the entire wedding."
"Mom? Are you ok? Dad I don't think she's breathing!"
2006-08-22 03:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is so hot and wrong I dont know what to say. Well you should know your parents, how do you think they will react? Judge your decision on your parents lifestyle and how open they are, this will be a very big surprise for them Im sure. I would wait and keep sneaking around, it will make it more exciting and give you more time to choose.
2006-08-22 02:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Later Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any real experience in this area but I suggest that if you are serious about each other, you just come out and tell them honestly. If you sugar-coat it or keep hiding, you'll feel miserable. How does SHE feel about telling the parents? And are you 'dating' or just having fun? If this is just fun, then maybe not tell them. You do realize that your family unit will never be the same after this, even if you two decide not to continue dating......all things to think about.
2006-08-22 02:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by jdavis4_17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats a hard thing to deal with, because you do live together in the same house, and her mom is your step mom, so thats alittle hard to dea lwith on telling them about it.
Truthfully, jsut sit down with them and explain to them that technicly she is not my real sister no were near it, and we love each other and want to be together, and we will go by your rules in this dating thing, but we do want to see each other if we can.
jsut be honest
2006-08-22 02:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW .this is a good one well u'll both have to sit Ur parents down and talk with them . if u can do what Ur doing then have the gut's to face Ur parent's but please talk this out with Ur step sister make sure it's what u both want before u say anything to them,good luck.
2006-08-22 02:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by bgreneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. They probably don't even know the both of you are gay, aside from the fact that you're dating your "sister". Wow. That's one for the books.
Good luck to you cuz the s h i t will hit the fan. There's no way around it. : )
2006-08-22 02:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not like my son living with his girlfriend, whoever she is, in MY household. That said. I work with a woman married to her step-brother, and really, noone cares. Though, her parents were much older when they got married, and she wasn't raised in the same household.
2006-08-22 03:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by t79a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋