ok im 5 months pregnant and my fiance left to go to the marine bootcamp i miss him and i need him here with me cause i need his support .
what should i do?
does it sound like im being selfish about it.
if you could help i'd appreciate it
2006-08-22 02:19:51 · 18 answers · asked by spongebrat_sexychick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow!!! your situation is quite tough :) It's perfectly natural for you to miss him, especially you're carrying his child. However, what you need right now is his support, yet he can't be there for you, therefore, i would suggest an altenative seeking for family support. Meanwhile, keep in contact with him by phone calls, letters...etc Good luck with the baby and your situation.
2006-08-22 02:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by khanh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always miss the ones that we love the most. It weighs heavy on us. We tend to check the phone messages a lot more just to see if they called. And being pregnant makes it ten times worse. Mosta the time your emotions are so far up one day and so far down the next. I'm not speaking from experience but i was 12 when my mom got pregnant with my sister. I did the whole rubbing the feet thing. I watched her go through hell because the guy was ...well woulda been better off if he was entirely never a part of her life. But i can't complain. I always wanted a sister. Just came a little fate. Funny how life tosses you a curve ball sometimes.
Hunny just breathe. Alright? Thats the first step. I'm sure he'll do fine. You're not being selfish to wanna be with your man. I'm betting he misses you just as much as you miss him.
But sometimes we have to let the ones we love do what they feel they need too. Even if its bad timing. I suggest write him a letter. Have a nice cup of tea and some scones and watch Montel.
You can have someones support even when they're not right there with you.
it would be bad to pull him outta bootcamp just because you miss him because he feels this is something he really needs ta do. And you dont wanna take that away from him do you?
Then he'd have something to hold against you and thats never good for a relationship.
Just call up a good girlfriend and ask her over and toss popcorn at the tv screen and ***** about how horrid men are. Your guy will forgive you..he loves you. :)
2006-08-22 02:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming this is your first baby? if so, that alone has to be a bit stressful. You said your bf is in basic training. I was in the military and have 2 kids in right now (coast guard). He would have to have a major event like his parent died for them to let him out of basic. They are not going to let him out because you need his support, sorry... He could screw up in basic really bad and they could kick him out, but then how will that look when he goes to get a job? You have some options. You can get tough, and know he will be done soon. If you get married when he goes on leave, you should be able to go with him to where he is stationed. If its not Iraq! Do you not have family? If not, when you go to your ob/gyn for your prenatal stuff, ask the doctor/nurses if there are support groups for pregnant women in your area. I am sure there is some form of that. You aren't being selfish, this is a very life changing thing you are going through,and I'm sure your lonely. Try looking into support groups before getting him to do something he will regret, and then he will resent you for it later. best of luck to you!
2006-08-22 02:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality is that your fiance cannot just leave bootcamp like he would leave a movie. That means you will have to find some other people to support you during your pregnancy...which is VERY important. Perhaps you could find some family to connect with or maybe try finding a local church and explaining your needs to them. If they are a good church, they will help you in your time of need.
2006-08-22 02:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being selfish.
Every mother needs a support(specially the father) to be with her during this period.....thats very normal......
But if he doesnt go to earn money then how will you raise your kid...... he has to do it.....
The current sadness will be overwhelmed the happiness on your child's birth.......cant you take a little sadness for a whole lot of happiness thats coming your way....
So hold on.....its hard for your fiance too.... i'm sure he misses you too...
Be brave now...... I always believe that women are mentally tougher than men and men are physically tougher than women.....in this way god neutralizes the weakness and strength.
Good Luck
2006-08-22 02:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Moy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not being selfish. pregnancy is a very emotional time and i totally understand wanting to be with the person you love but as hard as it might be you'll have to accept that he won't be back for a while and there's really nothing that can be done. try to get involved in other activities to occupy your mind so you won't think about it, read up on pregnancy or see if there's support groups for military spouces/significant others i'm sure you'll find something you like
2006-08-22 02:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being selfish.you are going through a tough period of your lifeand, ideally he should be there, if it was planned this way by him then he has his priorities all wrong, if it just a coincidence then it seems you will have to support him aswell as his task is not to be thought light of. were are your family in your time of need or even his family i know this should not be the answer but it could be a way of getting support until he is on leave. hope things get easier good luck
2006-08-22 02:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by spunkster12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's off serving his country, trying to make a living to support you and the baby. Yes you're being a bit selfish. You can get his support through letters and phone calls, let him do what he needs to.
2006-08-22 02:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i say your a bit selfish but it's normal with a pregnant women to feel different about different things it's your hormones just relax and if u need help call your mother or a close friend
2006-08-22 02:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by vampgirl_00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is in boot camp he is now the property of the united states military there is nothing he can do to be with you at this time. I know its hard to be left alone and i have no doubt he misses you terribly. its a learning experience surround yourself with good friends. and good luck
2006-08-22 02:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋