Has anyone on here every dealt with low self-esteem?

Question

if so, how do you get rid of it and how do you find confidence in yourself?

Answer 1

Most people have at some point in their lives experienced low self esteem. For the most part it is very normal. There are several suggestions I can give on how to boost your self esteem.

1) Set a series of small, reasonable goals for yourself. Good goals include ones where you can see a finished product. Learning to cook a new recipe, finishing a puzzle, or building a model car are good examples. Be sure to choose something realistic that you can acomplish in a short amount of time. When you have a complished it, take time to look at what you've done and give yourself some positive feedback. Even if it's not perfect and there is room for improvement, be proud that you did something new.

2) Don't dwell on negative things. If you find yourself thinking about things that are "bad" or "wrong" about yourself or something you have done, don't linger on these thoughs. Try to spend some time thinking about more positive aspects of yourself.

There are many other things that can help you out. There are probably alot of books out there that can give you tips. There is one bit of advise I can give you that is very important:

We're talking about SELF esteem. This is how YOU feel about YOU and should not be based on what others say or think of you. Good self esteem comes from within yourself. No matter who you are or what you do, people will always say negative things about you. You have to choose in what way you will let those thigns affect you. The only person that can ultimately raise your self-esteem is you!

Good luck!

Answer 2

I have not only dealt with low self-esteem...I have also conquered it. The best book I read on the issue was Maximum Self-Esteem by Jerry Minchinton...please run out and get a copy. A great website to check out is Worry Busters at http://www.wayneburke.com
Believe in yourself and others will believe in you! Good Luck.

Answer 3

Sometimes my self-esteem is so low that I feel that I don't even deserve self-esteem. :-(

This is something that I'm constantly working on. If I knew how to succeed, I would be glad to share it with everyone. While I don't have a cure, there are a few things that I know cognitively but perhaps not so much emotionally.

* Mistakes happen. You can't unbreak dropped eggs, but most mistakes are smaller than your mind makes them out to be. Learn from them, as that's all one can do after the clean-up is finished.

* Human beings are all imperfect. This includes you. The divine are of forgiveness most applies to forgiving yourself.

* Emotions are the mind's way of dealing with new stimuli. There is nothing wrong with having them as long as you can deal with them. Dealing with them is not as hard as you think.

* Being in an environment where you are being put down is dangerous for your emotional health. The lesson to learn is that you need not stay in that environment. Sometimes it is as simple as saying no to someone, even a loved one. Saying no is not a bad action.

* What you are is what you think. Think negatively of yourself, and a feedback circle will be formed creating perpetual low self-worth. Thinking positively of yourself also forms a feedback circle, where one can be at peace with oneself.

* Being selfish is not a vice. Sometimes it is the only way to survive. It's being selfish at another's expense that is wrong, but that rarely happens if you have respect for others. Similarly, others being selfish at your expense is also wrong, so respect yourself to keep that from happening.

Sorry if I rambled on for a bit. I guess this was a bit of self-therapy. That's what you can do to rid yourself of low self-esteem. :-)

I wish you well.

Answer 4

I had low self esteem as a young person. My first husband told me I was stupid all the time, etc. People said I was ugly, etc. I realized they don't know what they are talking about and are unhappy, miserable people who want everyone to be as miserable as they are. I went to college and made straight As, so I'm not stupid am I? I became a very popular woman and was known as beautiful by a lot of people and even did a little modeling, so I wasn't ugly was I?

Also, read this book it might help---

Living with Joy by Sanaya Roman

Answer 5

Yes I had recently but counselling and a deep positive look into yourself without pressure from anybody , gave me the right truck to get my confidence back.

Answer 6

There are alot of good answers already,, there are a ton of great books too.

The best help for me was to get involved in something I cared about and something I knew I was good at. the more goals you achive the better you feel about yourselve.

Good luck

Answer 7

I can't explain you how to get rid of such a feeling but if you found first, tell me so. Cheers

Answer 8

change how you talk to yourself daily. start positive and loving affirmation before you sleep and when you wake up.

do what you love as a hobby. ie. dance, sing, draw, write, etc.

exercise