plz say...what will my parents think if i tell them tat iam in love with her??
2006-08-22 02:09:07 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
actually, it is diffrent from state to state AND it is a myth that marry a cousin, your children will have problems. If there is a long history of this in your family, then yeah,you may have a problem but your question makes me feel that 1) this isn't the case and 2) you are prob. just making a stink and trying to get attention
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2006-08-22 02:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Genetically, scientists said that the risks of birth defects is only about 3-4% or 7% at most. So, just go for it! Only 24 states in the US have laws forbidding first cousins from marrying. They should abolish the laws. Hey, you can always research states where you can marry her, can't you?
2006-08-22 02:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by Capricious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Legally, it depends on where you live, and even if it's illegal to get married, you can still live together without being married. Does she know you're in love with her? Does she feel the same way? Also, don't get discouraged by the crap some people say on here. I understand your situation because I have two experiences of being in love with my cousins. My first cousin (my mom's sister's son) and I were in love. He's two years older than I. I really think it's bad the way America taboos being in love with and marrying your cousins. He was with the majority of people that think it's sick. I don't have a problem with it, unless you're siblings or something, but that's just my opinion. He's not in love with me anymore, for two reasons "One, we're related, two, I have a girlfriend." It was a very painful rejection for me, but I got over it. The other experience was with his older brother, who's nine years older than I am. With him, it was very different, because he was already married before I fell in love with him, so I didn't bother telling him. That was also pretty painful, but not as bad as the first one. I got over that too. Anywho, about your parents, I don't know how they would react because I don't know them. We had that problem too, and we just decided to keep it between us. We had no intention of marriage or moving out, so there was no need, and he rejected me anyhow. If she already knows you have feelings for her, then I would ask her about how she feels about you telling them, and maybe say something like, "____ and I are in love and we want to get married." If she doesn't know and you just want to tell them, I would suggest, "Mom, Dad, I'm in love with ____." Don't beat around the bush; just spit it out. It makes it so much easier. Good luck and I hope this helps! ♥
2006-08-25 13:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Angie B. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am guessing that you used "my dad's sister's daughter" to get around saying the word cousin,whom in fact she is. And I couldn't tell you what your family would think because I don't know them;some families can except it others cant.
2006-08-22 02:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by meeko6811 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Asuming that your dad's sister's (your aunt) daughter (your first cousin) is blood related then it's illegal for you two to marry, or have any sexual relations. It's called incest.
If your dad, your aunt, or your cousin was adopted, then it's not illegal, but it still would probably be wierd if you decide to tell your parents how you feel.
If I were you, I'd forget about her and get on with your life. Find a less unsuitable girl to bring home to Mom and Dad.
2006-08-22 02:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
-_- No it is not ok. Even if you love her with all your soul, most people are going to look at it as 'you marryed your cousin'. I can garantied thats some of your friends won't except it and won't do as much with you, simply because of her. I hate to admit it but love has its limits. I think the best thing to do would be to step away and try to move on.
2006-08-22 02:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well that would be your cousin but if she is not a blood cousin that would be alright like if your dads sister was a step sister or mayb a half sister but if you guys are really realted that wouldnt be a great idea!! there are many fish in the sea
i hope i helped
and i hope everything works out!
2006-08-22 04:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by baileyheartsu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It's morally wrong. I'm sure your parents would'nt approve either. There have been cases of 2nd and 3rd cousins marrying, but not 1st. Basically because it's incest.
2006-08-22 02:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by H.L.A. 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can, (that is if your law in your allows it), but if you do, the chances when you have babies, one of them might turn out with downsendrome (not sure about the spelling). It is not a definite but it all has to do with the group of blood you are in and genes. I wouldn't recommend it.
2006-08-22 02:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by poepies 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who cares what they say? Technically, you probably can't marry her, she's your first cousin. If she were your mom's brother's daughter, then it would be legal. Don't ask me why, but she would be your cross-gender first cousin (twice removed), which is legally acceptable. It's confusing.
2006-08-22 02:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by brainzrgood4u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋